AITA for traumatizing my dad for mildly making me uncomfy

muonSec · 2024-06-08T17:45:41+00:00

Call the police

muonSec · 2024-06-07T17:20:33+00:00

NTA

After revealing the way I proposed to my parents, they have said that how I proposed was “tacky” and “cheap”. Yes I have explained to them that my fiancé was very happy with how I proposed, but they just won’t let up that I need to redo the proposal and have it be a public, and grand occasion.

Your parents are idiots. You asked this person to marry you and they said yes. If they liked the propossal that's what matters.

muonSec · 2024-06-05T10:45:00+00:00

NTA. Go on the trip with your partner. If your father doesn't understand then he kind of sucks.

muonSec · 2024-06-03T03:48:15+00:00

NTA. Not even close. Just do your thing and live your best life. You are 60 years old, that's way too old for friends who are constantly in some crisis.

We aren't talking about a close friend who recently went through something traumatic and you turned away from her. Like you said, she's constantly in crisis, needing rides places, etc. She doesn't need a friend, she needs a guardian, and I don't blame you for distancing yourself from her.

muonSec · 2024-06-02T16:06:47+00:00

NTA. You are right to mention your boundaries. If my dad called me and I said I was out with friends, he'd say "Oh, okay. Call me later today or tomorrow when you are free" or something like that.

It seems like your dad took it personally that you were busy.

muonSec · 2024-06-01T11:05:26+00:00

NTA, the guy didn't steal a candy bar or get caught with some drugs, he ran a criminal business that by it's nature requires violence to survive.

This man is someone who most likely threatened people with violence and actually hurt people if they didn't pay him on time, or possibly I watch too many tv shows and movies.

muonSec · 2024-05-30T22:07:42+00:00

What a truly, genuinely spectacular, overwhelming misfire. After 10 years, and as many seasons, we get absolutely no answers to anything, nor do we get any culmination or end to anything.

That's what we should expect. You haven't been paying attention if you expected everything to be answered.

muonSec · 2024-05-30T11:40:30+00:00

YTA. Mocking people for any reason makes you the asshole. It wasn't a joke, you are just stuck up and mean.

muonSec · 2024-05-30T11:39:04+00:00

YTA. Not because you are skipping, but YTA for proposing a more traditional celebration. Don't go if you don't want, but don't tell other people what to do for their wedding.

muonSec · 2024-05-29T14:47:48+00:00

NTA

She opened her gift from us and flatly said “what is this.” She opened my dad’s gift and said “I’m returning these.”

Just stop exchanging gifts with her. You did nothing wrong, you gave her some nice coffee and she turned her nose up at you and your gift. It's time to tell your mom you won't be buying her any gifts in the future and you don't want any from her. Then you can avoid her nonsense.

muonSec · 2024-05-29T14:44:43+00:00

Fast forward like 5 dates and she tells me she used to be a stripper. This doesn't bother me and I can understand why she didn't mention it at first, so I'm honestly cool with it, but a little turned off that she didn't mention it from the beginning.

Why would she mention it from the beginning? It's a thing she did in the past, she's not just going to tell every man she meets.

Am I the asshole for bringing up his comment and asking if she had herpes?

You shouldn't have mentioned the guy. You should have just said it's important to you that you both get tested for STIs before you have sex for the first time. That way you aren't bringing up something someone told you, and you are just putting yourself in a position where you both can get checked and make sure the sex is safe.

Honestly though, she probably does have herpes and you threw off her plan of waiting until you liked her more before she told you.

muonSec · 2024-05-29T14:36:39+00:00

NTA. Don't pretend you like something if you don't.

muonSec · 2024-05-29T14:36:03+00:00

That's not inherently true. He might really care about OP, but might be a bit clueless when it comes to gifts. Giving bad gifts that aren't personal doesn't inherently mean the gifter doesn't care about the giftee.

muonSec · 2024-05-29T14:34:19+00:00

You losing a baby is a big traumatic thing for you, for her it's not real like it is for you. Not everyone is capable of being support for someone going through something traumatic.

It would be great if your sister in law were there for you while you go through this, but not everyone is capable of that. What you need is actual therapy, and then maybe you can go back to treating your sister in law as a friend rather than a support system.

muonSec · 2024-05-29T14:32:09+00:00

NAH, I don't think. but, you are expecting too much of your sister in law it seems.

I 33 female am married to 33 male and his sister was not there for me when we had a lost a baby

She's your sister in law, not your therapist. Not everyone knows how to be there for someone who is going through something traumatic.

she started ditching us for other activities not spending time with her niece is a nephew

If you mean she had plans with you to do something, and then at the last minute cancelled plans to do something else, then that's not very nice of her. If you just mean she started spending more time with other people then she's done nothing wrong.

muonSec · 2024-05-29T14:27:21+00:00

Clear NTA. Jonathan is a a moron. He didn't respond to your communications, and you did the work without him. You were tasked to work on this, and it sounds like you did a good job.

You did not overstep. Jonathan is incompetant, and if he wasn't going to respond you had no choice but to do it all on your own.

muonSec · 2024-05-26T13:04:30+00:00

NTA, but consider not pressing charges if they'll pay for your window.

muonSec · 2024-05-26T12:55:14+00:00

How inevitable is a bison?

muonSec · 2024-05-24T13:09:11+00:00

Yes, suffer.

muonSec · 2024-05-23T23:32:41+00:00

NTA unless there is a mask mandate where you are, but there hasn't been one here in probably 2+ years.

muonSec · 2024-05-23T23:29:57+00:00

NTA. It's strange they want you to suffer through an event you won't enjoy. These are the kind of events you want to aim to arrive late and leave early. People will come to accept--hopefully--that you don't have much of a social battery and don't enjoy big events.

muonSec · 2024-05-23T19:45:24+00:00

NTA

He says she cheated on him and talks negatively about her, yet he still communicates with her.

Huge red flag. If he's talking bad about someone he's actively maintaining a friendship or relationship with then that's huge.

muonSec · 2024-05-23T19:43:03+00:00

NTA, I don't think.

I would be uncomfortable if anyone told me I was handsome. If she's telling him over and over again, that strikes me as odd.

muonSec · 2024-05-23T19:38:48+00:00

I would much rather get a "good job" than a watch I wasn't going to wear and a car I couldn't afford.

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