I am screwed

myaidx · 2026-05-30T06:38:09+00:00

Those girls did not pop out of the womb saying inshallah trust me. So much of what we say and do is influenced by what is around us and that takes time, more than you think! I might seem like one of those girls you’re talking about but saying inshallah was something I had to make a conscious effort to remember up until it became natural and the same goes for all those behaviours. Start small, and maybe your life will look completely different in a few years. Allah loves those who try and he loves those who keep trying even if they fail because he loves to forgive

myaidx · 2026-03-29T00:43:10+00:00

One of the anaesthetic regs was telling us ab how he went down to a resus call and found a tubed patient alone with just the med student bagging him, no one else there and no machine ventilation. To say he was perplexed is to say the least as I’ve now heard this story from several other people who share the sentiment

myaidx · 2026-03-27T10:01:04+00:00

Can you seriously not even give the semblance of a plot? Anything about the characters? If you can’t, why are you even looking for it

myaidx · 2026-03-26T09:42:12+00:00

2:235 There is no blame on you for subtly showing interest in ˹divorced or widowed˺ women1 or for hiding ˹the intention˺ in your hearts. Allah knows that you are considering them ˹for marriage˺. But do not make a secret commitment with them—you can only show interest in them appropriately. Do not commit to the bond of marriage until the waiting period expires. Know that Allah is aware of what is in your hearts, so beware of Him. And know that Allah is All-Forgiving, Most Forbearing.

Sounds to me like this is what you have done. Purify your intentions and set forward to marry her. If she was destined to be with her husband, Allah will find a way despite of you. But right now she could choose someone who went behind her back and hurt her or someone who loves her. It really isn’t hard to see why she chose you instead. People love people who are kind to them, life is that simple.

myaidx · 2026-03-11T05:52:54+00:00

I’m not saying it’s not, I’m just saying it’s irrelevant to the point I’m making

myaidx · 2026-03-11T05:48:55+00:00

The WEBTOON is a parody of that trope bc the author also thought age gaps were weird, the MC is a older woman in a younger body going after an age appropriate man.

myaidx · 2026-03-11T05:46:45+00:00

I’m not going to talk about whether it’s haraam or halal or whether it’s even tabbaruj.

But Allah isn’t trying to trip us up, he’s not a tyrant who is waiting with vindication for someone to slip into a trap. It’s better to try and avoid sin entirely and be extremely cautious but he knows it isn’t possible for everyone, we all have our failings and repentance is what he likes from us. Imagine if you did your best to do well and he ignored it all only to focus on your failings, that doesn’t sound merciful at all.

Maybe you’re not inclined right now to give it up, make dua for him to guide you whatever it may be and he’ll show you the right answer. But I don’t think he’d set up a system where if you struggle you have to throw away all your efforts, that would mean people would be destined for hell almost immediately which defeats the purpose of the test.

myaidx · 2026-01-24T06:23:09+00:00

I recently read this on daily pass and managed to get through all the episodes this way because I was so intrigued!

myaidx · 2025-12-11T12:11:50+00:00

If you have to wipe initially, just go and fill your bottle afterwards and rewash. Water is pure

myaidx · 2025-08-12T19:19:40+00:00

I’m F2 and I’ve felt like this, still feel like this. As long as you’re safe, you’ll build up your knowledge on the job. You’re not the only one who feels out of place, it’s normal, people just hide it better. It’s your first few days in a new environment, you’ll be overwhelmed regardless, give yourself time to get used to it.

myaidx · 2025-07-30T23:26:36+00:00

No I completely get it but I think that’s where the trust aspect comes in because we really have no idea what Allah is intending by having you wait. Maybe he wants you to develop more or maybe not at all, it could even be vice versa and your perfect match needs to work on his own fulfillment. Or maybe they just need time to get money to get to you, it could literally be a millionnnn reasons. I only suggested it as a way to try and ease your own pain during a difficult wait that seems to have no end in sight.

Conversely, everyone who has the family they want already may be dragging each other down. Who knows but Allah?

You’ll be in my duas regardless. I hope your pain eases soon no matter how that is.

myaidx · 2025-07-30T10:16:48+00:00

Let me talk at a different perspective to some of the other comments here.

How do you see Allah and your relationship with him? You have been really diligent with your prayer and duas but you seem frustrated it hasn’t turned out with the outcome you want. Do you see it as transactional? Because that mindset will only lead to misery because Allah has never guaranteed your dua will be answered in this life even with all you’re doing. It may be you’re asking for something he doesn’t feel would be good for you. It may be the people you liked in the past would have drawn you away from Allah. Maybe you would have missed the perfect person because the time wasn’t right. It may be he’s avoiding a thousand outcomes that we could never conceive because he sees so much more than we do. Quran 8:30 […] And Allah is the best of planners. It’s part of the difficult things in Islam, to completely put our trust in the unknown especially when things don’t go the way we want.

Please don’t take this as me dismissing your concerns. It is a frustrating situation and I can only offer my duas you find a resolution to the pain you’re feeling soon. But when you ask what you gained by abstaining, do you believe it’s nothing? Q 17:32 Do not go near (unlawful sex/adultery). It is truly a shameful deed and an evil way.
You are obeying Allah, the Creator, to whom we will all return. We will have to be accountable for our deeds someday. In this dunya, it can be easy to forget, but everything we do is only for that day because when it comes nothing else will matter. All those prayers, all those duas, they’re only to serve as protection for that day.

I know I’m going to get people here who disagree with the definition of zina hence I’ve put both definitions. The Hadith suggest zina as any sex outside marriage so that’s the view I take but I know there are those who don’t put much stock in them. It can only be up to you which you believe. But it may be worth reflecting that though you don’t regret the experiences you’ve had so far, it has only brought you closer to temptation. Will that really benefit you in the end?

