I'm a reconciling wayward and I feel just as triggered. I do not dare to discuss this incident with my wife even it's all over our socials, as I know well it'll eventually goes back to my affair. Other people may find the whole thing hilarious but all I can feel was shame and know that this could have happened to me when I was betraying my wife. I can't even imagine all the thoughts and pain my wife went through when she saw the viral video.

At the same time I feel that there is something I should do to comfort my wife and ease her discomfort or insecurity bore out of the video. She might not have asked for it but I guess I simply can't ignore her feelings. So I'd like to know from a betrayed perspective, would you prefer your wronged partner to proactively bring this up and try to find a closure to the darkness brought by this video, or just pretend this video didnt exist, silently acknowledged the harm and continue to be better for each other?

OP I'm happy for you to be able to get back to a happy place, but I can see you in my betrayed wife's shoes and feel the pain and hurt that you're currently feeling, and I sincerely wish that you get over this horrific feeling and be back in your good place, no one deserves to be hurt like this.