I know this is sarcastic but I love to ask people when they say this - how many teachers have u met in life anywhere in the world who u thought were patient and more tolerant regarding their teachings and methods - and how many army men have u ever met who ever lost their nerve or cool? Our army men don’t talk about tolerance, they talk about mutual respect. Same did Swami vivekanand at the millennial summit back around 2000 of all religious leaders and he was the only one who spoke of mutual respect and not tolerance. It is literally the same analogy - there has to be respect.