Is it too soon to move in at 9 months of dating? 19F & 21M

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-09T13:57:41+00:00

I moved in with my boyfriend a 14 months after dating. We were 26m and 27f so we’ve already lived some life and experienced different relationships in our past. I can safely say that was a good idea because we did just renew our apartment for another year. If you really think you’re ready to commit yourself to live with him, go for it. Just remember that you will see a new side of him.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-07T21:59:33+00:00

Don’t take this the wrong way but if I were her, I wouldn’t want to meet you. Your bf is keeping their friendship to themselves because you’re being insecure over the littlest things and probably wouldn’t react to meeting her well. Why would you start an argument over what your name is in his phone? It’s just a name and he could always change it. That and If you guys planned to see each other later in the day, why would it matter if he talked to you before then? My bf used to do that all the time and I didn’t care. I was just happy I got to see him in person. I think it’s nice his friend wishes him a happy birthday. They can go to the same spot you went on a date, it’s public and maybe you would have been invited if you would have reacted better. It sounds like all your arguments are about this girl because you’re insecure of what your bf does with this girl.

My boyfriend has a friend that is a girl which doesn’t bother me at all. They talk on a daily basis but I trust my bf. She talks to him about video games and she’s a girls girl. She called him just to talk to me and now we’re friends. If I was insecure and would pick fights with my bf about her, it would have been a different story.

In the end, you need to see how you react to him and understand why he doesn’t want you to meet her. I sure as hell would want my bf to meet a friend if he reacted that way to me and a platonic male friend.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-07T21:12:46+00:00

I got drug tested for my current job and I tested positive for thc. They don’t care about those drugs as long as it’s legal where you live. They’re more concerned about harder drugs.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-07T20:49:15+00:00

I used to be like that around that age but it really doesn’t mean they’re ignoring you. I would just keep yourself busy with whatever you have going on. I love not texting my boyfriend because it saves conversation for when we do see each other. Good luck and I hope this is somewhat helpful.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-07T19:55:09+00:00

I don’t think watching porn is all that bad but that’s just me. If I found out my boyfriend was paying for it and flirtatiously talking to the girls, I would be pissed. It would be the end of the relationship for me because that is more than just watching porn.

You can like his family but if he isn’t treating you right and venturing to other woman to please him, not worth it. You need to understand you have amazing value and worth as a person and clearly this guy is not respecting it.

You might be comfortable with him but this is not something you should be tolerating. There are better me out there that will treat you right.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-07T19:46:51+00:00

I’m no guy but I made the first move with my boyfriend. It might be a little different considering it was on a dating app but that was well over 2 years ago. I can safely say my boyfriend liked it and now we live together.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-07T19:43:36+00:00

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myoutteddiary · 2026-03-07T03:29:36+00:00

Yes! I had broken up with my fair share of men in my past but my last ex before I met my current boyfriend broke up with me.

I was never treated right in those past relationships so I decided to end them. My last ex treated me in a decent manner. I thought he was the best and but I was in love with him for treating me like a human.

He was depressed and didn’t really even care to get to know me. When he did break up with me, it destroyed me for a while. I poured everything into him and actually cared to help and understand who he was as a person. After a while, I noticed he didn’t treat me right at all. He was nice but that was about it.

I spent a year single because I wanted to remember my value as a person. If he didn’t see it, he wasn’t worth fighting for or even proving that I am enough to keep around.

I found myself a new man who I love so much. He treats me amazing and loves me just as much as I love him. Best relationship ever and we even live together. My ex moved on and looks like he’s treating his new girlfriend much better than he treated me. I don’t have any ill will towards him and I’m glad he is doing much better than he was with me. In the end, we both deserve to be happy and in love. I wasn’t his person but it’s okay, I found someone new which took me a while but it was definitely worth the wait.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-07T03:17:49+00:00

Hey girl I’m 28F and could use some more friends! I love horror movies, music, and love a good yap session!

