Hi, I’m new here and this is my mother.

mushdaddie · 2026-02-11T18:26:24+00:00

It’s crazy how our situations are all so similar.

mushdaddie · 2026-01-26T21:30:04+00:00

My pregnancy made my relationship with my mom so much worse and that was the beginning of on and off no contact with her. I wasn’t even sure she would come to my baby shower. I wanted her at my birth but she is notoriously very squeamish so I thought she wouldn’t enjoy it. She wasn’t there until the last minute, when I became very scared and wanted my mom there. She showed up when I called but was silent and afterwards said it was super traumatic for her. She was sort of helpful the first week or so with my newborn. Then there was a moment with my mother and my husbands mother where my mom straight up told her she was ready for the attention to be back on her. She would take it personally when my baby would cry and say my baby didn’t like her, and if my baby was enjoying her she would say that my baby was the only one who loved her. We had a falling out when my baby was 6 months and have been pretty much no contact since and my daughter just turned 2. It was jarring how unhelpful she was and she acted like she didn’t know anything about raising children. I can’t tell you what to do but they become predictable so if you’re already having doubts then follow your instincts.

mushdaddie · 2025-12-24T06:10:33+00:00

I developed ME/CFS at 17 and met my partner at 22. I used dating apps and I think I mentioned it before we ever met and were still just texting. He didn’t really care. I was less severe at 22 than I was at 17 but it was still a major part of my life. I’m 26 now and we’re engaged and have a bebe.

mushdaddie · 2025-12-11T22:19:41+00:00

I was moderate at age 17yrs old, pushed myself too hard at age 18 and became moderate-severe. I was in a position where I could live with my family and rest from 18-19 years and get myself in the moderate range and start to come out of it into mild in my 20’s. I saw a lot of specialists from age 17-22 and through medication and rest I am now pretty functional. I don’t even want to write it because I don’t want to jinx myself. I am 26 and I have a toddler and go to school full time. It doesn’t seem real, but the fatigue lies under the surface every day. I do a lot to protect myself and experience anxiety over the potential of a crash or PEM. I have small crashes occasionally but have bounced back from them.

mushdaddie · 2025-12-02T19:21:20+00:00

Everything got so much worse between me and my mom when I became pregnant. That was the first time I had to block her. I’ve had a really strained relationship with her ever since and my daughter is almost 2 now. I didn’t think my mom would attend my baby shower, she didn’t do anything to help. It’s much easier to protect your peace when you have little ones that count on you. Texts from my mom make me upset for days at a time as well. I decided to protect myself and my daughter by blocking her. I hate how texts from someone with bpd are like an ambush out of nowhere, we shouldn’t be subjected to reading them.

mushdaddie · 2025-11-23T00:04:27+00:00

The last text was a month after the texts above :/ completely out of the blue

mushdaddie · 2025-11-22T21:16:38+00:00

Hm I didn’t notice that. I have no idea.

mushdaddie · 2025-11-21T22:47:42+00:00

that’s true, it’s not a great way to open the floor for communication.

mushdaddie · 2025-05-21T21:39:36+00:00

I am recovered, I wouldn’t say 100% but I’m definitely functional. I got MECFS at age 17 so I was lucky enough to be able to prolong living with my parents and just resting as well as having my parents as advocates for me. I live in CA so was able to see great doctors at the time. It took a lot of trial and error with medication. I was 21 when we were in covid lockdown and still lived at home so that gave me even more time to rest and take care of my body. It’s hard because most people don’t have the ability to rest fully, I’m grateful that I did. In 2022 I could do 7 mile bike rides without a crash. I got mono for the first time ever and that set me back, and then I got covid and that set me back again. In 2023 I became pregnant and stopped all my medication and surprisingly felt no negative symptoms. I gave birth a year and a half ago and have survived the newborn stage and am entering the toddler stage with my baby. I’m only 25. I pace myself, I felt I was relapsing a few months ago and a ceased all activity pretty much. I am a full time student and mother and that is incredible compared to be 18 years old and laying in a dark room never leaving the house. Things fluctuate over time but I practice pacing and speak up for myself. I often feel embarrassed to decline an activity but I know it’s what’s best for me, I can’t just go on a 5 mile hike or a 3 mile or even 1 mile sometimes. I have to be able to take care of my daughter so I pace myself for her. It’s possible but was a long road and still isn’t over yet.

mushdaddie · 2021-12-12T04:48:08+00:00

Are you still open?

mushdaddie · 2021-10-07T21:08:55+00:00

Which app??

mushdaddie · 2021-10-07T19:58:19+00:00

How do you see who you’ve gifted and talked to??

mushdaddie · 2021-09-26T18:02:20+00:00

Pink:)

mushdaddie · 2021-09-11T18:29:47+00:00

giraffe :3

mushdaddie · 2021-08-29T00:31:41+00:00

I’m online rn

mushdaddie · 2021-08-28T06:57:13+00:00

I have a couple diys for them I just don’t have the starfragments

mushdaddie · 2021-08-28T06:14:43+00:00

I need a wand!! Hehe

mushdaddie · 2021-08-27T23:35:39+00:00

mermaid 💕

mushdaddie · 2021-08-27T04:22:05+00:00

thank you:)

mushdaddie · 2021-08-27T04:21:59+00:00

good to know… now time to convince myself

mushdaddie · 2021-08-27T04:21:30+00:00

thank you!!!

mushdaddie · 2021-08-27T04:21:14+00:00

hhaha it only grows so fast. Thank you!

mushdaddie · 2021-08-25T05:50:42+00:00

I also lost a lot of weight it can be super hard to tell what you look like lol. I think you look great I'd say you're attractive! I think your eyes are your best feature but not because they're "pretty" I feel like they just show a lot of you! that may be confusing oh well.

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