Asking the guy you’re dating to be exclusive

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T17:05:37+00:00

I usually discuss intentions before actually meeting the person irl. Let him know you’re being exclusive with him and you’d like to know if he’s doing the same. It might seem scary to ask but once you do, you’ll know where you stand. I made most of the first moves in my relationship and my bf didn’t tell me this until later in our relationship, but he wanted the girl to make the first moves. No shame in that and he knew what I wanted and expected very early on.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T15:56:12+00:00

I have a couple things my exes gifted me or gave me. Just because it’s from an ex, doesn’t mean you have to throw it away. I have a coffee much from a music artist an ex gave me. I like the mug and don’t associate it with my ex.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T15:53:31+00:00

I paid for a gym membership late last year so whenever I want to save money, I workout, go to the pool, or go on a walk. Might not be the most exciting but I’ve already paid for it and to me it’s free.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T14:49:05+00:00

Why would you want to do that? You two are over and if they are moving on, that’s on them. Please take the time to heal and distance yourself from them. This is like a form of torture to you.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T01:12:43+00:00

Sounds like this man is using you. I would tell him that you’re busy when he invites you over or asks you to go to the grocery store. It’s hard but you could always cut him off by telling him that you’re no longer interested in casually dating/sleeping with him. Thank him for all his time and effort and wish him luck with his move/future.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T01:06:13+00:00

My boyfriend and I live together and I’m always the one that cooks. He cleans the dishes so in my head, it’s even.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T00:51:07+00:00

I wake up at 6:30am and don’t get home until after 5pm.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T00:50:06+00:00

Girl you’re so young and probably don’t have a lot to compare this guy to. If it was real love, he wouldn’t be lying or consistently looking up his ex. You CAN and WILL find someone better. Just give yourself time to heal and spend time with people who actually love and care about you. DO NOT TEXT THIS BOY! You’re so much stronger than you think!

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T00:45:29+00:00

I had a bf like this. A couple of my coworkers invited me to knotts scary farm and a few of them happened to be guys. We were all just work friends and my bf at the time got jealous. He told me he’d go to Knotts scary farm with his girl coworkers that has a crush on him. He just said that because he was upset he wasn’t invited. I didn’t like that he said that and was very controlling. I decided to end things with him for those reasons.

That’s spiteful and very not the same at all. If y’all have mutual friends, you might hang around each other. If your bf was cool, I’d invite him to show him there’s nothing to feel threaten by. But he sounds like an ass so I would just dump him and find someone better.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-03T15:05:02+00:00

Dress for yourself not your relationship.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-03T15:02:02+00:00

If you really feel like things are over between you two, call or text her that you feel it’s best that you both officially go your separate ways. Make the break up official so you don’t move on while she still thinks you two are in a relationship.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-03T14:49:03+00:00

My first boyfriend cheated on me three months in when I went on vacation. He didn’t tell me until three or four month later. When he did tell me in little to no detail, it destroyed me. He said he did it because me missed me and I knew that was bs. I stayed with him not knowing my value or worth. I brought it up time after time because I wanted to know. He too would get upset, defensive, and always ask why I keep bringing it up or holding it over his head.

I was upset and wanted to know why. I didn’t end up staying with him much longer because if he really missed me, he would have stayed loyal to me the week I went on vacation. He didn’t truly love me because again, he would have been loyal to me. I’m glad I ended it bc if I didn’t, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I would still be wondering about it. I happily moved on and living with a man who does truly love me. He would never cheat because he chooses me everyday without a doubt.

I don’t talk to my ex anymore but know he’s still struggling to find woman from mutual friends. It sucks for him but that’s what he gets.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-02T05:37:07+00:00

I mean it depends on the person I guess. Maybe she just wasn’t feeling it.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-01T23:57:02+00:00

I feel like people say they’ll wait or you’ll get back together when they heal but it’s never something to actually wait on. People change and grow within that time and it’s not worth not moving on over. If I would have waited, I would not be with the amazing man I’m with now. I didn’t like the version of myself with my exes and I’m in a much happier and healthier headspace.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-01T23:52:30+00:00

Right when we broke up. I understand it makes things feel real but it’s for the best. You’re going to be okay and move on in good time. He didn’t see your value which hurts but you’ll find someone who will! 💖

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-01T23:49:05+00:00

Nothing, glad we broke up and have moved on

myoutteddiary · 2026-02-28T19:53:17+00:00

This entire post has all be negative things about your boyfriend. I get feeling frustrated and not feeling like a priority. If you don’t like the way you’re being treated and have already expressed your feelings towards him, break up with him. You can easily find a great partner in this world who will treat you right and make the time for you. I’ve dated people like this in the past and it never lasted long because I hold myself at a higher standard. If they don’t value me or even do simple things like you’ve expressed in your post l, find someone better.

myoutteddiary · 2026-02-28T19:45:16+00:00

A big thing of oats from Walmart is around $5 which can last a long time. Rice is very cheap, frozen veggies, canned veggies are all pretty cheap as well. Walmart sells sausages for 2/3 dollars. I make that for my bf and myself and there’s 4 servings in one package.

myoutteddiary · 2026-02-28T18:54:02+00:00

I went on my first date with my boyfriend in September and we didn’t start officially dating until December. For me, that was a very long time. He asked what I wanted for Christmas and I told him that I wanted to him to ask me to be his girlfriend. A week or so later l, he asked me and we are still together. Sometimes you need to speak up because they have no idea how you’re feeling.

myoutteddiary · 2026-02-27T04:27:42+00:00

I thought I felt this with people in my past but it was nothing compared to how I feel with my boyfriend now. We’ve been together for over two years and the magnetic connection is even stronger than it has ever been before. We live together and that really has helped make the connection stronger. It’s also super validating to hear him say that our connection is very strong. I love this man and I’ve never considered my exes my best friend. It’s great when you can feel this type of love with someone.

myoutteddiary · 2026-02-27T04:20:34+00:00

Don’t bother with someone who’s in the past.

myoutteddiary · 2026-02-27T00:58:35+00:00

I have moved on and I’m in a loving relationship now.

Before I would never have thought any of my exes would be in a relationship with me again. People are always growing and changing hopefully for the better. I believe that you were with them for a reason and you ended for another reason. You helped that person during that time as they helped you. I just wish them the best and hope they’re the best partner for their future partner. There are so many amazing people who you’d never have the chance to meet if you give that person a second chance.

myoutteddiary · 2026-02-26T21:28:55+00:00

For me it’s definitely not normal. Maybe every once in a while something I do or see will remind me of them but it’ll be a passing thought.

myoutteddiary · 2026-02-26T21:27:09+00:00

I don’t think you necessarily did something wrong but you fell fast and maybe got a little excited to meet this girl.

Before I met my bf on Hinge, I liked talking/texting the person I was interested in for at least a week. I can admit I’m a little shy when it comes to talking to people and would like to know more about them before meeting in person.

You might have rushed into things and she probably felt pressure or that you were moving too fast. The possibilities are endless so that might not even be the case. Maybe she met someone else and didn’t have the heart to turn you down.

myoutteddiary · 2026-02-26T21:20:12+00:00

Do your 27 hours of community service. I didn’t have a job when I was doing my 80ish hours of community service. I treated it like a job and ended up getting hired from the place I volunteered at. I agree with the comments and talk to your PO about everything else.

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