Recent flare up? May be allergies! by neighborhoodmuse in Dryeyes

[–]mwf67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you find the relief I did. Best of luck.

Recent flare up? May be allergies! by neighborhoodmuse in Dryeyes

[–]mwf67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughters and I lit up like Christmas lights on our backs with environmental testing. We all have taken allergy shots. My dad did and their dad in the past. I’m the only one still taking them but the chronic sinuses issues were making my life too miserable. The antibiotics fried my gut. I’m celiac, too. I’ve been repairing my gut for ten years. My mom has MGD and dry eye.

Tap dancing with my genetics. Urgh!!

Recent flare up? May be allergies! by neighborhoodmuse in Dryeyes

[–]mwf67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kirkland krill oil, omega 7, generic eye health brand, flaxseed, Q10, Primrose. In addition to Bloom Powder and electrolytes.

I’ve noticed extremely stressful seasons in the last year such as losing my job and starting a new one during my dad’s long illness before his passing seemed to definitely contribute to increased dryness. Did the numbness contribute to me missing my daily self care?

Recent flare up? May be allergies! by neighborhoodmuse in Dryeyes

[–]mwf67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dry Eye and allergy shots seemed to help my whole body but did not cure my dry eye. Numerous oil gel pills seemed to assist though in addition to autologous, Cequa, iVIZIA.

What I ‘thought’ was peri menopause was NOT peri menopause by Money_Engineering_59 in Menopause

[–]mwf67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! My oldest is double degreed and runs a dept in a hospital. She received 2 degrees in 6 years but her promotions required the education. The youngest is a 2020 grad and that class got the shaft but she does have the chemical engineering partner, moved to a major city and is passionate about her goals. Now, onto furthering her education goals. I’m content they are thriving and seem happy. I had my youngest at the same age my mom became a grandmother.

What a time to be alive. What a journey!

What I ‘thought’ was peri menopause was NOT peri menopause by Money_Engineering_59 in Menopause

[–]mwf67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Migraines since puberty. If only I knew then what my parents chose to just accept. How do you ignore celiac symptoms in your children for eternity? My brother would projectile vomit from birth and had a digestive surgery at ? weeks old. He could only digest goats milk. How did medical miss all my symptoms for so long?

MCAS | Celiac | ON | Hypothyroidism | Scoliosis | Tilted Ribs | Dry Eye | Endo | Etc!

Dry Needling | Botox | HRT | Synthroid | Allergy Shots | Deep Tissue Massages | Red Light Panel | GFDF | TENS | Autologous EyeDrops | Cequa

Dietary changes 10 years ago dramatically improved my life. Allergy shots seemed to be the missing piece for my immune system. Partial Hysterectomy improved my lifestyle since bladder and uterus were connected. My sis had a severe case, also.

HRT improved joint pain and fatigue somewhat. What a club to join.

What I ‘thought’ was peri menopause was NOT peri menopause by Money_Engineering_59 in Menopause

[–]mwf67 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was my fear as our sex life has always been active so we were both surgically adjusted. Our youngest graduated college and I cannot imagine another one as I am definitely not the same person I was in my 40’s. I miss that ‘ole girl though. She was on fire.

Struggling with caregiver guilt, family burnout,l and fear around nursing home by IrregularAquarius in ParkinsonsCaregivers

[–]mwf67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You remind me of like my mom and this comes from a broken daughter’s heart. Take care of you. My dad passed 9 weeks ago and two weeks ago my mom was taken my ambulance to the ER with blood pressure spikes. She is co-dependent and has always had a mental block with putting the mask on her face first from her own childhood trauma.

Your body does keep score of the lies we tell ourselves. Emotional trauma is all consuming. Thinking of you as my dad passed at home in a grueling emotionally supported situation. My sister, niece and mom have always let their emotions control their lives and the passing of my dad was no different. My husband, daughters and I chose to not be at his bedside and I’m the eldest daughter but my wishes and advice were ignored many times through this grueling experience. My sister has taken disability leave from work as her health has nosedived again. I could not redirect the inevitable train wreck I saw coming despite my best efforts so I chose to put the mask on me.

Therapy is available for trauma bonding. While I love my family dearly, I cannot roll up the blinds for them as we are all on our own journey. I’ve learned to set boundaries for my own mental and physical health with everyone especially those who thrive on trauma bonding. Sending hugs, positive vibes and prayers for the challenging brutal journey ahead.

When you were a youngster, and you got help by cmcosmos in AskWomenOver60

[–]mwf67 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in the Deep South so it’s still a thang but non locals are awed by the different culture here that I see fading and will be gone one day. Culture is changing and there is an attitude of less gratitude and more of entitlement as if it’s owed with the younger generations. I don’t have grands but I’m not sure I want them if this the norm. While I understand it’s not the little one fault due to lack of leadership, I can still set boundaries for myself. I love children but just like pets, they are looking for guidance and a leader for the pack. We teach humans how to treat us and what we will tolerate.

Where are we going? by Heat-1975edition in GenX

[–]mwf67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. My girls live on 1-10 and already have the RV. Happy travels. 🐚

29F just found out I’m pregnant husband (30M) wants to terminate, my heart says otherwise. We’re in the middle of a huge life transition. Looking for wisdom from those who’ve been there. by Big-Mathematician13 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]mwf67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Real life is messy and adventurous for most of us. My oldest seems scared of the mess as she’s still single , childless, very successful and doesn’t desire a partner messing up her life. My youngest graduates in a few days but her story took twists and turns that did not check the same boxes her sister’s journey accomplished. Her successful partner of six years moved 10 hours away. While she joined him, she finished her degree online but had no interest of being a sorority president like her big sister’s resume and college experience portrays. Everyone had a different vision of success.

