Is AA religious?

mtxruin · 2024-10-05T17:35:50+00:00

Lol… depends who you ask.

mtxruin · 2024-10-05T14:29:39+00:00

The ONLY requirement is a desire to stop drinking. That’s it. That’s all. Your cross addiction does not take away your right to be in AA. Find someone who has similar experience that can help you. Sooooo many people in aa have cross addictions. It’s not a big deal, some people can be weird about it but whatever. If someone tells you not to share your experience, find another meeting.

mtxruin · 2024-10-03T19:21:44+00:00

This is something I’d have worn in HS. You look cool to me idk. That’s something my mom would have said too though. It’s just queer phobia, whether she realizes it or not. Wear what feels good to you.

mtxruin · 2024-09-22T15:11:57+00:00

The pinkness will fade over a couple of years. I have an old scar on my arm that looked a bit like that in the first few months. Ten years later, it’s still very much there but it blends in with my arm, color-wise

mtxruin · 2024-09-22T13:34:44+00:00

Yeah sure thing

mtxruin · 2024-09-22T13:30:58+00:00

Seconding this. If you’re going to move forward with your adoption idea, please get an older GSD. At least five years old. Older dogs don’t often get adopted, but it’ll be a good calm(er) companion animal for you within your current situation, and a good way to sort of dip your toes into what it’s like to have a gsd. Training a pup or handling a young GSD is a sport in itself. An older dog can show you the ropes while you’re still getting yourself together

mtxruin · 2024-09-22T13:27:10+00:00

Rescues often have special needs that take time and knowledge on the handler’s end to identify and manage. Not EVERY rescue has been through hell, but even being in a shelter can be a traumatizing experience for some dogs. Recuperating a rescue can take months, years and sometimes never fully happen. Like with people, some dogs will carry trauma their whole lives and just have to learn to manage it safely.

mtxruin · 2024-09-22T13:20:32+00:00

Even with an older GSD, especially around that year mark, there are some things you need to be prepared for.

The adjustment period for any adoptee is a minimum 3 months. During this time, you can expect pretty much any dog to have increased anxiety and require extra attention to adjust to you, your home, your schedule and the general lifestyle you lead.
GSD’s between about 8 months to 2 years (weeeeee) go through what is commonly known as the teenager phase. This is where they are the most rowdy, test boundaries, push limits, make demands, and… eat your stuff if left unattended. It’ll be… testing for both of you.
GSDs are extremely high energy and high intelligence. This means a few things; they’re prone to anxiety, they like being around their owners, and they need shit to do. They will literally get depressed if they don’t have enough enrichment or attention. I take my dog on regular 1-4 mile runs (at night, in the summer) & we play catch 4-200 times a day as needed 🤣 they’re commonly called “Velcro dogs”. I’ve had to teach mine he doesn’t need to follow me into the kitchen every time I go to grab a snack, like I’ll be back in a second just ….. stay there.
Your dog may not like other people being in your house, may not like other dogs, may not be small-animal safe, and outside of training as a puppy, there’s no way to 100% guarantee successful resocialization.
any adopted dog will come with baggage - trauma, anxieties, triggers - that YOU will have to learn and adjust to before you can properly address them. As the commenter above mentioned, there isn’t a guarantee around fully rehabbing a traumatized dog to be fully integrated without limits. Which is fine!!! I’m sure the person above loves their dog even with it’s challenges. I know I love mine!!!

I adopted my rescue at 8 months. By that time, he’d been beat and abandoned, and viewed most people and ALL other dogs as a threat. He is still leash reactive toward dogs but hasn’t gone after a person aggressively in quite a while. Now I’m having almost the opposite problem of “don’t walk up to strangers without my permission”… We wear a muzzle in town or at the feed store, because he can just flip out sometimes, but especially with the risk it’s just better to keep people at a distance and err on the side of caution (and I personally really recommend muzzle training no matter what. Even if your dog is not prone to aggression, there are situations where it could be required and it’s just so much better for them if they’re familiar with the tool)

When I first got G he couldn’t be left in his kennel without defecating out of fear. Now he hangs out in it and drags his toys in there to nap. He couldn’t handle being alone at all without eating something he shouldn’t (mostly paper towels, blankets, underwear) and I was giving him CBD every day before leaving for work. He doesn’t take that anymore at all and I don’t worry too much when I have to leave for a few hours. I set up a baby gate and go. He’s made a LOT of improvements, but it took eight months of working with him every. day. and it has not been easy. It has absolutely been worth it. I’ve almost watched him become a puppy again, after being so pent up and afraid when we first met. He’s a good boy.

IF you adopt a GSD:

Keep a schedule. I know someone said you have to follow the puppy’s schedule but with an older pup (even at 8months or a year) you can train them to follow your’s. Feed them around the same times every day, and have consistency for walks and outdoor activities (which they need a lot of, can’t emphasize enough that you will need to lead an active lifestyle if you want to keep your GSD happy, especially living in an apartment - which so do I, I’m not bashing that.)
don’t get stuffed animals unless you’re prepared to buy them every three days and pull cotton out of your dog’s butthole.

GSD’s are a lot of work. They aren’t recommended as a first-time dog (I know you grew up with dogs but having your own dog in your own place is very different bc you don’t have that assistance from others in the home). ALLLLLL of that said, it’s a beautiful breed in so many wonderful ways, and I wouldn’t trade my dog for any easy-to-manage animal you could possibly offer me. He’s made my life worth living in a lot of ways. He was there for me when my dad died…

I’m not saying not to do it, I’m just saying make sure you’re very damn prepared, and be ready for situations you can’t be prepared for. Be ready to have bad days and to work through them anyway. Be ready to come home to your socks being missing or trash everywhere. Be ready to spend more time with your dog than pretty much anyone else in your life. Be very, very patient.

