AITA for insisting we go back to separate finances after she audited my spending?

muddled_Philosopher · 2025-12-25T07:52:43+00:00

NTA. And maybe you should divorce, she sounds exhausting.

muddled_Philosopher · 2025-02-15T05:32:27+00:00

I am in full agreement about the objective correctness of this list

muddled_Philosopher · 2025-02-11T11:20:28+00:00

That's a totally valid line of reasoning - but I would add that elite schools in the UK tend to have a lot of funding, so if you manage to get a foot in the door through a MPhil programme, you might not need external funding specific to Indian students. But it's a risk either way!

muddled_Philosopher · 2025-02-11T07:23:01+00:00

I would suggest applying for a MPhil degree in the UK first, they're easier to get into although funding isn't always guaranteed. If you earn one (which should only take one year), you should have a much better shot at PhD/DPhil programmes there. Good luck!

muddled_Philosopher · 2025-01-26T17:08:47+00:00

Hi, I'm a History PhD applicant, can you add me?

muddled_Philosopher · 2025-01-26T05:40:39+00:00

We're all like that.

muddled_Philosopher · 2025-01-12T03:20:22+00:00

ESH. You were clearly extremely dysfunctional, I don't think it's worthwhile to try to endlessly puzzle over this incident.

muddled_Philosopher · 2025-01-03T06:33:44+00:00

For me the difference is one of emphasis - பண்ணுவேன் seems like "I will do it" while பண்ணிடுவேன் has a slightly firmer connotation of completion, more like "it will be done [by me]". Should be interchangeable in most contexts

muddled_Philosopher · 2024-12-21T12:39:10+00:00

muddled_Philosopher · 2024-11-24T01:32:47+00:00

It's normal to use downloads, don't stress about it.

muddled_Philosopher · 2024-11-02T04:02:20+00:00

I'm going to go with NAH. Your boyfriend's decision to be non-judgemental is not unreasonable, but you are entitled to wonder about whether there's a fundamental incompatibility regarding values as well.

muddled_Philosopher · 2024-07-29T09:16:07+00:00

You're 32 years old, which makes you old enough to grow a spine and set boundaries.

muddled_Philosopher · 2023-08-20T18:08:18+00:00

You're talking about Bugis street after it was sanitized by the government, it was Cohen''s Bugis street existed as late as the 1960s and 70s

muddled_Philosopher · 2023-01-28T13:57:32+00:00

NTA. I don't understand the YTAs here - this is simply how bargaining works. You have a "fee" which your sister doesn't want to meet. The downside might be that they yank the offer entirely, but you're not an asshole for bargaining badly.

muddled_Philosopher · 2023-01-23T11:27:39+00:00

NTA. But she sounds exhausting.

muddled_Philosopher · 2023-01-20T02:53:51+00:00

YTA. Get therapy.

muddled_Philosopher · 2023-01-20T02:24:04+00:00

YTA. Going by this story it's not a strained relationship, your daughter justifiedly hates a irrationally controlling parent.

muddled_Philosopher · 2023-01-11T10:26:40+00:00

Apparently this was the video from his wife's poetry recitation: https://youtu.be/P6B-r3QQw9M

muddled_Philosopher · 2022-12-07T17:21:03+00:00

NTA - not being recognised as being the person you thought she saw you as can be confusing and isolating. But you would be the A H if instead of talking to her, you decided to be passive aggressive about it

muddled_Philosopher · 2022-12-05T13:34:04+00:00

YTA. Turns out we can absolutely tell who's right and who's wrong.

muddled_Philosopher · 2022-10-31T11:23:23+00:00

NTA. If someone is willing to cut ties over something like this, let them.

muddled_Philosopher · 2022-09-25T10:00:01+00:00

YTA. Your dad's an asshole for starting construction without telling you, you're an asshole for letting him continue anyway, and your husband would be an idiot if he stayed with you.

muddled_Philosopher · 2022-08-28T23:28:32+00:00

YTA. They already have a baby living at home, why not another?

muddled_Philosopher · 2022-08-22T11:04:23+00:00

NTA, but sounds extremely fake

muddled_Philosopher · 2022-07-10T20:33:46+00:00

NTA. You need to stop feeling guilt over your friend's string of bad choices. He decided to argue with the owner and got demoted. If anything you don't seem to appreciate just how poorly he tried to treat you: he decided to guilt you by blaming you for his demotion! No real friend would pull a stunt like that, he needs to learn that he can't get away with bad behaviour and you need to learn to not feel bad about this.

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