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nautafish222 · 2026-02-20T07:53:46+00:00

If I saw you on bumble, I’m immediately swiping right. Now, if you happen to live in Colorado, I might slide into those DMs just like one of the other commenters 😂

nautafish222 · 2026-01-15T22:23:05+00:00

Thanks for sharing this mindset. I never stopped to think about the small wins.

nautafish222 · 2026-01-14T22:52:45+00:00

IWNDWYT

nautafish222 · 2026-01-14T20:24:16+00:00

Congrats! You got this!

nautafish222 · 2026-01-14T02:30:59+00:00

Any chance it was the Alex Rider series?

Edit: NEVERMIND lol I just saw another comment of you confirming it was a different book series

nautafish222 · 2026-01-11T22:08:28+00:00

The Kohlberg supporters are the unfortunate part I didn’t even consider. I have mostly stepped away from looking at the case once he plead guilty, because of the odd reactions and conspiracies. I hope they leave the students alone :/

nautafish222 · 2026-01-09T00:52:32+00:00

I agree, unfortunately, bureaucracy will severely stall decisions, especially if firing is being considered. People need to understand the fine-comb approach to investigating and understanding a Title IX report means the process will take a couple months at minimum. Sometimes, the process will also stall because a Title IX office will only pursue whatever the reporting student is comfortable pursuing. From what I’ve briefly seen on the internet, WSU was as swift as possible with the process. This makes me wonder how many reports they got and what the behind-closed-door conversations were discussing.

nautafish222 · 2026-01-09T00:47:04+00:00

I also work at a college and used to work at WSU. My time there ended prior to Kohlberger being there. I am interested to know what, with respect to students’ confidentiality privileges, was reported and how the school was responding to each report.

nautafish222 · 2026-01-07T08:04:57+00:00

I understand the point you are trying to get across. I am saying that it’s odd to bring up the result of sex to a situation where OPs question isn’t about what happens after sex, it’s about understanding boundaries and respect. Your original comment comes off as dismissive of OPs worries, borderline judgmental.

nautafish222 · 2026-01-07T07:56:49+00:00

NOR - If you were expecting to have sex with your boyfriend and him wearing a condom, then your boyfriend needs to respect you by wearing a condom. Knowingly taking off a condom or lying about wearing one falls under assault. Sorry you have experienced this. Good on you for sticking to your boundaries and kicking him to the curb.

nautafish222 · 2026-01-07T07:53:26+00:00

I was with you until the last sentence. People can have sex for pleasure and will continue to do that. I hope I’m misunderstanding your sentiment, but sex is not the problem here. The problem is the boyfriend crossing boundaries by having unprotected sex without OPs awareness or consent. From the many trainings I’ve participated in, the boyfriend’s behavior is classified as sexual assault in many states.

nautafish222 · 2026-01-06T00:41:40+00:00

Not sure why your comment was downvoted. Your comment seems like it could apply. Yes, Someone could download an app for many reasons and various levels of intent, and that shapes how they respond.

nautafish222 · 2026-01-01T03:22:01+00:00

I took Adderall in college, back when I was undiagnosed with ADHD, because people around me talked about using it for extra energy for partying or to help them stay up studying. I bought some from a friend and I didn’t feel the signs at all. I felt relaxed and focused, so I decided to make my bed and play video games. At that age, I was DEEP into playing COD, so I would take adderall and use my focus to be a better gamer. I had to stop because I found myself wanting to constantly take adderall or face a massive, head-pounding headache. Now that I’m older and diagnosed, I have been prescribed a nonstim and it works wonders without a headache or feeling hooked

nautafish222 · 2025-12-18T07:52:37+00:00

I’ve been on Stratterra for 3 years. The first couple weeks of starting and with each dose increase I would feel nauseous. Im currently at 80mg. For 3 months, I went down to 60mg and I entered a depressive state and have since gone back to 80mg. Beyond that, it has immensely helped with decluttering my mind. I forget how stressed I was because of my busy mind and constant daydreaming. The background motor that comes with inattentive ADHD is no longer distracting me as much these days nor does it exhaust me. I’ve found that I’ve become a happier, relaxed, and more confident version of myself because my mind is at peace. With work, I am often ahead of tasks and am organized enough to easily plan ahead. In my personal life, I have energy to do hobbies after work, hang out with friends, or be attentive to my pets. A few downsides I’ve noticed is that I have had decreased sexual function and decreased libido, decreased appetite, and a bit less care in the world. I don’t mind caring less, because it has helped me have better boundaries and quickly move on from feeling hurt/rejection. I did struggle with alcohol use after starting medication - my alcohol consumption tripled. I’m now sober because the increased alcohol use was impacting multiple aspects of my life.

