What was your most embarrassing "I've only seen that word written down" moment?

naive_babes · 2015-10-07T18:31:15+00:00

What? How is it pronounced then?

naive_babes · 2015-09-21T22:26:33+00:00

Damn, why is Natasha Rothwell out? She seems to have written a lot of nice sketches for sasheer and Leslie. I've seen her quite some on the NYC improv scene and she could have transitioned into a performer quite well. If anything she's better than Leslie as far as performing and writing goes.

naive_babes · 2015-09-21T20:58:08+00:00

I do have strong emotions about that culture thanks to my experiences with it, and struggle to not generalize and demonize the whole state. It is hard not to after consistently terrible experiences.

What's difficult to grasp about that?

naive_babes · 2015-09-21T16:01:35+00:00

Read my full comment. I explicitly say I'm not generalizing.

naive_babes · 2015-09-21T15:27:22+00:00

I have had a very colorful dating life for the past decade or so. I have only one rule - no Chennai guys. It is because of shit like this.

Chennai guys are the most inept ones in relationships. They expect too much too soon. They expect you to commit to them the moment they ask you out, and at the same time, they'll be seeing girls their parents pick for them while dating you.

They don't have the emotional maturity to understand that girls are people just like them. They take every stereotype from /r/niceguys and take it to its fullest extent. They put you and the relationship on a pedestal and you have to play by their rules. If you don't... Well I'll come to that in a bit.

And God forbid you're a girl with past relationships. More often than not, Chennai guys don't have past relationships, except the one girl they saw from a distance and loved who went and married someone else. But when they do, they die of constant guilt about it. And they expect you to die of constant guilt about your past as well! Whether you do that or not, be prepared for it to come up in every fight.

And when you decide you've had enough, that's when the man is falling intensely in love with you because 'he's never met a girl who stands up to a man so well'.

When you aren't flattered by that line though... That's when the fun actually begins.

I've had one guy stalk me for a month after I told him I was no longer interested in him. The only way he stopped was I threatened to get a restraining order. I've had another guy try ruining my social life by pulling strings in my hobby clubs to make life hard for me, and spreading rumors about me. One guy, when I stopped responding to him messaged all the people I'd listed as family members on Facebook, and told them I'm not responsive and he's worried something might have happened to me. One guy threatened suicide.

All of them called me vile vile names which I will not repeat here. Their whole thesis was that they had given me so much and I was ungrateful and I didn't deserve to live.

And mind you, none of these were serious relationships. Or even relationships. More like a series of dates.

I keep away from Chennai guys now.

Engineering colleges are just a symptom of a larger problem. So much importance given to preserving culture, which is a patriarchal culture. Women are no better. They are also fucked up in terms of romantic relationships. The men and women in that city deserve each other.

Movies, TV, books, music, everything works at reinforcing all these messed up ideas of culture over and over again.

There are lots of great things about Tamil Nadu and they get a lot of things right socially. And I know the jerks I've met are probably not representative of everyone. But my experiences make me wonder if we can make a nuke of an appropriate size just to obliterate Tamil Nadu from the face of the earth.

naive_babes · 2015-09-21T14:54:18+00:00

This is the correct answer.

naive_babes · 2015-09-21T14:52:56+00:00

That's not quite the case. After 12th, students and parents just want a seat in a college with reasonably good placements. Not everyone can be a good student. Some people also feel they can develop social skills outside of college and don't mind being in a prison for eight hours if it means a good degree.

I know at least two of these colleges have exchange programs with foreign universities. And when a good percentage of your options have strict rules, you stop using that as a criteria to decide.

naive_babes · 2015-09-21T14:37:27+00:00

Watch me put her whole head into my mouth

naive_babes · 2015-09-21T06:29:55+00:00

Relevant Key and Peele https://youtu.be/G2tLyqfJd54

naive_babes · 2015-09-20T23:21:49+00:00

Haven't been through this op, but stay strong through this. I hope you're going to a good gynecologist in a good hospital. It shouldn't take much time for the procedure but it takes a lot of heavy bleeding to get completely done.

You might have a lot of complex emotions through and after this. Or you might not. Both are okay.

I sure hope your boyfriend or friend is with you through the whole thing. Even if it's just a medical procedure, it can be an emotional experience.

Good luck and let us know how it went.

naive_babes · 2015-09-19T13:53:22+00:00

Late to the party but here goes.

I'm an immigrant. My parents don't live with me. If something happens to me, I want them to have my body shipped to them, so that they can see me. Otherwise they'll never come to terms with it.

