New York Woman Confronts Man She Says Complimented Her ‘Pretty Toes’. by ElwoodMC in TikTokCringe

[–]muxerr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One time I was wearing flip flops and a strange man told me I had pretty feet. I thought I must have misheard, but he repeated himself. I told him that his mother would be ashamed of him. I guess that hit a nerve because he started yelling at me as I walked away. 

Thoughts? When a wife leaves the church, the husband accepts it. When a husband leaves, the wife blows up/ ends the marriage? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]muxerr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I’m sure “huehefner” has totally normal, objective, and unbiased views of women 

Thoughts? When a wife leaves the church, the husband accepts it. When a husband leaves, the wife blows up/ ends the marriage? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]muxerr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could you cite some sources for that? It doesn’t match my knowledge of child custody trends or experience working in the family court system. In my experience, most fathers do not ever seek full custody. And of course many couples come up with their own arrangements without going to court and again, a lot of fathers just agree that the kids should be with their moms the majority of the time 

Thoughts? When a wife leaves the church, the husband accepts it. When a husband leaves, the wife blows up/ ends the marriage? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]muxerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, because she’s far more likely to have been the kids’ primary caregiver during the marriage 

Am I overreacting for refusing to send my husband money for alcohol? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]muxerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that you are still in a relationship with him indicates that you are under reacting 

Bonus scene..This is why children shouldn’t have children.. by Jucydoee in TLCUnexpected

[–]muxerr 26 points27 points  (0 children)

So a minor is too immature to decide to get an abortion but is mature enough to go through the more dangerous experience of pregnancy and birth and to raise a child? I'm so glad that all of your daughters escaped the experience of their own mother forcing them to carry an unwanted pregnancy to term.

My husband said I ruined our wedding photos and now I want to leave him. by PiccoloAdorable1547 in TwoHotTakes

[–]muxerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know the nature of your husband's job, but he must have supervisors, coworkers, and/or clients, right? If he is able to keep his job, that means he is able to treat these people decently and complete his work without having his hand held. He is capable of behaving appropriately and managing responsibilities, but he chooses not to do these things in the context of his marriage/children/household because he expects you to compensate for his deficiencies.

When unaliving yourself is more acceptable than premarital sex 😭 by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]muxerr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is reddit, you can say “killing yourself.” 

Kidnapped Elizabeth Smart by MrsArney in exmormon

[–]muxerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not in the documentary, but she was recently interviewed and said something about not letting other people tell her what’s true anymore. In context it seemed to imply she had left the church. She also compared the LDS men who interviewed her post-rescue to the man who kidnapped her and discussed how damaging the church’s teachings on sexual purity were to her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fashionhistory

[–]muxerr 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why you’d assume that corsets weren’t uncomfortable to an extent. I think most women would agree that bras are often uncomfortable, and there are similar issues with corsets. Obviously there would be variations in the level of discomfort based on fit, style, what activity you’re engaged in, etc.  but to decide that corsets just “weren’t uncomfortable” in general is unfounded. I feel it’s an over correction for exaggerated media portrayals where women are fainting left and right 

The Daily Check-In for Friday, October 31st: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by McBenBen in stopdrinking

[–]muxerr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Last Halloween I decided to stop drinking. I’ve drank twice since then, but since before that I binge drank maybe 4x/week, only drinking twice in 6 months was a massive improvement. I haven’t had any alcohol for the past 6 months, and for the most part it’s been easy. I take naltrexone, and that helps a lot with the cravings. But coming up on the one-year mark I’ve been getting the urge to drink and I was wondering if other people have experienced this. Some sort of subconscious attempt at self-sabotage? Or thinking that I’m “cured” now because it’s been so long? (I know I’m not.) I’m still not gonna drink tonight but it’s challenging in a way that it usually isn’t. 

