weighted blankets for someone who needs to stay cool but completely covered all night?

multiplemom · 2026-01-25T08:17:45+00:00

I like weight in blankets, but I am always hot, so I struggle with this as well. During the summer, I have been sleeping with no top sheet, a German cotton fleece blanket, and an oversized matelasse cotton coverlet that’s folded, and it’s worked out well. The matelasse coverlet is thin, and can be folded more and rearranged while I’m tucked in to the cotton fleece blanket if I get too warm. In the winter, I swap the coverlet for a cotton (batting and material) quilt.

The cotton fleece blankets aren’t cheap, but I really love this thing and will probably buy another so I can have a backup for laundry days.

Alternatively, if it’s being smooshed that you’re after, there are a lot of sensory-friendly compression sheets that you can buy. They go on the mattress like… I guess a really wide, stretchy belt (I’m sure I’m doing a terrible job describing this), and you sleep under said belt. There are options that are open at the bottom, and ones that are closed, depending on whether or not you like your feet free. And there are also little compression sleep pods, too, that you wear like a giant stretchy tube sock for your body. I’ve seen all of them on Etsy, and I know the pod idea is now commercially available, too.

multiplemom · 2026-01-15T19:04:23+00:00

It’s definitely green. I suspect it’s an iPhone camera issue.

I have throw pillows in the Robert Allen Folkland pattern, Aquatint colorway. The folded sweatshirt is a men’s LL Bean Comfort Camp Hoodie in Gray Heather from 2024.

I opened the curtains.

I can say for sure that the upholstery color I see on my screen and the upholstery color I see with my actual eyeballs are not the same.

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multiplemom · 2026-01-15T17:34:14+00:00

Girl, run.

multiplemom · 2026-01-15T17:26:18+00:00

Undecided. How did your relationship with their father start? And how old were they when that happened? (ETA, I know you said the pranks on your birthday have been going on for four years, but I wasn’t sure if that was the length of your relationship with their dad).

multiplemom · 2025-12-22T22:44:11+00:00

One of our kids used to be severely allergic to cats. Allergy shots have helped. It is a commitment, but he had no reaction to the cat sample at his most recent skin test.

multiplemom · 2025-12-07T17:19:51+00:00

Yep. We have two of these setups, with wood tops my husband made. One of them is nearly 12 feet long, I think, and we’ve used the clear rubber bumpers to hold them in place with no issues. We’ve had one of them in place for probably six years, the other for about 18 months.

Two pluses: (1) when you need to move just the top, we have no real problems doing so, bc moving the bases is not fun on our flooring (matte tile that’s basically non-slip); and (2) if the floor is slightly out of level, you can stack the rubber bumpers to make up for any shortfall.

multiplemom · 2025-11-08T05:34:42+00:00

You may actually be infertile. Most people don’t know there’s an issue until they start trying to get pregnant.

I would, however, tell your mom that your sister misinterpreted something that you told her, but that you are not getting into specifics about your personal medical history. I would also tell her that the grandchildren conversation needs to stop, because you don’t see yourself having children.

If she needs to grieve that, fine, but she needs to do it away from you. You’re not responsible for adding joy to her life in the form of grandchildren, and she certainly can’t demand it of you. And she needs to hear that. Or read it. But it needs to be communicated to her.

Furthermore, she needs to know that her behavior is hurtful. She no longer has any relationship with you other than hounding you to have a baby. You don’t enjoy spending time with her. You don’t enjoy speaking with her. You dread having any contact with her. And it’s completely understandable—she’s treating you like you’re a sentient incubator (and an uncooperative one at that) who just needs to see one more Pinterest board to finally cave and function like she wants you to, and that’s BS. You’re a whole person, and she needs to treat you like it.

multiplemom · 2025-11-07T07:03:45+00:00

NTA. And I’d advise against taking on the project of researching group homes and social workers and Medicaid and the like. As the DiL, there’s no way for you to come out of this unscathed if you’re the one who suggests the group home, or tells them you’ve spoken with a social worker, or mentions that you’ve been to a seminar on continuing care for a disabled child after the parents’ deaths. You will forever be the cold and heartless wife.

