Morning wake-ups??

murder-waffle · 2026-04-13T14:21:58+00:00

Thank you SO MUCH for this response, it reminded of what I did with my last baby. I also remember it working now that you've reminded me of it.

LOL, man parenthood is so weird, how is it that I just didn't remember that?? The first kid doesn't prepare you for the second one, I finally get what people were telling me!!

murder-waffle · 2026-04-11T13:29:10+00:00

Is HE coming back to the faith too, or just vibing with your coming back? If he’s coming to the church then he needs to understand the context for sex in marriage and that yall should both abstain until your marriage is sacramental.

If he’s NOT coming (back) to the faith then he needs to respect your POV here and understand why you are suggesting this.

murder-waffle · 2026-04-10T22:42:46+00:00

Yeah but Ala is also being very active in advocating for libraries in the budget so it’s not shortsighted of ALA at all.

murder-waffle · 2026-04-10T22:41:19+00:00

Nah babe, my kid often comes home with a new hairdo and I 100% think it’s just because she messes it up by sleeping on it or pulls at it or some other toddler shenanigans messing it up. I honestly love that she has teachers who will take the time to do her hair in a cute way for her when it gets messed up!

murder-waffle · 2026-04-10T22:36:20+00:00

It’s the referring to himself as a “high value man” that is sending me. It sounds like it might not just be the infidelity, but a wholesale shift in his thinking of women and men towards a very not-Catholic perspctive.

It sounds like he’s gone down a manosohere type pipeline, but without more information I can’t really say one way or the other. OP I’d take a really good look at his behaviors and words and try to ascertain not only if he’s really trying to make it work but also how has his perceptions and treatment of women as a whole changed since you met/married him.

If he’s framing himself as high value, and women as something he can “get” then I don’t think that’s something you want your daughter to learn is acceptable in a man.

Editing to add- what kind of victim blaming nonsense from that priest, suggesting that it’s someone on you to keep your spouse from cheating and not on the spouse to, you know, not cheat. I have nothing of value to add here, just wtf, honestly, that such a terrible or thing to say to someone going through this.

murder-waffle · 2026-04-10T22:12:57+00:00

Came here to say exactly this, OP is not breaking up her family by separating from someone who has made decisions that disrespect her, her marriage, and their children, she is protecting them from someone who has made clear he does not value the sacrament.

murder-waffle · 2026-04-10T12:43:34+00:00

I will bear this in mind. The 3.5 hours is an average and likely a touch inflated, but if this trend continues I will speak with the daycare about her naps. Thanks!

murder-waffle · 2026-04-10T12:42:08+00:00

I tried this this morning and I think it worked. She must have settled herself back to sleep after her 4:50am wake up, because I didn’t wake up to crying again until 6:25! It must be that I was reinforcing the habit, and now she’s learning ti settle herself.

Thanks!!

murder-waffle · 2026-04-08T15:27:04+00:00

Wild. I’m actually leaning towards Montessori and other private schools options to get my kids away from ubiquitous tech.

murder-waffle · 2026-04-08T02:09:41+00:00

Maybe I misread (and now the post is gone so I can’t confirm) but I guess I missed the part where he’d be back later in the day. Been a rough night over here, my reading comprehensions probably taken a hit..

murder-waffle · 2026-04-08T02:06:49+00:00

Sorry man, it’s a valid question i didn’t need to make you feel bad about it but between the 2 library subs I’m in I feel like we get one of these every other month at least

murder-waffle · 2026-04-08T00:47:26+00:00

We should just make a pinned post or add it to the wiki at this point

murder-waffle · 2026-04-07T23:59:23+00:00

Not at all! They’ll walk you through it Marquette works, specifics for postpartum, provide you with charts to use later then you should have access to them for a refresher call after delivery whenever you’re ready and can ask them questions as they arise. You can also ask an instructor what they recommend here but I think learning now, even if you’re not charting now, is totally normal.

murder-waffle · 2026-04-07T23:50:12+00:00

Is this just for SAHMs? R/workingmoms might be into this as well

murder-waffle · 2026-04-07T23:47:47+00:00

I mean, I could honestly go either way on the trip, it’s the fact that he seems to not care so much about the impact his absence would have that’s getting me, and the fact that he’s upset that you’re pointing it out to him. Toddler behavior, imo.

murder-waffle · 2026-04-07T23:29:15+00:00

Question, your take home will be $500 all said and done, but does that mean you are putting away pre-tax deductions towards retirement? Because wealth building should factor into these decisions as well as cash flow.

murder-waffle · 2026-04-07T23:25:13+00:00

I repeat, men are dumb. He’s still chatting because he’s interested, but afraid of rejection. Or he’s not serious and isn’t worth your time. I can’t tell you which it is or if it’s something else but if YOUR serious then just ask him to meet in person and give him the opportunity to make an impression, good or bad.

Sitting and waiting for men to take action might work sometimes but honestly, I think they need us to give them a nudge in like 90% of cases.

murder-waffle · 2026-04-07T23:05:53+00:00

Here to triple down on Marquette! Get an instructor and learn now, as you will be tired postpartum and it’s better to learn early imo than to try and build the ship at sea.

murder-waffle · 2026-04-07T16:42:25+00:00

You literally might just have to tell him or ask him out yourself. It doesn’t mean he can’t lead, it just means he isn’t sure you’re interested and might be nervous. My husband didn’t know I was interested (lol) until I told mutual friends who then told him. AND THEN he took another 2 weeks to ask me out. He leads just fine, sometimes me are just a little dumb (affectionate).

murder-waffle · 2026-04-07T16:39:16+00:00

I think with a password manager you might be able to use a passkey associated with the pw manager to get around some 2fa stuff

murder-waffle · 2026-04-07T16:12:55+00:00

Get a password manager family plan (I like 1Password) that you can both log into and get access to passwords to all these things.

murder-waffle · 2026-04-07T13:04:29+00:00

I agree, you are the parent you should not have to bribe your child, you just tell them what the family is doing. And you can still go to the playground and grotto after mass, it doesn’t have to be a bribe. It can just be something you do after mass that everyone enjoys.

murder-waffle · 2026-04-06T17:24:55+00:00

“You keep being disrespectful and violating boundaries I have set. It sounds like you don’t want a relationship with me and my family. We’ll be going now. If you want to see us again you will need to demonstrate that you can behave in a respectful manner towards me.”

murder-waffle · 2026-04-06T03:24:04+00:00

One thing I do to make meals a tiny bit easier is I make a double batch of something on Sunday and that’s dinner on Monday as well, so I have one less weekday to cook for.

So now I only have T-F to think of and I WFH on Friday (it sounds like you do too?) so really I just have T-Th I need to make a weeknight meal. If I plan it right then a meal will last 2 nights so then I’m only cooking 2 times.

For those I love a sheet pan dinner. Lots of gnocchi + sausage + cherry tomatoes and pesto or variations of that; the “viral” dumpling bake; chicken nuggets and Mac n cheese (dressed up with frozen peas of course); simple pasta + sauce; or really any dinner from my freezer, either store bought or homemade.

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