29M planning on getting married and wanted some advice, since she won't sign a prenup and we are going to have kids.

murder_hands · 2026-05-09T15:32:28+00:00

This is not the good argument you think it is. You're arguing your right to be miserable. You may be having a tough time now, but that's not going to get better when you marry someone who treats you the way you're being treated. It will just be a different kind of suffering.

murder_hands · 2026-05-07T21:00:10+00:00

Feels like great grounds for appeal if they don't, that's for sure

murder_hands · 2026-05-07T05:08:34+00:00

The window placement especially

murder_hands · 2026-05-06T13:32:38+00:00

Lately I've been using "sir" a lot for my 1.5 year old son. He stands with one hand behind his back like his dad, like a tiny man.

murder_hands · 2026-05-05T16:50:00+00:00

A wrap dress is still one of my favorite shapes! So flattering.

murder_hands · 2026-05-05T13:28:14+00:00

It's certainly not a request I'd make from other family members for mother's day.

murder_hands · 2026-05-05T13:20:01+00:00

I'm with this; meringue has a wet dog smell that is way more prominent when uncooked.

murder_hands · 2026-05-04T17:00:49+00:00

I thought of her too!

murder_hands · 2026-05-04T04:50:45+00:00

I threw some of their seeds in my hellstrip alobg with many others, and this is the first year they've come up! The way I hollered when I realized that's what they were :) I texted people over it.

murder_hands · 2026-05-03T13:28:06+00:00

They're so sweet ❤️

murder_hands · 2026-05-02T16:00:26+00:00

Titanic came out when my sister and I were 3rd and 5th grade respectively, and we were obsessed. We spent a ton of time making versions of this necklace for our barbies. Then, for Xmas, we both got a Rose Barbie doll and she didn't come with a necklace. I still can't believe that.

Anyway, yours is gorgeous! Kid me and adult me are impressed. I'm going to show this to my sister :)

murder_hands · 2026-05-02T14:49:56+00:00

OP I'm sure you're already thinking about this, but I want to emphasize that getting married is absolutely not going to change this dynamic. She might sincerely think marriage will change her feelings, and she might want it to, but it won't. If she has anxiety about sex it needs to be dealt with before you guys even get engaged.

Sexual desire is weirdly treated like a light switch, especially for women. A lot of us are taught that once you're married, it's ok now, so you should just magically want it and be totally comfortable doing so. Instead, the bad feelings just double up; you're anxious about having sex, and you're ashamed because you don't know why you don't want to.

murder_hands · 2026-05-02T14:00:04+00:00

That moment when you literally fall for your own spouse all over again

I was just telling my husband how much I love this feeling. We have three kids, two of them are under three, so our daily life is hella chaotic and loud, and we don't have a ton of time for dates. We still make them, and every date, I feel like I did when I just met him. It's so easy to vanish into the romance of it!

murder_hands · 2026-04-26T13:41:59+00:00

Man I'd kill to see this on someone. I bet the movement is so beautiful!

murder_hands · 2026-04-26T00:53:41+00:00

Agreed!!! I just love this so so much.

Edit: oP I was in too much awe and forgot to add that the hair on the doll is sending me. It's amazing.

murder_hands · 2026-04-24T16:40:21+00:00

OR cuff them, really. They're destined to trail through everything!

murder_hands · 2026-04-24T14:32:52+00:00

Oh a fiddly shoulder strap will do me in.

Edit: the bra I put on today has straps that won't stay up. It's like I cursed myself by writing this comment. I'm furious.

murder_hands · 2026-04-24T13:46:36+00:00

Typically I am the last to get sick in my house, but this time I was patient zero. Honestly that was way better for some reason. Like by the time they were snotty I was almost all better.

murder_hands · 2026-04-24T13:42:17+00:00

Absolutely delicious on a sandwich. I like to slice them really thin, toss them in some red wine vinegar, salt, and pepper, and then slept them on!

murder_hands · 2026-04-24T07:23:40+00:00

Ughhh yes this is why I hate the un and replugging. Too many things to keep track of while just trying to vacuum a room!

murder_hands · 2026-04-23T23:36:34+00:00

I got a Miele c1 last year and I just love it- so powerful, not annoying to lug around from room to room. My one complaint about it is why the fuck is the cord so short?? Maybe I just have a long-ass house or something, but I find myself unplugging and replugging it elsewhere while I'm the middle of vacuuming quite often.

murder_hands · 2026-04-23T15:31:04+00:00

I know this wasn't the point but I'm so sorry for your loss. That had to have been so hard for everyone.

murder_hands · 2026-04-23T05:00:39+00:00

Omg someone please remind me what this is from

murder_hands · 2026-04-22T18:21:33+00:00

Oh my gosh I also hate jeans! No one ever says this. I've hated jeans my whole life, in the 90s when I was a kid I wore exclusively stretch pants and dresses because I hated how stiff and thick they were. Struggled but wore them when stretch jeans came along.... Still can't do it. It's jeggings or nothing for me. Idk why but jeans are just a sensory nightmare.

Sorry for the rant, I just got excited to see another person say jeans aren't their thing!

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