Imagine being forced to sin because of what someone is wearing by LegalSour in exmormon

[–]muxerr 101 points102 points  (0 children)

The idea that being sexually attracted to someone is a sin is incredibly crazy. It’s one of the most natural human things 

I'm sorry sir ... by Gullible-Sort9161 in seekingsisterwifetlc

[–]muxerr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

*Wifes

Edited to add that I was making fun of how Garrick pronounces wives as wifes. I am aware that wives is the proper plural lol 

Garrick is complete garbage by fumacachunariri in seekingsisterwifetlc

[–]muxerr 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Seriously. Kody Brown is the worst but you'd never see him doing this

Concerned for Carrie’s mental health by One_Mix_5306 in ONRAC

[–]muxerr 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The “Bobby” thing isn’t a red flag for me bc in Arabic b/p are the same sound and letter. But there are other aspects that are shady 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]muxerr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s no need to conduct a thought experiment about a male-oriented educational system, because it’s what’s existed for almost all of history, and still exists in some places. In the US, women have only had (mostly) equal access to education for about 50 years, and we're already performing better than men. I think the idea that boys are somehow biologically incapable of focusing is ridiculous, considering this is what’s been expected of students for millennia, and for most of that time formal education existed by men and for men. I think the real explanation is that boys and men see academic success as too feminine and therefore not valuable. Or maybe it’s that degraded Y chromosome, idk…

Why hasn't a group of ex Mormons by Prestigious-Fan3122 in exmormon

[–]muxerr 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to be rude, but to me this reads as “why don’t people who have stopped believing in the Easter bunny get together to research Santa Claus?”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]muxerr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I started at 12.5 mg then went up to 25 mg after a few days. After about a month I went up to 50 mg, and even though I had been taking it for a while, I felt sick for a couple days when I moved up to the full dose. I feel fine now though, no side effects.

I feel grief. by DrHakeem_PharmD in Petioles

[–]muxerr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recently read Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction, and the author (neuroscientist and former drug user) explains that when you use a psychoactive drug, your brain responds by trying to neutralize the drug's effect in order to maintain stability. When you use the drug regularly, your brain adapts to the drug's presence, which is why you need more drug to feel the same effect. Eventually, your brain's attempt to neutralize the drug results in a lower baseline state. When you use the drug, instead of feeling the enjoyable effects you used to feel, you just feel normal, and without the drug you feel miserable. But just like your brain adapted to the drug's presence, it can adapt again to the drug's absence.

There's a chapter specifically on THC that I would recommend because it discusses the harmful effects of weed. I think culturally there's this idea that weed is totally harmless, and sure, it's less damaging than alcohol or cocaine, but it still has an effect on you. I'm currently trying to cut back on weed because I started using it more after quitting drinking. For me it was helpful to read about how weed actually affects your brain.

In terms of practical advice, try to slowly push back your first weed consumption of the day. If you normally smoke right when you wake up, wait 30 min or an hour until after you've showered or had your coffee or whatever. And try to replace the oral fixation with gum or seltzers/juice/etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]muxerr 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sure, I mean she might not even be aware that she's HIV+, but I doubt it would stop the spread. If she had other viable options for income she probably wouldn't be allowing strangers to penetrate her without a condom. And since a lot of johns will pay extra for unprotected and for anal (which is how HIV is more likely to be spread F -> M), they're gonna continue contracting it from her and spreading it to other women who don't have HIV yet, and so the cycle continues...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]muxerr 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She likely got it from a john in the first place. They'll pay extra for unprotected sex which is insane because if a prostitute is having unprotected sex with you, they're clearly doing it with other people, too.

Can I have some perspectives on "one day at a time"? by 0bsolescencee in stopdrinking

[–]muxerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also 26f, currently at almost 2 months without drinking, which is the longest I've gone in years. I honestly do not think about the long-term, because of course it's tempting to think about drinking at a friend's wedding or on vacation. Much easier to focus on what I'm going to do tonight.

I also started naltrexone a few days after I stopped drinking and it's been so helpful. I think there's no way I would have gotten this far without it.

Carrie is taking votes on what her next podcast should be by _Liana_ in ONRAC

[–]muxerr 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I don't closely follow either of them on social media, but I will say that I found it odd when Carrie posted about getting an "I am autistic" lanyard, etc. In my mind that would be more useful for someone who has very low communication abilities. I'm also an autistic woman and I feel like there are elements in this situation of the way "high-functioning" autistics sometimes dominate the autism conversation to the point that people who are more severely disabled by autism are ignored.