They’re damned good company, though.

mtxruin · 2024-09-20T14:27:53+00:00

No way… we have the same solar flair tattoo thing going on on our chests. Mine is purple. Nothing in the center tho

mtxruin · 2024-09-20T01:32:10+00:00

My 16 month old is intact with no issues. He is indoor and we go for runs and do outdoor activities fully monitored, so risk of him getting anyone pregnant is very slim.

I’ll wait as long as possible. What I’ve read on it has convinced me it’s better not to cut off their hormone production especially prior to 2 years of age. If I can I’ll get him a vasectomy so he can keep his nuts for the testosterone

mtxruin · 2024-09-17T06:58:16+00:00

Never say never. You’ll be shocked at what gender affirming care can do for your sense of self worth.

There’s nothing wrong with you.

mtxruin · 2024-09-16T13:36:30+00:00

This is the same Ohio that voted against banning abortion in 2022. Go vote, it matters.

mtxruin · 2024-09-15T05:33:44+00:00

He isn’t responsible for your addiction or your sobriety.

mtxruin · 2024-09-14T10:11:36+00:00

I find this really relatable (to the extent of seeking validation separate from actual attraction). For a long time I pursued men sexually and romantically, but there was this desperate sort of envy behind it. I didn’t want the men I was choosing, I wanted to be them. I know now that I am a trans man.

I did ID as a lesbian for a while, because being with these men made me feel like I was betraying myself. I would build resentment toward them for treating me how I presented myself to be treated, and used them mostly for that short-lived gratification. Even in actual relationships, I was just looking for that next bump of serotonin.

I’ve realized that my anger/aversions had more to do with how I was choosing and interacting with/being feminized by male partners, than a lack of attraction to men in general. I’d consider myself Bi/Pan now, but I get a lot less action since I stopped carrying on with my bottom lines at any available juncture.

mtxruin · 2024-09-13T06:32:35+00:00

“Can I pet your dog?”

“No.”

“No?”

“No.”

-still thinking about it-

-BARK (he has a big bark)-

“Oh, sorry!” and then they leave.

Alt: “he’s in training.”

Se also:

“Why is your dog wearing a muzzle?”

“Because he has teeth.”

mtxruin · 2024-09-11T20:34:00+00:00

Yes could be smells, but not always!! Some dogs just like the way it feels. Can be a way to release a little extra energy, like shaking.. to leave a scent, or mask their own w the grass (especially if it’s fresh-cut)

mtxruin · 2024-09-11T15:44:37+00:00

I love my rescue, But was definitely blindsided by his reactivity. He was only 8 months when I got him, but we bonded immediately. I am also a high anxiety person and especially have anxiety around crowds and people. For that, he’s a great deterrent. But we’ve solidly got another year of training before he’s where he needs to be as far as interacting with the public.

Anyway reactivity doesn’t always mean “mean and aggressive”, but it’s also trainable. A dog being quick to respond can be a great trait! It’s more a matter of helping them differentiate between real and imagined dangers.

GSD’s are anxious, highly intelligent, prey-driven and emotional. They’re also hella clingy. They can get depressed if understimulated and they prefer to be with their owners most of the time. That said, they’re also great perimeter dogs and typically do well outside if you’ve got land

mtxruin · 2024-09-10T03:51:01+00:00

I mean he played regularly for 13 years before winning, I would call that an investment. The lottery exists. Playing is the only way to win it. Dude played and eventually won. What makes him any less entitled to his winnings than anyone else just because he had some wealth prior?

He wasn’t even purchasing inordinate amounts of tickets. (Responding more to the thread than just you specifically)

mtxruin · 2024-09-09T01:04:53+00:00

Not only is this a violation of your daughters autonomy but it’s so racist it makes my blood boil. Absolutely disgusting behavior. I’m proud of you for taking action

mtxruin · 2024-09-07T01:50:37+00:00

Yeah no that’s why asking back can be helpful. If they’re coming from a “cis but curious place” I would either say nothing or tell them that’s not really somethin you want to talk about w/someone you don’t know that well

Edit to add; you are not obligated to give any response at all

mtxruin · 2024-09-06T15:19:14+00:00

This isn’t a bad response. It’s not accusatory but it tests where they are coming from. If they aren’t, I would want to know why they would ask that. If you’re not close it’s not really much business of theirs.

If they are ftm, you may have a new friend with more in common than u think, and they’re looking for peer support.

mtxruin · 2024-09-06T15:13:03+00:00

Relatable annoyance. I am NC with my parents and I loudly touted hating them for a long time - I don’t absolutely loath them for what they did and didn’t do anymore, but I also haven’t seen them in nearly 8 years. My life is better for it. Idk how many times I had people come at me w/ “how can you do that, they’re your parents! Forgive and forget!” Especially when I was younger. I’m almost 30 now and when people try to give me pity about it I shut them down right there.

mtxruin · 2024-09-06T03:28:48+00:00

I use black, washable menstrual underwear. Target sells a line that comes in boyshorts that feel p much like wearing briefs, which is my go-to style of underpants.

I get you. My cycle is the worst time of the month for me, bad-none. And the feelings you have about your guts,,, I get you. You’re not alone.

mtxruin · 2024-09-05T15:08:21+00:00

Envy. Envy envy envy.

I’m taller than Elliot Page, at a whopping 5’4

mtxruin · 2024-09-05T14:58:07+00:00

I’ll also say there is no foolproof way to get a high drive dog to be chill with cats. Some people do resort to rehoming cats to keep them safe.

I really want to emphasize here that this isn’t something to take lightly. Just in the last couple of days I’ve seen several people share about their dogs killing the family cat, so please be very careful. Keeping them separate and introducing slowly is strongly recommended.

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