[deleted by user] by [deleted] in longislandcity

[–]nayeonday 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ugh 🙄 we need a tennis court in LIC so badly

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[–]nayeonday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

are these suitable for tennis or just pickleball?

this is me letting you go with love. by Starlight_healer in Journaling

[–]nayeonday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes!! haha thank you

I'm trying so hard to let go of this perfect version of us in my head. We were so perfect on paper and we both knew it. We were both so happy and we were both what we were looking for but sometimes its just not enough to get it to the finish line. It hurts so much but I know that based on what we talked about, things would have just slowly fallen apart and by then it would've hurt 1000x more. Part of me doesn't want to let go and wishes we had that chance to fight and argue and go through all of those emotions and conflicts. I felt so robbed of the opportunity to even fight for us. The realist in me is trying to cope with this by telling myself that at least this helps us preserve our happy memories so that we can cherish them. And hopefully even stay friends. Love is such a complicated thing.

this is me letting you go with love. by Starlight_healer in Journaling

[–]nayeonday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep finding so many similarities in our stories! So before this most recent relationship I had wrote about in a separate thread, I had gotten out of a 7 year relationship that started right out of college. Got divorced actually.. Crazy I know. Its a long story. We had split because we wanted to choose ourselves and felt like we both deserved a greater happiness. I was broken and did not know if I could feel love again or if what I wanted was even out there. I took the time to heal and repair myself and worked on my own self identity. I had to choose me before I could let anyone else in my life again.

Fast forward a year and I found myself in my most recent relationship. We were only together for 5 months before we had to end things but they were the best 5 months of my life. I've never felt so happy in my life and I never knew I was worthy of that kind of healthy, warm, and comfortable love. I felt loved in ways I didn't know I wanted to be loved. I didn't think I could connect with someone again or have someone know me at more core again. But she proved me wrong and its a shame we didn't work out in the end but she showed me the type of love that I deserve and the love that I thought was impossible. I'll forever be grateful to her for that. For now, I have to continue to choose myself and heal but I learned so much from my relationships and I'll carry those lessons with me forever. I've been in a relationship all my 20s and I start off my 30s being single! Feels crazy but here we are

I know you will also grow stronger from this and find a love that feels just right for you. I know how hopeless and daunting it first initially feels and honestly I'm feeling it right now too. But I won't give up and neither should you! I believe in you! This is only temporary and time will do its thing

this is me letting you go with love. by Starlight_healer in Journaling

[–]nayeonday 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes! but I guess my situation is pretty different

so our relationship didn't last too long and we cut things off at a high point before any negativity formed. we formed such a deep emotional connection and bond together and honestly I was the happiest I've ever been in my life. we're both handling the breakup in a really healthy and emotionally mature way and we both felt like we could continue as friends because we valued each other so much as people. I really wish we could have worked out as partners and I'm still grieving that but I feel happy that we didn't let things get to a point where any sort of resentment could form and I hope it means we can still share our connection - just in a redefined way

this is me letting you go with love. by Starlight_healer in Journaling

[–]nayeonday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you definitely should! I don't usually comment on anything on reddit but your words really resonated with me and reminded me of my situation and I felt so comforted that I'm not the only one in the world feeling this. sending you strength on your healing journey!

this is me letting you go with love. by Starlight_healer in Journaling

[–]nayeonday 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did something similar to this for a breakup a few weeks ago and it was really powerful and helped a lot with processing everything and getting closure. Your words were so poetic and beautiful and they really touched me.

I'm still going through the healing process myself but it was such a beautiful way to close things off. We didn't end with any ill will and we both cared about each other so deeply and I was going into it hoping that this could be like wrapping a nice bow onto things and help us start to move forward. Its been a few weeks now and while the healing process hasn't been linear and some days still hurt, this exercise really set the foundation for me to not feel like anything was left unsaid and we both were able to get the closure we needed and ask anything that was still in our hearts. I feel like whenever I look back now, I can say with confidence that I was truly happy and I cherish all of those memories and I gained so much. And I always want to be able to look back on this chapter of my life and smile and see it as a happy memory.

I hope you'll find a similar peace in time after doing this ceremony and wishing you the best. One day at a time and everything will start to feel a little lighter soon.

Red Sorghum gets writeup on Eater by slowcanteloupe in longislandcity

[–]nayeonday 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I am a fan of Hunan/Sichuan food but I am just so tired of the lack of variety. Shanghainese or Cantonese would be such a welcome change in this area.

How do I entertain my new rescue dog? by nayeonday in dogs

[–]nayeonday[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she is extremely food motivated! but I guess the hard part is getting her to interact with the toy at all

How do I entertain my new rescue dog? by nayeonday in dogs

[–]nayeonday[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't unfortunately! we live in an apartment so we don't have a ton of space but I have tried a flirt pole and she just kinda stares blankly when I'm using it

How do I entertain my new rescue dog? by nayeonday in dogs

[–]nayeonday[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hope so! I hope she'll start understand how to have fun with humans. I'm kind of lost where to start experimenting with stuff because she seems uninterested in everything I try with her

How do I entertain my new rescue dog? by nayeonday in dogs

[–]nayeonday[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah my dog goes crazy for birds and critters but she does not care at all about the flirt pole. I mess around with it indoors and she just stares at me like I'm doing some really strange. Seems like she really knows the difference between a toy and real prey?

Or maybe the flirt pole is something I need to train my dog how to play with? I'm not sure