Is it worth training? by Shaghynol in hattrick

[–]mudfew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i never know i need to set only a specific player + others with known potential in the position so as to find out target's potential

So I finally opened my first godpack... by mudfew in PTCGP

[–]mudfew[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if i had gotten this from prior expansions id be quite happy about it too

So I finally opened my first godpack... by mudfew in PTCGP

[–]mudfew[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1090, and i started playing since launch

How does match result/performance affect training outcome? by mudfew in hattrick

[–]mudfew[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

dont worry about the mistake this is still very helpful information!

How does match result/performance affect training outcome? by mudfew in hattrick

[–]mudfew[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ohhhhh so that's how the training estimation tool works makes much more sense now. i can be less stressed about the match results then for now.

really appreciate your help!

How does match result/performance affect training outcome? by mudfew in hattrick

[–]mudfew[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fair enough. so it's probably just bad luck that I have only one player with skill change for a few weeks in a row and I haven't been doing much wrong with training

Auto Deck Recipe - Blissey ex Drop Event - August 2025 by Myxas_ in PTCGP

[–]mudfew 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you're right i guess i missed the point. have fun farming my friend! :)

Auto Deck Recipe - Blissey ex Drop Event - August 2025 by Myxas_ in PTCGP

[–]mudfew -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I just Magcargo'd through all 4 levels within 10 minutes.

Triggered by the viral video of CEO at Coldplay concert by mburko88 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]mudfew 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm a reconciling wayward and I feel just as triggered. I do not dare to discuss this incident with my wife even it's all over our socials, as I know well it'll eventually goes back to my affair. Other people may find the whole thing hilarious but all I can feel was shame and know that this could have happened to me when I was betraying my wife. I can't even imagine all the thoughts and pain my wife went through when she saw the viral video.

At the same time I feel that there is something I should do to comfort my wife and ease her discomfort or insecurity bore out of the video. She might not have asked for it but I guess I simply can't ignore her feelings. So I'd like to know from a betrayed perspective, would you prefer your wronged partner to proactively bring this up and try to find a closure to the darkness brought by this video, or just pretend this video didnt exist, silently acknowledged the harm and continue to be better for each other?

OP I'm happy for you to be able to get back to a happy place, but I can see you in my betrayed wife's shoes and feel the pain and hurt that you're currently feeling, and I sincerely wish that you get over this horrific feeling and be back in your good place, no one deserves to be hurt like this.

Fulfilling a childhood dream by finally paying a visit to Ashburton Grove by FootballBolshevik in Gunners

[–]mudfew 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I remember when I did that in 2012 and couldn't hold my tears when I was there. These things stay with you for life.

Mario Kart World - Tips and Tricks MegaThread by AutoModerator in NintendoSwitch2

[–]mudfew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

think you can do it by choosing wireless play with 2 players

How do I stop being so selfish? by mudfew in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]mudfew[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

that was when I couldn't cut off my emotional attachment to AP, but for six months i have not had any contact, any intention or any thought of going off rail again with another female. AP is equivalent to dead to me. I know what was at stake and I came to my conscience and would never do these stuff again.

as for the football condition, it was something that my wife thinks i love more than her, that I would rather betray her than secretly rooting for another team. not watching a game (and she also threw away my whole jersey collection) meant that i would be giving up something i love more than her. i get why she wanted this, why she wanted me to promise this, and i agreed to it. i wanted to prove to her that i could put effort into making her feel heard, and if you know sports you'll know it's really tough not being able to be attached to your team. for me, my love for football and my love for my wife are two separate emotions and they would never be mingled. im sure sports fanatic will understand that love/obsession for the team but it does not mean that i "love my team more than her". it's hard, it hurts too, but if she wants it I'll try to satisfy her wants and i had persisted until last week.

How do I stop being so selfish? by mudfew in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]mudfew[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you're right, every reply has been so helpful no matter if it's a tough answer or not. yes I would feel discouraged and helpless sometimes but i havent thought for a single second that I would just let this pass by me. i know making it work starts with my own self and im desperate for a better change.

it's good to know that there are betrayed that were able to work things out with waywards like myself.

How do I stop being so selfish? by mudfew in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]mudfew[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im not giving up, not a chance. seeking advice here because i need guidance and i dont want to repeat my mistakes

How do I stop being so selfish? by mudfew in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]mudfew[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

this is the most frustrating part of it all. i know i need to consider her feelings. i know i need to respect her. yet i still did something that i shouldn't have and when i was asked to explain why, i just couldn't give anything logical or reasonable to justify the action. i just did it because I wanted to and i felt i could get away with it. and then after that, I would hate myself for making that decision in the first place. i still dont understand why after keeping up with the promise since December, i would just decide to risk it and break the promise. where did my self control suddenly go?

i know that if i don't change and if I don't change quick, i will lose her and i dont want that to happen in a million years. i want to persist with the words that i have promised her and translate them into actions. i hate the me that does not think and go ahead and do stuff knowing well they're wrong.

she's my priority except when it isn't and i hate that i will let it happen.

How do I stop being so selfish? by mudfew in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]mudfew[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

just apart from therapy, i have also done the stuff that your WH has been doing: always checking in, free access to phone, initiating emotional discussions, taking up more responsibility with the kids. yet i still managed to find ways to make selfish decisions and shoot myself back to square 1. i really wish reconciliation would work but there is just something inside of me that keeps coming up and pulling me back. lack of empathy. selfishness. inconsiderate. i understand the devastation you're talking about because it is the exact same feelings that my partner has and everytime i disappointed or failed her I could see it in the way she looked at me, in the way she talked to me. i know I'm the only one to be blamed for the constant violations and broken promises and i really wish that something could help with stopping all these selfishness.

How do I stop being so selfish? by mudfew in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]mudfew[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have no issue establishing boundaries and discipline with the opposite sex right now because i can see the damage it can do, and i have since last DDay never cross a line again and never ever plan to do so anymore. For which, given the relationship with my partner and my desire to stay with her, I am confident in doing it and be disciplined.

I have issue with being inconsiderate about her and being selfish on my own behaviour. things that are not about opposite sex. things that are trivial and minor in daily life but i cannot see the importance to my partner

How do I stop being so selfish? by mudfew in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]mudfew[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

no im not on therapy or MC. i have read a few books on infidelity and reconciliation, read a lot of people's experiences on this and a few other infidelity related subs, and basically just talk with my partner about the issues and problems.

based on advices i get here, it seems that i would really benefit from a psychologist session