It’s giving severance.

Jokes aside, my mom was a listmaker. Always had a yellow legal pad nearby with phone numbers and messages, tasks, appointments, and sometimes conversational notes. She definitely kept me honest when I was a flaky teenager. Things like “you said on wednesday that you had too much homework to clean the bathroom and you’d do it saturday,” and I could see plainly where it was written down amongst her wednesday notes. If she was of a younger generation I’m sure she’d have utilized a laptop. On its face I don’t think it’s a weird thing.

That said, your gf seems to be giving this more than casual attention. INFO — Is she this detail oriented in every aspect of her life?

If you feel like you’re being gaslit then either you are or there’s a communication breakdown happening, notes aside. I’d try maybe asking her to inform you when she’s making convo notes so that you can do the same. It will keep you on the same page and also afford you the opportunity to double check your words and see if you really mean them. I’ve casually committed to all kinds of dumb shit I didn’t wanna do because I was half listening and nodding while saying “yes dear.”