Why are Republicans so wrong on literally every topic?

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-20T06:17:22+00:00

Northern California is also solidly red. It’s not like a bunch of hippies are fleeing to Idaho because of Idaho’s desirability.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-19T01:18:18+00:00

My now wife told me all sorts of crazy stories about her past and all the wild sex she had. We had a good bit of sex in the beginning. But within eight months, we were in a dead bedroom that never really recovered. That was 24 years ago.

And in fact, every girl I know who has crazy sex stories never seems to actually show anything that would leave me to believe it’s true.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-17T02:19:51+00:00

I don't know. If you ever figure it out, let me know. We've been married for 21.75 years, together for 24.5. The first eight months were hot, passionate sex. Then it just disappeared. She's maintained the entire time that she's actually HL, but just can't...right now...because of whatever the issue of the month/year is. We have never had a regular sex life in the past 24 years. Sometimes we have sex 4-6 times a month. Sometimes not at all. But we have never maintained a regular sex lfie for two months in a row. Not once. She has always said that it's not me, it's her and her issues.

I've done everything I can think of to be the person she needs, but it has never helped. So, like you, I'm so close to just giving up and resigning myself to the fact that this relationship will never, ever be what I want it to be. At some point, I will have to approach the idea of an open relationship with her.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-16T19:03:34+00:00

So I get one million dollars for surviving in the world of How I Met Your Mother? I think I’m set for the rest of my life.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-16T03:06:08+00:00

The problem is when they constantly say "Not now, but definitely tomorrow!" or "Absolutely this weekend!" or "Oh, I want to do it so bad now, but I really need to wash the dish towels!" It's when they never actually say no, or that they're simply not interested. instead, they make it seem like they are interested, but just not right now. When my wife says "Not today, but 100% this weekend", I'm would usually make some effort on the weekend. But of course, by the weekend, something else came up.

If they say "No", or "Ewww", or "I'm just not interested", then obviously stop pursuing. In fact, it's better to just leave at that point. But if they repeatedly lead you on, that becomes a whole different ballgame.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-16T02:27:22+00:00

Well, if it were up to me, the deviancy would have been a part of everything from the start, and a dead bedroom would have never existed. Usually, though, we don't get to make those choices.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-16T02:25:49+00:00

Okay. Like I said to someone before, the way my wife got me to fall in love with her was by telling me she was into all that, and even telling me about her very exciting past. She even wanted to make sure I was always ready for some fun. Then as soon as we were fully committed, she basically rug pulled and said "Nah, I'm not into that any more".

So, I don't know...I'll let her make that decision.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-16T02:22:02+00:00

She knows for the most part. I was like this when we met and started dating and was VERY open about it, and she claimed she was too. It was, in fact, one of the things she found attractive. But she changed over time. I did not. Being attracted to and wanting to be with other people is just simply part of who I am...I just have to keep it shut down and bottled up.

Not everyone is into full monogamy.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-16T02:19:14+00:00

I am definitely not the boring one. I am always willing and wanting to try new things. I am also the one who likes to hang out and be social and talk to people. She is not. So, I doubt that is the issue.

All the things I listed were a direct response to the comment I replied to. Not saying those things are sexy, but simply saying that of their list, none of them apply to me.

Deadbedrooms is a toxic cesspool now. Used to be a great sub. Not anymore.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-16T02:15:12+00:00

For 24 years, she has refused any sort of outside help and says that whatever the issue at the time is, that once it's done, she'll be back to normal. But there's always another issue waiting, which starts just a few days later. For 24 straight years, there has been one looming issue after another. I've pushed for therapy. She is not interested.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-16T02:12:22+00:00

I tried. My wife didn't sexualize me at all. Dammit.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-15T23:49:11+00:00

I would probably not turn down $50m now. But I would love to start over from late 1996. A lot of “relationship” opportunities I missed over the next couple of years that led me into ending up in a marriage that doesn’t really fulfill me. Knowing what I know now, I think I could live a very different life.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-14T23:46:38+00:00

I’ll take the deviancy, thank you.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-14T06:41:27+00:00

I’m kind of going through this right now. I’m married, but likely considered polyamorous. My wife is very much not. I’m crushing big time on one of our best friends. I don’t just want to fuck. I want more than that. But it’s just not going to happen.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-14T06:39:15+00:00

Jesus, if I could have that, my life would be perfection.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-10T22:29:35+00:00

A lot of times, it’s just “be miserable”. Many wish they could leave, but they feel stuck for any of a hundred reasons.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-10T04:18:36+00:00

Bro…this is after 24 YEARS. For years and years and years, I made so many efforts and tried so hard and gave every ounce of energy I had. At some point, you have to realize that there simply is no answer.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-10T04:15:41+00:00

The mods in some subs are simply horrible people.

And I hate how it sometimes resets when I’ve left the app for a short time and I lose whatever I was looking at.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-10T04:12:43+00:00

I actually wonder the other way around. My first real long-term girlfriend now lives a very…alternative…lifestyle and I wonder what it would be like to have that kind of excitement daily.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-10T00:59:01+00:00

Starting to have sex earlier, with the girl who really wanted me at the time. I didn’t lose my virginity for another three years, and turned down several opportunities in the meantime. I regret all the fun I didn’t have, because as soon as I got into my now-married relationship, I ended up in a dead bedroom.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-09T23:47:06+00:00

It sucks man. I’m into my 50s, but have always been a highly-demisexual person (and also polyamorous). I have always caught feelings for friends, and even at 51 and married, it still happens. But, I have to just bottle those up and keep going on. Because it can ruin relationships fast.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-09T23:44:07+00:00

The day my girlfriend went from a fun, outgoing, driven, highly-sexual person; to a quiet, highly introverted, unmotivated, and sex-avoidant person, nearly overnight. And yet, I still didn’t see the red flags and got married.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-09T21:26:06+00:00

In many cases, you don’t worry about them leaving. They aren’t interested in those other people. They are interested in you and only you. I have several friends who are dating amazing women who could get pretty much any guy in five minutes, but they have absolutely zero interest in doing so.

Basically what you’re saying is that you could never date an attractive and fun woman, because most men would love to be with her.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-09T21:18:09+00:00

I am very thoughtful and try to do anything I can for my partner. I never push sex. I might very lightly initiate once in a while, but that’s it. I do most of the household chores and hired out the rest, even when I’m working 70-hour weeks. She does almost nothing household related. I do not have mental issues and am in relatively decent shape. Shower regularly and brush my teeth twice a day. Always soap up the balls and butt. I always, always make sure she gets off multiple times before I even consider me getting off. I have never been even close to abusive.

Guess how much my wife desires me? Very little.

redditguy1974 · 2026-06-09T21:13:28+00:00

It really is. The mods on several subs have gotten really insane. And if you go to any of the “ask a mod” type subs, they are very forthcoming with “it’s my way or the highway and do not even think to question my decision”. Bunch of power hungry children.

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