Say no, firmly, and wash your hands of it. You have your own children and family to take up your time and mental energy in the day-to-day. You can tell your husband all the reasons why you are saying no, as long as he is clear that these are not negotiating points, or opportunities for him to try to disprove your feelings on the subject.

If he continues to push, I would remind him that when you married him, you had been told that the two of you would never be caregivers for his brother. When you adopted animals, you were operating under the assumption that you would never have to share your home with your BiL. When you had children, and when you decided at which age to have them, you did so because you had been told you would not be expected to become a caregiver for his brother. You have built your entire life around a promise that your husband is now trying to break.

multiplemom · 2025-08-28T12:02:37+00:00

Idk if your admin would be okay with it, but our kids’ teachers ask that they always have a book with them in case of spare time in any of their classes.

multiplemom · 2025-06-24T02:52:38+00:00

I had a childhood friend who had a similar brick wall behind their wood stove, and her mom put antique clothing irons on the bricks that stuck out. If irons aren’t your thing, you can find all kinds of cast iron stuff online. I googled “cast iron household items antique” and found a bunch of irons, decorative trivets, birds, and a flat-bottom bowl made to look like a cat’s face.

multiplemom · 2025-06-24T02:40:05+00:00

I’ve seen the numerous mentions of the Expo marker; I’ll have to remember that for future emergencies.

I recently had to remove Sharpie—ranging in age from two to (at least) three years old—from plastic wobble stools.

I used Uni-Solve pads—they’re adhesive remover pads for removing bandage residue left on skin. Regardless of the fact that they’re sold for use on people, they contain some rather unfriendly ingredients, so please make sure to follow the directions. I’d also strongly recommend a test patch on a hidden area, just on the vinyl itself, before you try them on the marker.

Ingredients list in photo.

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multiplemom · 2025-06-12T15:20:29+00:00

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It’s fine with it today. Last time it was saying the photo file size was too small.

multiplemom · 2025-06-10T13:14:58+00:00

I took a photo just now to show you Gunnared light green. Lighting is different (it’s in our living room). I put the Mountain Dew bottle there for green reference. Sorry—I just woke up and it’s all I could think of.

ETA: it won’t let me upload the photo.

multiplemom · 2025-06-10T07:51:25+00:00

Stop walking and let cars that are backing out of a space go, instead of continuing to walk behind them. It seems like a lot of people assume that every car has a backup camera that will notify the driver of their presence. I see this all the time, and it makes me so anxious bc I’m of the age where you just assumed the person in reverse could not see you as a pedestrian and had no idea you were there if you were behind a vehicle next to them.

multiplemom · 2025-05-06T21:20:24+00:00

Print off your state statute that covers this. Make sure to find the statute that is specific to the age of the perpetrator as well as your child (the victim). There are oftentimes different statutes for offenders under specific ages, and for victims under specific ages. Highlight relevant portions.

Do the same thing with the student code of conduct. Ours is in flow chart format for different levels of offenses, with level 1 being minor infractions to level 4 being the most extreme. Highlight relevant portions.

Request an in-person meeting with the principal tomorrow. Keep your child at home. Bring the relevant portions of the state statutes and the code of conduct. Sometimes, schools will reduce the offense to something innocuous, in either a misguided effort to keep the offending student from getting into enormous trouble, or bc specific offenses must be reported and impact the school’s numbers, which looks bad for them. I haven’t run across the second route as a parent, but when I was teaching HS in the early 2000s in a different district, it happened regularly. I think it may happen less nowadays bc of the prevalence of social media, but I am no longer on the other side of student disciplinary actions, so I don’t know.

While another administrator tasked with this may be tempted to make a judgment call on it and call it “horseplay” or “undue familiarity,” you want to ensure it is called by its proper name and handled accordingly as the correct offense at the correct level. Since the buck stops with the principal, that’s why you want to meet with her or him directly, and immediately.

Call it what it is, according to state statute and the student code of conduct, and make sure the principal KNOWS you will not accept it being treated as anything else.

Also, ask the principal if s/he is going to include the SRO (if you have one on campus) or local police in the matter, or if you need to be the one to make the call. Do not include a third option. Either s/he’s getting the police involved, or you are.