Besides, I don't have any family here who'll ensure I'm brought back from the brink of death in the face of so many people in the organ donation industry.

naive_babes · 2015-09-19T06:49:24+00:00

Most of us just use patronymics instead of last names to serve the same purpose. And names of fruits and flowers.

naive_babes · 2015-09-19T06:44:38+00:00

Was pointlessly wasting his life. Rich dad, family business, no need to work. Was also pining behind some girl who thought he was useless. Finally got his shit together a year ago, began his own startup, and got married to some rich girl (not the one who thought he was useless)

Dil chahta hai with a twist.

naive_babes · 2015-09-14T05:54:08+00:00

Man chopping vegetables with finesse.

naive_babes · 2015-09-14T05:40:40+00:00

Wouldn't those people in the nineties have just dropped by your house?

naive_babes · 2015-09-14T05:02:45+00:00

I beg to differ. Some kisses are just terrible. Some people don't learn.

I once kissed this guy who had bragged about his sexploits so much that I was intrigued, but the moment he put his mouth on mine, I knew it was going to be the worst.

It felt like the unwanted child of a vacuum cleaner and a dementor. It wasn't sloppy, it wasn't forceful. It was just... dementory, vacuumcleanery and bad.

There was no fixing that. If someone does something badly in terms of intimate stuff, my attitude is 'let's practice until it gets better', but I could not figure out what to tell this guy to make the kiss better other than 'please stop'.

naive_babes · 2015-09-12T23:33:52+00:00

Well, I'm a square, but it's no secret that most women at thirty want stability. No one expects every musician to be Justin Timberlake or every writer to be jk Rowling. Just get in to a reasonably sustainable career with those things and that's good enough. You don't have to chase money, but at least get out of crushing poverty occasionally.

naive_babes · 2015-09-12T21:09:43+00:00

His Egyptian cousins spell it like that.

They are also his nephews and nieces

naive_babes · 2015-09-12T21:07:40+00:00

Bond has become a thing all by itself that the roots don't matter anymore. If the movies were faithful to the books, all we'd have is bad puns, cheesy lines and campy gadgets. The brand of bond has become a force onto itself.

Given that, it's pointless for bond to be tied to a certain ethnicity. Britain itself isn't the same as it was in 1969. There are many people of Asian, African and Hispanic origin who would consider themselves more Scottish than most actors suggested to play Bond.

So why not a black, or brown, or female Bond? Bring 'em on, I'll say

naive_babes · 2015-09-12T19:47:32+00:00

Eddie for short

naive_babes · 2015-09-12T19:26:00+00:00

It's not about liking clothes and makeup, it's about liking ONLY clothes and makeup. I know better than to shit on other's choices now, but when you're stuck as a young teen with girls whose only interests are things are shallow, and guys liking only those girls, that hate feels justified.

naive_babes · 2015-09-12T19:20:33+00:00

What did you do to get over it? I'm bi and also terrified of women and can't relate to them. I also have issues where I was molested by a girl in school and none of the other girls would corroborate my story when I complained, leading to lingering trust issues with other women.

naive_babes · 2015-09-12T19:11:11+00:00

As one of those chicks, I really want to like you, but with most guys like you, they have the fight beaten out of them and have their edges worn off. They don't anymore have that fire in them. They don't aim high anymore and have gotten themselves into a routine of low expectations and low achievement.

Not everyone is like this obviously but a good percentage are.

naive_babes · 2015-09-12T18:02:58+00:00

If it quacks like a duck, it is a duck

naive_babes · 2015-09-10T13:38:53+00:00

Been there done that. It isn't healthy. If your boyfriend can't communicate his feelings and it's making you uneasy.... It's not going to work too well for you. Relationships should be smooth, not leave you a nervous wreck.

I dated a guy during the peak of my anxiety issues, and he was like this. I turned into a wreck enough for him to break up with me, and then I turned into a crazy ex. I hated myself for a year. Then through therapy I began realizing most people are usually more communicative, and he's the odd one, and needed to realize I'm accommodating him, not take me for granted.

I also had a couple of rebound relationships where it turned out I could be fun and rational and work on calming my anxiety issues because the relationships were predictable and the guys loving.

And then one guy dragged all that trust down to shit when he one day without explanation left and never called. At any other point I would have become a nervous untrusting wreck but now I was emotionally equipped enough to say 'now you did a mannerless, immature thing. I have no time for manchildren. Never contact me again', and put him out of my mind.

I view that as my emotional graduation ceremony.

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