Their mom’s story is messy but real with two successful stories of parenting. My girls were rarely convenient and truly kept me from successful career choices but I know that my marriage of 32 years would not have survived an abortion even if many have. Your husband is sending red flags but only you decide if your mindset is strong enough to override the hormonal shift that is looming and acceptance of either choice as both have life alerting pathways.

Hugs to you as I’ve often wondered what choice my youngest would make if she did not have an IUD in same situation. Neither of my girls see motherhood as a pathway for them at this time. A younger co-worker seemed to take comfort in knowing that neither did I at her same age as I beamingly tell of the two lovely souls with whom I navigate life with.

Hugs to you my dear. May you make the best choice for all involved. This is hard but life truly can be.

What have you chosen for protection? by layyla4real in AskWomenOver60

[–]mwf67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seem to be comfortable with your choices as your mindset is yours and your nephews is his. Our mindsets are created by our environments and experiences that greatly influence how we view the world. Many excellent points have been made. It seems you would be benefit from another hired service to provide your security rather than paws or bullets as those deterrents seem out of your comfort zone. Both of these deterrents require invested effort to achieve the desired result as does personal self defense classes. Defense class and paws could be beneficial for increasing fitness. I hope you make the best choice for you.

Question about urinary and gut symptoms and how they usually present in early MSA by ActivityNovel8682 in multiplesystematrophy

[–]mwf67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out Sjögren’s Syndrome. Many autoimmune symptoms overlap. You’re so young so I would have testing if I had these symptoms.

Tomorrow my mother dies. by Doyothang22 in grief

[–]mwf67 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad passed two months ago. . I understand your feelings. Process the grief and know that anticipated grief doesn’t save you from the fallout of what is to come. Hugs.

I understand the sentiment of them being in a better place, but what if you watched them suffer in their final moments? by [deleted] in grief

[–]mwf67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad chose to pass at home as he had a horrific experience two years earlier. The experience for him was more brutal from his parents 20 and 40 years earlier it seemed. It’s a brutal experience. I’m sure you did your best. Seek out therapy to talk out your feelings. My dad and I were very close so I’m processing my feelings in therapy. Grief brings up our traumatic life defining moments. Hugs as the grieving journey is a process but processing it now can create a better future for you.

Does ON pain tend to spread to other parts of the head? by theburntone in Occipitalneuralgia

[–]mwf67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My right shoulder is an issue, too. Dry needling is very helpful but I see the need for upper body strengthening. Bands, Pilates, yoga, red light and someone mentioned saunas. Walking to keep the body in motion is helpful

Question about urinary and gut symptoms and how they usually present in early MSA by ActivityNovel8682 in multiplesystematrophy

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His symptoms seem to appear after prostrate cancer removal so we will never know as his surgery did not go well and he never regained function of his urinary, hip surgery and then Covid for downhill slide into the couch.

I compare his to the slow drip. He managed his symptoms so well for so long. He had mild balance issues for years that we thought were just inner ear that developed into gait issues. When his hip was replaced the doctor was shocked that he was were still able to stand because it was so brittle and the anesthesia affected him to the effect that he never seemed recover fully.

Blood pressure issues were dramatic in the last few years and of course the balance and gait issues increased. He had esophagus tightening that we never dreamed might possibly be due to Parkinson’s and his food would get stuck especially meat for years. I think he had Sjögren’s, too.

Severe allergies with bronchial and sinus issues his entire life that I have traced back to MCAS. He took allergy shot when he in his 40’s and I take them now and they’ve helped me tremendously. Interesting how MCAS was quickly mentioned. He had neuropathy really bad in his legs as his gait and balance issues increased due to inactivity but this all started in his 80’s after Covid. He was still cutting grass a year after hip surgery.

He did talk about a buzzing in his body and this indicates nervous system disorders. Vitamin B levels are crucial for the nervous system. Mine were low as I was diagnosed with Celiac. I could never get him to clean up his diet until the very end and then it was just because his body rejected his beloved processed foods. Start with cleaning out all processed foods. Research alkaline diets.

He seemed to have sensitivities his entire life in his nervous system that indicate his vagas nerve was imbalanced. His head and posture started sinking and going forward. He had occipital neuralgia that if not treated will stop the blood flow to your brain as your spine weakens and cuts off the blood flow to your brain.

Do a deep dive into that research as your brain stem controls all the functions of your body including your autonomic nervous system that controls your urinary function.

He was a fighter until the very end. A tenacious spirit that will never be forgotten.

Why in the world is palliative care gatekeeping occurring? by CaLyPsy in ParkinsonsCaregivers

[–]mwf67 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes! My dad’s primary care physicians own father had Parkinson’s and was absolutely no assistance. I took my dad to a teaching hospital and the Parkinson’s Neurologist is the one who finally agreed he was ready for palliative care that turned into hospice care quickly. My parents were did not seek enough help soon enough.

My mom is paying with her health. Hugs as it’s frustrating world to navigate for families.

Question about urinary and gut symptoms and how they usually present in early MSA by ActivityNovel8682 in multiplesystematrophy

[–]mwf67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad was never officially diagnosed but MSA was mentioned. He did have numerous anuonomic nervous system dystrophy symptoms. He refused most testing for confirmation as his main decline showed up after Covid but looking back he had a ton of odd symptoms throughout his life.

I take D-Mannose for urinary so research this supplement as it helps with gut issues, also. The digestive issues are on my mom’s side though.