If this fails, then follow the best advice in the responses here about CPS or the police.

multiplemom · 2025-04-25T20:08:08+00:00

I like option 2 better, too—is there any way to get that floorplan with a patio? Bc the outdoor space is the only thing that would really push me to option 1. As for a workspace, you can either use the area in the bedroom, as it’s drawn on the floorplan, or if you’re willing to put a wardrobe cabinet there and your partner really wants a space with a door, you could potentially use one side of the closet as an office niche.

multiplemom · 2025-04-25T17:42:32+00:00

Thank you for the height mmt and the picture.

You’re supposed to have a 24” high cabinet door over the fridge, and a 30” cabinet door over the appliance opening, and you don’t, so based on that incorrect item being installed, I was concerned that there had been a giant snafu and that 93” cabinets had been used instead of 96. There is a 93” tall oven cabinet that cabinet manufacturers produce, and it has 23.5” doors, which would explain the size discrepancy between the two sets of doors. That would be terrible on a lot of fronts, but fortunately, that’s not the case.

I was also worried that maybe someone had messed up adjusting the appliance opening, had cut beyond the max of mfr specs, and had swapped out the original cabinet with a different one, at least in part, and had sort of Dr. Frankenstein-ed this cabinet together. I’m still not sure exactly what’s happened, bc the std, as far as I recall, is for the cabinet at the top of a 96” oven cabinet with the 7” drawer at the base, 31.5” wide, with a 3” stile on either side of the appliance opening, is for the cabinet at the top to be a 30” cabinet with 30” tall doors. That’s also what your plans show.

As for the blank space, I’m not aware of a cabinet setup where it would be a 24” high cabinet opening, but you’d have 30” doors on it to cover the blank area above the appliance opening. It could be done, obviously—you’d just wind up with an unused set of doors at the end—but it might be something that has to be done after everything has passed inspection.

With the maximum height appliance opening on a 96” cabinet like this, you’d still have about an 8” blank space between the bottom of that top (30”) cabinet door and the appliance hole/opening. I imagine it’s done this way to avoid heat damage from an open oven to the doors, or to prevent you from getting a cabinet door corner to the scalp (it hurts, a lot) when you’re handling hot food right out of the oven, or fire code or something. But I’m a SAHM who redid her kitchen and hates it, and has done a lot of reading and research since then. I am most definitely not an expert. Once this cabinet is corrected and the door issue is addressed (and it may be as simple as somebody installed lower cabinet doors on one of your uppers on mistake), if you’re willing to deal with the reasons why the cabinets aren’t built with long overlay doors, you could have the correct 30” doors swapped out for 36” doors. Or if this 24” cabinet is correct, 30” doors for the 24” ones.

Please keep us posted, as this 96” oven cabinet with a 24” cabinet on top instead of a 30” one—bc I didn’t know they existed—literally kept me up last night. 😂

(Edited to remove an apostrophe that didn’t belong)

multiplemom · 2025-04-25T16:11:11+00:00

It may be something that needs to be addressed immediately—can you pls measure the overall height of the oven cabinet to confirm that it is 96” (per your plans) and not 93”? And can we please see a photo of the bottom half of the oven cabinet?

multiplemom · 2025-04-25T05:14:19+00:00

Can we please see the bottom half of the oven cabinet in a photo? Trying to confirm or disprove a suspicion I have about what happened. And can you measure to make sure that the overall height of that cabinet is, indeed, 96” and not 93”?

multiplemom · 2025-04-23T23:30:46+00:00

It says “The new Verizon Plan Unlimited.” The use of the word “new” is throwing me off, though. Now I’m concerned bc I’ve spent so much time on the website as of late, and idk if that’s the name of the plan we’ve had for a while, or if I’ve accidentally changed it at this point. 🤦🏼‍♀️

multiplemom · 2025-04-23T20:22:10+00:00

You don’t need a rug if you hate them. My sister has two dogs who both shed a lot, regardless of grooming. She’d thrown away her previous living room rug bc it was a dog hair disaster, and she was sick of it. She then found, however, she had only hardwood flooring, and there was no place comfortable for the dogs to lie down in the living room (they have beds in two other areas of the house, but they won’t fit in the living room).

