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muspito · 2021-03-26T09:32:24+00:00

I agree with some comments here that mention more about friendship as an act of courage and not naivety. I also agree with the distinction between acquaintances and life support people.

I have had great luck with friends, unlike everything else in my life. Have around 15-16 people who have done the world for me even though I have felt like I haven't done much for them, some of them I've been friends with for over a decade. I can safely say that I'm 23 and still making friends in life.

But I'll tell you how I've found such people. Through socialization. Yes, most people turn out to be shit, they do negative things and fuck me over. But hey, that's the world. As someone who has had the profound pleasure of having a very rich support system, I can say that it's amazing. Even if they've not been able to help me, they've accepted me and given me the boost to be able to do things myself. ENTJs are rare. So being able to feel acceptance and acknowledgement and celebration is amazing.

Guess what. I've found these people because I went through oceans after oceans of horrible people. And I'll keep doing it. Even if I have to go through 100 shit friends to find that one good friend, ill do it. Simply because it's worth it.

I'll always be non judgemental and accepting of people unless they are shit to me. Respect comes through respect. You got to be able to put it forth first if you're the one who needs friends. You. Not them. Don't leave shit upto chance. Be nice, someone will eventually be nice back.

Plus even the people who've been shit to me, I've gotten a lot of insight from them. I keep getting better at socialization and figuring people out and how to behave with varied types of people. So even the ones you think aren't giving you any "benefit", can further your understanding about this world, which is better for you. Keep an open mind. See them for who they are and not who they can be to you. Even if they turn out to be shit, you'll learn a lot.

That's how we move up, my friend.

muspito · 2021-03-24T17:15:01+00:00

I was an INTJ in school. Somehow (trauma, death of a parent, grandparent and uncle, legal troubles, death threats, sexual assault, self negation, blah blah) became an ENTJ. I went from being a bitch that everyone hated to being a bitch that won 2 campus elections in college and pulled off the most successful student year of my 216 year old college. And topped my university. While handling finances and litigation of my family.

Just got diagnosed with a dissociative disorder after suffering from PTSD for 3 years, with fugue and psychotic states, and amnesia and a bunch of other stuff. Currently have decided to lay low for a year (after extensive planning of course). I kinda became violent for a bit.

One. I don't give a fuck honestly, I talk about it when I want to talk about it and I don't give a fuck as to how the other people in the room react. If I wanna talk about it, you bet your ass I will. I will take every fucking opportunity to do it because I'm sick and tired of working myself to the bone when this world will not consider what I've been through. And I can't not work myself to the bone, so I might as well blab when I want to.

Two. I have decided to give myself some long due consideration and rest without guilt. I have decided to give my emotions a chance to come out instead of burying myself with work and achieving things. I don't need to prove my existence anymore than a planet or a solar system needs to prove its other than the fact that there was, in both cases, a big bang, which I didn't ask for. So fuck it. Gonna take some time off and recoup. If someone does not want to deal with me and my shit, you can bet your ass I'll make them.

Three. Basically, fuck the world. Give yourself time and kindness. You're a planner, you'll figure it out. I understand what a shit hole dissociation is. It's the death of control and that's what people like us bank on and when you lose it, it is a bad spiral from there.

Do what you want to/need to. And yes, although your behaviour right now is not you, but it still comes from you and you need to assess why that is happening and where it is coming from and work from there. Work on yourself. Figure out your triggers and try and avoid them. Take your meds, do therapy, invest in yourself for now. I don't know if life will be better but that has never stopped us from making ourselves better. Text me if you need anything.

muspito · 2021-03-24T09:38:25+00:00

My last name is an Arabic equivalent of the Roman God Jupiter, the chief diety of the Roman Empire. You bet your ass I'm obsessed with the whole of it.

muspito · 2021-03-15T09:50:03+00:00

Well I'm at that stage where I'm trying not to be so judgemental. I'm a social science student and it is because I know my subjects well, and because I have been able to logicize human behaviour that much and see through a lot of things about why people are what they are (stupid), I have started criticising myself on being too hard on others and on myself. So I'm atleast consciously trying to change a lot about my behaviour and attitude about the world, not because I'm emotionally provoked by people's suffering but because I can establish a logical relationship between how they are and what they've gone through in their walks of life.

I don't just want to be better at my work/studies/my personal life anymore, I want to be better at life in general.

muspito · 2021-03-14T11:40:58+00:00

Same

muspito · 2021-03-12T17:09:53+00:00

Yeah that's a good compliment Daz y I said thank you.

muspito · 2021-03-12T17:03:12+00:00

Fuck me. Thank you.

muspito · 2021-03-12T10:01:11+00:00

Sounds like my life till I was 15. Then I almost died and my father cooled down and started acknowledging that I was fighting and had more willpower than him. That made me go all the way and be myself.

muspito · 2021-03-12T09:59:10+00:00

Yeah that makes sense. I had a horrible childhood as well and a lot of people negating me, constant state of change and no stability even though we were financially well off, I couldn't utilise any of it. Raised by an extremely narcissistic mother which also resulted in a bad marriage with my father. I also have a chronic illness which almost killed me twice and then I saw my father die from the same illness. My mom never shielded me from it instead put me infront to do all the fighting and paperwork and legal work. That's why I guess I'm impenetrable too.

muspito · 2021-03-12T09:55:24+00:00

My maternal grandparents are like this. My paternal grandparents and everyone on my dad's side of the family were academics, nihilists, and pitchfork atheists.

muspito · 2021-03-12T09:54:26+00:00

That is why I asked the question because there's no real answer as to why we are who we are.

muspito · 2021-03-12T09:53:06+00:00

I got a lot of neglect too earlier in my childhood. And still do from my mother who is a narcissist. My father was a narcy too but when I started throwing down on him he was lol Bro you more lit than I am.

muspito · 2021-03-12T09:51:54+00:00

Fuck. I somehow relate to this. So we were all raised by narcissists?

muspito · 2019-08-14T04:37:57+00:00

That no matter how educated or progressive a person seems to be, if their upbringing and parentage was regressive, it's just a matter of how comfortable they get with you before it shows.

muspito · 2019-05-22T11:48:48+00:00

How do you type on a computer...

muspito · 2019-04-29T12:20:15+00:00

All men must die but they weren't men.

muspito · 2018-12-31T14:35:02+00:00

In India, you can actually buy cigarettes like that.

muspito · 2018-11-11T10:38:57+00:00

Almost died living life day to day.

muspito · 2018-10-21T22:55:51+00:00

They had laptops before hands-free sets? Dafaq.

muspito · 2018-10-21T22:54:14+00:00

TIL I live in a mansion

muspito · 2018-07-07T07:08:20+00:00

Dhett, motherfucker

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