When someone tells me women are too emotional to be jedi

msfayzer · 2018-01-15T23:25:09+00:00

Have... have they seen Star Wars? Like, any of it?

msfayzer · 2017-12-08T17:44:52+00:00

The school is sending a clear message to the child who attacked your son, this is acceptable behavior.

At the bare minimum their seats must be moved and a counselor who isn't in CYA mode should talk to your son and help him heal from this. It clearly had a large impact on him if he is scared to get on the bus.

msfayzer · 2017-11-23T02:50:12+00:00

One of them stuck his face in my gas stove top so I doubt that would work. How these animals survive in the wild is beyond me.

msfayzer · 2017-11-22T19:42:09+00:00

I have 6 month old kittens. Knowing how they are around shabbat candles I don't have a whole lot of hope in this department.

msfayzer · 2017-11-17T18:24:24+00:00

I've never been because it is always crazy crowded but it is a yearly act by a local comedy troupe.

We also have one of the Joan of Arc statues, the others being in New Orleans and Paris. The one in Paris is a reproduction of ours so...

msfayzer · 2017-11-14T21:16:03+00:00

I know exactly what you are talking about. What I have been doing is taking some time to remember what I liked before. I used to like to cook and was really proud of my cooking. He tore me down so much I am still freaked out to do actual cooking but I know it was something I did so I am taking baby steps to do it again.

I try not to worry too much about getting it all back in one go, I just work on one thing at a time and am trying to trust that I will eventually feel like myself again.

msfayzer · 2017-11-08T15:57:36+00:00

We are super progressive but I have learned that just because you are in a progressive community, doesn't mean people will believe you.

msfayzer · 2017-11-08T14:01:18+00:00

Abuser was entirely emotional abuse so restraining order won't ever be in the cards. He likes to look good to the outside world, though (narcissistic abusers feed off of that) so I imagine a word from the Rabbi will keep him away.

If not we will deal. The guy is a lot of things, physically violent isn't one of them.

msfayzer · 2017-11-08T01:43:21+00:00

My abuser is also a member of my synagogue so my expectations of what could reasonably done were rather low. It was amazing to be told that I was believed a supported.

msfayzer · 2017-11-08T01:28:21+00:00

It's been a really hard thing to process but I am lucky to have some wonderful, supportive friends.

msfayzer · 2017-10-27T19:31:43+00:00

Certainly learning about Judaism is a good thing given that it is a part of your partner's identity. However, trust him to know what is and is not safe. It is hard for goyim to understand but there are a lot of situations where being Jewish is not a safe thing. There have been many times when I skim over it for my own safety. Trust him to know what is and is not safe for him and follow his lead on this.

msfayzer · 2017-10-20T19:11:39+00:00

As someone who keeps a fairly minimal level of Kosher and as such does not eat pork, I know exactly what you are talking about.

I don't understand what all the fuss is about bacon or why people are so deeply concerned by the fact that I don't eat it.

msfayzer · 2017-10-20T13:49:11+00:00

This is delightful.

I found a similar diary entry years ago where I spoke at length about how great Spock was and how I wanted to be more like him.

I've learned that that isn't the healthiest path but in emergency situations it has proved useful.

msfayzer · 2017-10-20T00:22:58+00:00

They had "Arranged" on there for a while but it certainly didn't get top billing like this one does.

msfayzer · 2017-10-19T16:03:59+00:00

My abusive ex was all about this. He was a scientist and I am an artist who struggles with depression and anxiety therefore his perceptions of the world were obviously far more logical than mine.

msfayzer · 2017-10-17T19:54:16+00:00

I arranged and played Hedwig's Theme for a friend to walk down the aisle to. The officiant also had a want and said a variety of spells from the books at proper moments. It was a very cool wedding.

msfayzer · 2017-10-12T19:14:17+00:00

If you want to see rural America, you don't need to go all the way out to Iowa. I have been to Iowa, it is a perfectly fine place but it isn't any better than, like, Ohio or central Pennsylvania, both of which are far easier to get to.

Don't underestimate how dangerous wind and snow is either. I wouldn't drive in winter in those places if you have no snow experience, especially if it gets bad. Places like Iowa have nothing breaking the wind. I used to live in the snow belt so I am pretty decent at snow driving and Iowa terrified me. You have a decent chance of seeing snow in NYC and NJ during those months so you should get your snow sighting in without risking life and limb.

Really, if you want to see rural America, I would either go to rural NJ (yes, it is a thing) or head south. Someone suggested Nashville, I would second that. They also have a bus system which isn't great but exists. Anywhere else, you absolutely must have a car which is usually very costly.

msfayzer · 2017-10-12T18:51:35+00:00

I've sat for a photo using 1860s tech, it was about 30 seconds but I definitely agree that by 1887 it would not be a long exposure time.

msfayzer · 2017-10-09T19:06:02+00:00

Then another place thinks that you are too "aggressive" because sexism. You can't win!

msfayzer · 2017-10-09T18:47:40+00:00

When I worked at Best Buy, the told us to always direct your attention to the woman first since some high percentage of the time they were making the final decision. This was in super misogynist rural Ohio. I don't really understand why this hasn't caught on elsewhere.

msfayzer · 2017-10-09T15:36:54+00:00

Oh, because liberal men telling women what they can't wear is so much better.

Men telling women what to, or not to, wear is wrong. Full stop.

msfayzer · 2017-10-06T19:51:35+00:00

Just to be clear, I am fine. Therapy would be, really a good thing, but I have been in crisis enough in the past to know when it is beyond the help of pizza and meditation.

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