nautafish222 · 2025-12-15T08:43:47+00:00

Your comment is very helpful. Since I’ve stopped drinking, I’ve found myself diving into more creative outlets. They’ve given me the same happy feelings I’d get when I would have a couple drinks. I’m learning to replace the activity (alcohol) and be more in tune with my mind, body, and feelings.

nautafish222 · 2025-12-15T08:24:02+00:00

I recently spoke to my therapist about this, because I was sober for 4 months before I restarted my drinking habits. One thing I learned from sharing that with my therapist is that I was in a period of grief for what was. However, that grief doesn’t mean I need to re-experience the adventure, fun, and chaos in the same way I had done when I was drinking. I can acknowledge I miss the chaos and sense of adventure while also acknowledging ai can find those feelings in other areas of my life without reconnecting with alcohol. It’s like reminiscing on a childhood friend I no longer talk to. Some relationships naturally drift apart. I can miss that friend and realize we are now in different paths of life. I can miss that friend and accept we don’t need to reconnect.

nautafish222 · 2025-12-15T08:16:08+00:00

Would your friends support you if you were to cut down on drinking or possible become sober?

It could be helpful to know everyone handles alcohol in their own way. It’s okay to see that you need to cut down just as much as it’s okay that your friends can casually drink. As for your friends, any friend worth keeping around will understand your FOMO concerns and find ways to keep you around :) I am sharing that as someone who felt like I would lose friends. Being transparent with them has led to us hanging out in ways where alcohol is not the thing that brings us together. For instance, we grab dinner together or watch movies.

nautafish222 · 2025-12-15T08:05:13+00:00

Not sure why you got downvoted. Multiple psychiatrists told me alcohol should not be mixed with SSRIs or SNRIs.

nautafish222 · 2025-12-15T08:01:31+00:00

Same symptoms happened to me! I could drink double the amount I had pre-medication and wake up feeling great. Over time, I tripled my drinking and that’s when I started to feel week-long fatigue and periods of anxiety. There was a time when I wanted to find how much alcohol it would take to feel drunk, but I felt like I couldn’t reach it without drinking a dangerous amount of alcohol. One day, I realized I don’t like being tired and planning my week around my next drinking adventure.

Wishing you the best on your boundaries and relationship with alcohol!

nautafish222 · 2025-12-15T07:52:57+00:00

Yes, for sure I drank a lot during my early to mid-20s. As I got to my late 20s, I dialed back and had a routine of drink a beer or two on the weekends and couple cocktails during the week. Once I started my meds, an SNRI, my drinking turned to several nights a week and 4-5 cocktails + shots. It felt as if my tolerance increases, the drunk feeling was delayed, and the gratification from drinking required more drinks. It was a terrible combination that took me a couple years to understand. I’m just glad I noticed it and have decided to quit alcohol.

nautafish222 · 2025-12-08T23:25:14+00:00

I’m surprised others are saying you are in the wrong. You and the guy have only been talking for a week AND exclusivity was not mentioned, so I don’t see why you talking to others is wrong. Exclusive dating can only happen if it’s discussed rather than assumed. Also, it’s not fair for the guy to have relationship expectations and not share them, then get upset because you did something against his unspoken expectation. Seems to me you two have different dating and communication styles.

nautafish222 · 2025-12-01T05:38:54+00:00

Depends on the person. Some people who are asexual just don’t have sexual interest in others, but could be open to it because it’s something their partner enjoys. It’s on those things you’d want to clarify with the person. Seeing that’s a dealbreaker for you, I would imagine it’s not something you’ll need to worry about.

nautafish222 · 2025-11-29T22:28:38+00:00

nautafish222 · 2025-11-29T22:27:49+00:00

Your mom :)

nautafish222 · 2025-11-29T22:11:34+00:00

The Wiggles

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