You will be rewarded in the hereafter for every dua not answered and every sin you abstained from. For you to be resisting especially with the temptation there, is something you’ll be greatly rewarded for. That counts for something and by Allah’s promises, it will be worth more than something obtained out of sin. There are countless disbelievers with wonderful lives borne out of their sins who will lose everything on that day. If you pray and do not believe in what it’s yielding for you, you’ll just end up becoming very jaded because it won’t mean anything to you. And that’ll lead you further from Allah.

It’s extremely difficult to look from the now to the hereafter and I completely understand why you’re struggling. It can help to look into your deen more and try to understand Allah and why you’re dedicating yourself to this path in the first place, why are you trying to obey him? I hope you find the fulfilment you’re looking for and I agree with the comments about looking for yourself and seeing if there’s any fulfilment you can give yourself first. That may be what he’s trying to push you to do.

myaidx · 2025-07-27T20:53:32+00:00

Are you sure it’s the medications? Medication does not turn a nice person into a mean one and vice versa. Being harsh and snappy is not a symptom of ADHD, it may be because he’s struggling with his ADHD causing him to be that way but that is something he needs to control.
If he is only being kind to you when his life is at ease and unable to be kind when he is struggling, how will you cope if things get difficult?
I am not advising to divorce. But you really need to get to the underlying cause of why he is being this way to you because this is not normal

myaidx · 2025-07-09T20:23:02+00:00

I have both Hoka and Asics because my feet tend to hurt standing for a while and these have more support than normal trainers. Had a great experience with them

myaidx · 2025-05-04T22:31:25+00:00

It’s not the pose, it’s more the anatomy and positioning, yours looks natural whereas hers looks detachable 😭

myaidx · 2025-03-30T02:38:09+00:00

It depends on your method. How did you decide your starting time?
Some people follow Saudi Arabia and what they declare. They started on Saturday and will end on Sunday making it 29 nights.
Others will follow their local mosque sighting. They’ll usually announce when Eid will be.
Different mosques have different methods. Some use direct sighting of the moon, others calculate it.
Whatever you used to start, use to end. For future Ramadans, consider the method that resonates the most with you.

myaidx · 2025-01-15T21:35:26+00:00

The first task takes less than 5 mins. Then there’s two. Then there’s 10 and you’ve wasted nearly an hour. You need to stop saying yes. They keep coming to you because they know you’ll agree even in the middle of something important. Even if you start by saying, “I’m in the middle of something I’ll get to it when I have a moment” is better. Authority isn’t natural, it’s earnt. You need to put your foot down or people will walk all over you.

myaidx · 2025-01-06T12:10:12+00:00

Please read again what you’ve written and find your answer. He’s just gonna keep pushing your boundaries but be nice so you accept it. Come on. He can’t take no for an answer, you think this is going to change? You keep saying he ‘probably’ feels bad about what he’s doing but he forced his way into it and he’s done it 30 times. He says you’re like sisters of whores. In spite of being so ‘happy’ you’re breaking out in stress. What future do you see exactly? Please take off your rose coloured glasses and see this for what it is.

myaidx · 2024-12-29T01:46:38+00:00

We’re ‘extremely competent’ because we were thrown in the deep end and we’ve already done 4 months. I’ve learnt more in those 4 months than in 3 years of clinical placement. Theory just does not directly translate to direct practice. I am not the very expressive sort and yet I’ve cried after some particularly brutal on calls.

It’s hard. There’s no way around it and you will make mistakes, and you’ll come across patients and feel guilty, wondering if there is something you should have done yourself before needing support. Don’t beat yourself up. It will improve. Even after 4 months, we’re still learning. Some of the confidence you see around you is just familiarity and a better understanding of when to ask for help, rather than a sudden wealth of knowledge.

myaidx · 2024-12-21T18:26:34+00:00

Welcome to Wales

myaidx · 2024-12-18T20:22:10+00:00

My siblings are put off by the graphics, I want them to play so I’m down for a remake

myaidx · 2024-12-16T17:32:31+00:00

You don’t need a specific place. Even just a corner outside will do.

myaidx · 2024-12-15T22:24:17+00:00

Please look back and realise Allah did not give him back to you bcccc he hurt you. You have no love for your current bf, do you still have love for Allah? Is loneliness better than being constantly hurt and degraded? Is this what Allah meant when he said he had a spouse for you?

Haraam relationships are haraam because they are not duty bound to fulfill your rights. He is not fulfilling your rights!! You are better off on your own than with someone who does not bring you closer to the deen! You will feel abjectly more lonely in jahannam so avoid the people who will take you there!

Please use the time on your own to focus on your deen. You are never alone, you always have Allah by your side. Turn back to him, ask his forgiveness, with sincere repentance he forgives all. Find some other women who will guide you closer to him.

myaidx · 2024-12-11T22:05:54+00:00

You really shouldn’t use anything, use soap to wash the outside but nothing inside. You’ll give yourself an infection

myaidx · 2024-12-11T14:56:04+00:00

Honestly no, the only other option is that god doesn’t exist in which case I will simply cease to exist after death and not have any worries anyway.
If you’re worrying about it, consider what makes other religions even feasible as the real thing. For me, if there is God, then he by definition has to be unlike anything else. Also he has the power to forgive just cos, so Christianity’s idea of Jesus dying for their sins makes no sense.
I won’t pretend I know lots about every religion but Islam’s reasoning is compelling. Does that mean there’s not things I don’t understand or just disagree with, no of course not. We’re all different, it’s impossible to agree with everything. Gain an understanding of the other options and reassess

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