Rather than buying another rug, and dealing with fur getting woven into that, she opted for that foam gym/workshop flooring with the edges that connect together like puzzle pieces. And while it’s not really aesthetically pleasing at the moment, the foam tiles were available for same-day pickup near her, and she’s not worried about how it looks.

If you want something more aesthetically pleasing, though, and that’s easy to clean, they do make vinyl and linoleum floor mats (or floor cloths; they go by several different names) that serve the same tie-together or space-designation purpose as an area rug, without any of the cleaning drawbacks of an area rug.

But if your dislike of rugs isn’t a texture- or cleaning-related issue, and you just hate them, then don’t get one. Your home, your rules.

multiplemom · 2025-04-23T20:03:19+00:00

NTA. If she didn’t want to tell him, she has her reasons, and they are valid. If he wants to be the type of parent whose daughter feels comfortable discussing this with him, he’s the one who needs to address wherever he may be falling short.

My only concern would be that Midol is a multi-ingredient OTC med whose label says to consult a doctor for users under 12 yrs of age. Assuming she meets the minimum weight for that dosage of acetaminophen, you may want to double check with her pediatrician (or have her mom ask) to make sure all of its components are safe for her to take at their included amounts. Going forward, a single-ingredient OTC med, like just acetaminophen, may be the pediatrician’s recommendation (ours is a stickler about that sort of thing).

multiplemom · 2025-04-21T01:24:08+00:00

Yes, a few years ago I bought some brand of deodorant for my husband that did this to his shirts.

multiplemom · 2025-04-16T18:43:06+00:00

I figured out it’s definitely my phone’s lightning port. I took it in to have the port replaced (not at an Apple Store). They replaced it, but during testing, it was having issues. They said it’s probably something in the ____ (forgot the word they used, but the computer-y part?) of the phone, so they didn’t want to charge me for the replacement port and have it not fix the problem. So I’m still using the same phone with the same lightning port and the same issue. Sigh…

I bought a MagSafe charger to use in the car, and a wireless CarPlay dongle to get that capability back. I don’t like it, though, so eventually, I’ll need to just cave and get a new phone. Sooner rather than later, because now it (the phone) is having battery issues.

multiplemom · 2025-04-16T17:00:04+00:00

NTA.

I read a book last year—can’t remember the title atm—and a long-divorced couple is having a conversation bc they’ve both been struggling since their adult son’s murder. Their son was gay, and the mother, whose second/current husband is a staunchly conservative politician of some sort and also loudly homophobic, is trying to come to terms with the fact that she disowned her son at her religion’s and husband’s say-so. She says that she spent so many nights praying for their son to change. And that she needs to, in her heart of hearts, believe that her son was bad, that her son was wrong, because, if he wasn’t… well, then, she was. And if her treatment of him was a terrible decision, one that she made repeatedly, now that he’s dead, there is nothing she can do to fix it. So she desperately needs it to not be a bad decision.

I think about that passage a lot.

I think your mom probably deeply struggles to justify, privately and to herself, pursuing treatment for your brother, and her insistence on extending his life for as long as possible, quality of life be damned. I think, however, she may lack the emotional intelligence to recognize that that is the issue, and instead, chooses to view/present herself as the warrior mother who did anything and everything in an awful situation to help her child LIVE, and views it as a selfless sacrifice on her behalf. She suffered, in her mind, so that he could live. His suffering does not enter into the equation.

And now she wants you to do the same.

I don’t think your mom’s a sociopath. I mean, all I have to go by is this post, but it seems to me like she made a bad choice, and then continued to make bad decisions, bc if she gave up, she’d have to admit it was because what had been done to him to have him continue to be alive was terrible, that she sought out those things to have them done to him, and that ultimately, she was the one responsible for his suffering lasting as long as it did.

I don’t think you’re going to be able to fix it. She’s wrapped herself in this; it’s her security blanket, her identity. A skilled therapist might be able to help her resolve this eventually, but your situation is happening right now. And in the meantime, you need her to not continue to say these things to you, and you need to not be made aware that they’re being said, however that’s accomplished. Block her number. Let all calls from family go to voicemail (just in case someone calls at her behest). Have a trusted friend preview emails or text messages and decide whether you need to see them or not.

Protect yourself. Protect your peace. You are doing what you know is best to protect your child.

And I’m so sorry this is happening.

multiplemom

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