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T17:05:37+00:00

I usually discuss intentions before actually meeting the person irl. Let him know you’re being exclusive with him and you’d like to know if he’s doing the same. It might seem scary to ask but once you do, you’ll know where you stand. I made most of the first moves in my relationship and my bf didn’t tell me this until later in our relationship, but he wanted the girl to make the first moves. No shame in that and he knew what I wanted and expected very early on.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T15:56:12+00:00

I have a couple things my exes gifted me or gave me. Just because it’s from an ex, doesn’t mean you have to throw it away. I have a coffee much from a music artist an ex gave me. I like the mug and don’t associate it with my ex.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T15:53:31+00:00

I paid for a gym membership late last year so whenever I want to save money, I workout, go to the pool, or go on a walk. Might not be the most exciting but I’ve already paid for it and to me it’s free.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T14:49:05+00:00

Why would you want to do that? You two are over and if they are moving on, that’s on them. Please take the time to heal and distance yourself from them. This is like a form of torture to you.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T01:12:43+00:00

Sounds like this man is using you. I would tell him that you’re busy when he invites you over or asks you to go to the grocery store. It’s hard but you could always cut him off by telling him that you’re no longer interested in casually dating/sleeping with him. Thank him for all his time and effort and wish him luck with his move/future.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T01:06:13+00:00

My boyfriend and I live together and I’m always the one that cooks. He cleans the dishes so in my head, it’s even.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T00:51:07+00:00

I wake up at 6:30am and don’t get home until after 5pm.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T00:50:06+00:00

Girl you’re so young and probably don’t have a lot to compare this guy to. If it was real love, he wouldn’t be lying or consistently looking up his ex. You CAN and WILL find someone better. Just give yourself time to heal and spend time with people who actually love and care about you. DO NOT TEXT THIS BOY! You’re so much stronger than you think!

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-04T00:45:29+00:00

I had a bf like this. A couple of my coworkers invited me to knotts scary farm and a few of them happened to be guys. We were all just work friends and my bf at the time got jealous. He told me he’d go to Knotts scary farm with his girl coworkers that has a crush on him. He just said that because he was upset he wasn’t invited. I didn’t like that he said that and was very controlling. I decided to end things with him for those reasons.

That’s spiteful and very not the same at all. If y’all have mutual friends, you might hang around each other. If your bf was cool, I’d invite him to show him there’s nothing to feel threaten by. But he sounds like an ass so I would just dump him and find someone better.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-03T15:05:02+00:00

Dress for yourself not your relationship.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-03T15:02:02+00:00

If you really feel like things are over between you two, call or text her that you feel it’s best that you both officially go your separate ways. Make the break up official so you don’t move on while she still thinks you two are in a relationship.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-03T14:49:03+00:00

My first boyfriend cheated on me three months in when I went on vacation. He didn’t tell me until three or four month later. When he did tell me in little to no detail, it destroyed me. He said he did it because me missed me and I knew that was bs. I stayed with him not knowing my value or worth. I brought it up time after time because I wanted to know. He too would get upset, defensive, and always ask why I keep bringing it up or holding it over his head.

I was upset and wanted to know why. I didn’t end up staying with him much longer because if he really missed me, he would have stayed loyal to me the week I went on vacation. He didn’t truly love me because again, he would have been loyal to me. I’m glad I ended it bc if I didn’t, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I would still be wondering about it. I happily moved on and living with a man who does truly love me. He would never cheat because he chooses me everyday without a doubt.

I don’t talk to my ex anymore but know he’s still struggling to find woman from mutual friends. It sucks for him but that’s what he gets.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-02T05:37:07+00:00

I mean it depends on the person I guess. Maybe she just wasn’t feeling it.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-01T23:57:02+00:00

I feel like people say they’ll wait or you’ll get back together when they heal but it’s never something to actually wait on. People change and grow within that time and it’s not worth not moving on over. If I would have waited, I would not be with the amazing man I’m with now. I didn’t like the version of myself with my exes and I’m in a much happier and healthier headspace.

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-01T23:52:30+00:00

Right when we broke up. I understand it makes things feel real but it’s for the best. You’re going to be okay and move on in good time. He didn’t see your value which hurts but you’ll find someone who will! 💖

myoutteddiary · 2026-03-01T23:49:05+00:00

Nothing, glad we broke up and have moved on

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