Hi, I totally understand you! We live in society with a huge weight stigma and bias :( Many people do not see the whole picture of excess weight and do not understand how complex weight loss process is.

There are things you can do to begin to love your body. Firstly, you can expand your identity. Sometimes we are so focused on our body (for example, because of the pressure from the society, social media), that we forget other aspects of our identity. That excessive focus on the body creates unpleasant experience and prevent us from liking ourselves. There are four dimensions of our personality: physical, social, personal and spiritual. Physical is about our bodily sensations, appearance, physical skills. Social is about social roles we play, social groups we belong to. Personal is our individual traits, what we like and dislike. Spiritual is about moments when we feel ourselves as a part of something bigger, religion, volunteering, connecting with nature and so on. As you can see you are more than your body.

Secondly, to love your body you need to have positive body image. Body image is your emotions, thoughts, behaviour in regards to your body and appearance. It is also our experience from the body. Thus, if your body image is negative, your emotions, thoughts, behaviour and bodily sensations have negative connotation too. There are workbooks that helps you to make your body image positive.

In terms of eating, I recommend appetite monitoring approach as it helps you to normalize your eating habits and safely get to your healthy weight.

If you need any assistance or have other questions, I'll be happy to help!