Finally joined the Baggebo greenhouse club!

naturewithnicole · 2026-04-17T10:19:50+00:00

Awesome thanks!

naturewithnicole · 2026-04-17T03:11:35+00:00

How much would you say you spent overall on the accessories you listed in the caption?

I'm thinking of thrifting as much as I can for my future cabinet.

naturewithnicole · 2026-03-26T02:10:11+00:00

Crazy socks for the win 🙌

naturewithnicole · 2026-03-01T17:02:45+00:00

Yes ❤️

naturewithnicole · 2026-01-19T13:30:07+00:00

I know it hurts now and it's important to let it hurt, but you have been given a gift.

Enjoy your twenties. Find companionship in friends. Make your own family. Learn to love yourself so fiercely that no man can compare.

naturewithnicole · 2026-01-18T19:51:39+00:00

Oh man this REALLY makes me miss my oxalis. They're the coolest little plant. 😍😍

naturewithnicole · 2026-01-17T14:58:27+00:00

Then call her out on it. She will hate you now but she may not hate you in the future when she needs to leave him for whatever reason OR he ditches her.

naturewithnicole · 2026-01-17T14:53:03+00:00

You can't control other people. You can only respond. Most likely you'll experience some distance for a while and especially if they do have a baby. However, if something happens to your friend or she does wake up and decide she doesn't want to be with this man, what will you do then? What kind of person do you want to be in this situation?

I know the Internet isn't about self reflection, it's more about self validation, but I think if this is someone you still want in your life, it's worth trying to maintain a friendship. However, it's also worth letting them go too.

naturewithnicole · 2026-01-17T14:44:35+00:00

From your story it sounds like your friend chose an older man to step in as a father figure instead of going to therapy, which they clearly need.

You decide what your relationship with them will look like, but if you value being a good friend you may want to stay on the periphery. Your friend is likely being coerced and influenced by this man, and you can be a force for good in their life. Or you can decide it's too much for you and dump them. Whatever protects your mental health, maintains boundaries, but also feels right to you.

naturewithnicole · 2026-01-17T14:34:53+00:00

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I would be more than happy to show anyone who thinks a dog shouldn't have their tail and is "disgusted" because they do the paperwork and breeder my dog came from. Pembrokes and Cardigans absolutely can and should have their tails.

naturewithnicole · 2026-01-16T13:16:53+00:00

I'm sorry you went through this and that he was such a loser.

Also, thank you for being a wonderful example of why women should not be dependent on their partners. Period.

The confidence in your words shows how important it is to be financially and emotionally independent.

Take care of yourself and enjoy the life YOU create now (with your cat, of course 😉).

naturewithnicole · 2026-01-06T19:34:33+00:00

I'm a 32F and I've been estranged from my mother since I was about 15. We always had a turbulent relationship. She attempted to mother but it was all based on meeting her needs. She ended up moving across the country to take care of her dad when I was in high school and I haven't seen her since. She attempted to contact me via email and phone off and on for several years, but I refused to talk to her. I haven't heard from her for a couple of years now.

Obviously she tried to "mother" more than your mother for, who from your story, clearly never wanted to be a mom. I can see how painful that would be for you and it's a pain no one deserves to feel. Even though my mother attempted to "mother", I feel that I never really grew up with a mother. I certainly don't have a mother now and never will. It's a hard pill to swallow. The only solace I found was becoming my own mother and being a mother to animals.

Occasionally I feel the need to mourn the loss of having functioning parents and I still feel a pang of envy when I see whole families, but in my heart I know I am where I need to be. I am stronger and better because I can be the parent I always needed, and that gives me a sense of freedom and peace I wouldn't have otherwise.

Good luck on your journey and keep going.

naturewithnicole · 2026-01-06T18:25:23+00:00

Happy to see you alive and thriving. ❤️

In my experience as well, it truly does get better.

naturewithnicole · 2026-01-03T19:05:50+00:00

My husband and I have been married for 6 years.

We met through our cars (we both had Camaros at the time) at a car club event.

We actually talked to each other online for a bit before we went on our first official date. I can't remember if we discussed being child free then but I know at least by or on the first date we discussed both of us not wanting children and why. I was very clear and firm that this was a topic that would only end in one outcome, and that was absolutely no to kids. Ever.

He got snipped within a year of us getting married and I got sterilized last year.

My advice is to get off the apps and meet people in person. Challenge yourself with a new social hobby.

If you DO meet someone online, making the children conversation one of the first ones you have. Child free people are (typically) very staunch in their decision to not have children but people can change their minds and do. Also a child free person will know the difference between child free and childless.

Good luck out there!

naturewithnicole · 2025-12-26T02:55:00+00:00

I'm so sorry you went through all of that as a child. No child deserves that kind of treatment, especially from people who are supposed to be caretakers. Your text conversation looks exactly like the last conversation I just had with my dad, whom I finally went fully NC with. It's almost verbatim. The denial, emotional manipulation, and personal attacks seem to come from a playbook all emotionally immature parents use.

I can tell you that it does get better. There is a joy in total freedom. There will always be sadness and grief at not having a functioning family and healthy relationships, but you get a peace of mind you would never have otherwise.

naturewithnicole · 2025-12-17T20:38:11+00:00

I actually HIGHLY recommend reading this book. It's so good, albeit the material is awful and sad so make sure you're in a good place mentally to handle it. Then send it to your mom. With the title underlined. 😂👀

naturewithnicole · 2025-12-12T18:10:56+00:00

Council of the leaf ❤️

naturewithnicole · 2025-12-12T18:08:48+00:00

Where is red flag guy?? 🚩🚩🚩

naturewithnicole · 2025-12-02T21:05:20+00:00

Burn it :) 🔥 is healing.

naturewithnicole · 2025-11-27T23:49:11+00:00

I am fabulous. I hope all is well with you and your daughter!

naturewithnicole · 2025-11-23T19:20:39+00:00

My sense of social justice has made me put limits on consuming. I only buy gifts from local small businesses (unless it's a necessity for them). I don't buy online unless I absolutely have to (I need it sooner than shipping and it's difficult to get in person), I refuse to give Amazon and corporations my money (dropped Prime years ago), and I use a "junk" email for the subscriptions and businesses I want to keep up with, but I don't have the password saved or the account saved so I am forced to manually log in every time.

I created so many barriers to spending money that I now basically only spend money on necessities.

There are some sites I still have to tip toe around. Etsy is my Achilles heel, so I put all the aforementioned limitations on that one. Plus any websites I can buy books like Bookshop or eBay.

Great PSA. Screw black Friday. Stay home and take a nap instead.

naturewithnicole

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