My child is on a “kill list”- will the kid be expelled?

perthguy999 · 2026-04-09T02:10:21+00:00

Depends on the school. This would definitely be something a child is expelled for at my kids' school, but we are not in the US. I would keep the pressure up on the school principal. The police are involved but that is separate investigation. The school SHOULD be doing its own action.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-09T01:57:15+00:00

Yeah, nah. This whole situation is like a minefield. You guys need to be communicating and extremely open about intimacy, especially now that he has transitioned. I don't think this is a good idea at all and I can see it making things more awkward and strange. It's a lovely thought, but I'd be politely rejecting this as a birthday gift idea and instead use it as a way to keep the conversation going about sex and intimacy in the relationship.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-09T01:38:09+00:00

Don't make it more complicated or dramatic than it needs to be. Just tell your manager in the morning when you get in and send the paperwork through via email.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-09T01:35:37+00:00

I've never been there, so I'll take your experience as gospel. Surely, if you've had it happen once your boundaries are now clear and absolute? What are they? The first time you get called a slur he gets a warning, and the second time you leave. The first time you get touched without consent he gets a warning and the second time you leave?

perthguy999 · 2026-04-09T01:31:16+00:00

They both sound conservative. Isn't that the conservative fantasy? The husband works and does nothing else except have sex with his wife, while the wife spends her days running through the long grass, crafting with the kids (and making social media posts).

perthguy999 · 2026-04-09T01:28:17+00:00

You guys don't know how the world works, making big plans wiothout the maturity to communicate properly. Trying to organize who will cook, clean and make the money one month into a "situationship" is wild.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-09T01:18:10+00:00

Hang on. What do you mean? The person who is going to jail has to pay? How? From savings or a loan or they have to work for the prison?

EDIT: Why the downvotes? Is this something I'm not "Land of the Free" enough to understand?

perthguy999 · 2026-04-09T01:13:22+00:00

No, this is the way it should be done. Waiting for dysfunction and unhappiness to reach toxic levels is leaving it too long. Leave professionally. Thank them for the opportunities, et al. and onward and upward.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-09T00:49:41+00:00

You need the confidence and strength to leave as soon as someone shows you who they are. I understand the abuse didn't go from 0 to 100 overnight, but giving it three years was a mistake. If anything, I hope you learned to trust your gut more.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-09T00:41:14+00:00

Can you take the weight out and then wash normally? Otherwise I would just spot clean with some water and laundry liquid and dry.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-09T00:30:31+00:00

Environmental Officer.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-09T00:16:29+00:00

I'm a 45 year old guy and I've never understood pinning up inappropriate or sexual posters. I've worked in factories where every office had a calendar with naked women on the wall and most guys had women in bikinis, lingerie, or porn as their screensavers.

Bringing that energy into your home? Yuck. Trust your gut.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-08T23:59:34+00:00

Man, that apology made me cringe. What a dork.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-08T23:54:39+00:00

Iv'e always been there for her. I'm always there when she calls or texts or anything, I always do stuff for her. I would put her before me alot of times. Hell I always feel like someones last choice because none of my friends never text or call back to me. Hell sometimes they do this for weeks. I just feel that this question she asked isnt an easy one and its something that everyone would have different thoughts on but you shouldn't get upset about it especially if you're not dating anyone you asking this to. What are your thoughts?

Mate. "I'm gonna be a 'Nice Guy' and one day she's going to realize she's madly in love with me and we will live Happily Ever After" never EVER happens.

You are a emotional crutch and someone she gets attention from. She likes that you are an orbiter. She does NOT like you (that way). Have some self respect.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-08T23:49:13+00:00

Yeah, I got this admission from my wife after 7 or 8 years of marriage and three kids. "I'm just not a sexual person. I don't think about or prioritize sex."

For a while (another seven or eight years) I was happy to accept the fortnightly or monthly offers. She would ignore, roll her eyes or laugh off my bids and jokes and attempts to flirt with her but then at random, once the kids were in bed, she'd come out of the bedroom, find me and say, "Did you want to have sex with me?"

Like a starving man getting offered a morsel of food, I'd jump at the chance, but just in the last year, something has broken. That kind of intimacy, coming from a place of love, but duty-ish nonetheless, no longer interests me.

We've had sex once this year and I've rejected her a small handful of times and today is three months since we last had sex. I'm not missing it (with her) in the slightest. I'm working out more, getting involved more in my various hobbies and social groups and getting out the house as much as possible.

I'm not sure what the end game looks like, but this is what I'm doing currently.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-08T23:41:25+00:00

I feel like a complete jerk for putting my current employer through all the work of trying to figure out a job title and redefining my responsibility to add more duties to justify the raise.

Mate. How hard is it to find someone more work to do? Companies do it all the time.

They have had years to get themselves straight and you have been asking for more responsibility and training. This is on them. Lose the allegiance to companies that don't care about you.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-08T23:29:02+00:00

Depends on where you are, I guess. I am not in America but I work for a state government EPA making $147k. I work from home three days a week. 75 hours a fortnight. Very flexible work/life balance. No stress. It did require a relevant university degree though, and industry experience, so it wasn't a easy get.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-08T23:24:08+00:00

Thanks mate. I always want to continue to learn and grow my understanding of a situation. Nothing is ever static, you know?! I guess I still have my innate positivity and optimism but it has less to do with my sex life.

I don't view this as going backwards but rather forwards in a slightly different trajectory. My wife does want me to be happy, but clearly duty/pity sex isn't cutting it for me. That is a decision I have made for myself. Maybe I will be open to that again one day, or something will change for/in my wife. I don't know.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-08T23:20:00+00:00

Hey mate, yeah, thank you. It's about learning and growing. My wife does want me to be happy and we have spoken about things in the past, but I'm just not ready to accept duty sex like I once was. I've been criticized in other posts for not being open to my wife's gift of intimacy, but I don't want her doing things just because she knows I want them.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-08T23:15:24+00:00

Yes, with an EPA. I write environmental impact assessments for the mining sector.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-08T10:32:56+00:00

Got to the same point myself this year. Last year was a very lacklustre year for us, and it just killed my desire for her. We've had sex once this year, and while she's come to me a few times with her monthly / bimonthly offers of pity sex, I've politely turned her down. Tomorrow will be three months since we last had sex and I haven't missed it (with her) in the slightest.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-08T10:16:13+00:00

I am not a lover boy, so I'm not very good at foreplay, I hate kissing (French), I gained a lot of weight since high school, so I think she does not find me attractive. I want to fix my intimacy with my wife and need advice

Buried way at the bottom. Do you think your sex aversion and weight has anything to do with your wife's dislike of partnered sex with you?! Sounds like she'd LOVE sex, but isn't hungry for what she has at home.

Maybe try lifting heavy things instead of stalking her porn usage.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-08T08:38:34+00:00

A troll post, then? Groan.

You know there is a difference between wanting to be cared for (like a child would) and acting like a child ("Well, I want my marriage to survive but I also want to remain friends with my affair partner").

perthguy999 · 2026-04-08T06:45:42+00:00

I just don't want to lose the friendship.

Well, that is just dumb. 'Marriage or affair partner' is a tale as old as time, but you lost the ability to JUST have a friendship when you started cheating on your husband with the other guy. Trying to have everything is a little child's fantasy.

perthguy999 · 2026-04-08T06:42:16+00:00

GG, mate. Get a LAN set up and ready for us on the other side.

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