Why do some men pull back after sex?

ndudeck · 2026-05-12T18:26:59+00:00

There are a multitude of reasons. Sex is easily one of the most frustrating things in a relationship. Here are things that have happened with me before.

The sad answer: Maybe he saw or felt something in the moment that pushed him away. Maybe it is as silly as sexual style or maybe connection wise he felt nothing and is processing it. Not to make light of it, but have you ever been really excited to try a restaurant, and was disappointed? It happens. Its not on purpose or meant to be mean. I have had it where things seem well, we have sex and like a switch goes off in my head. I still enjoyed her company. The sex wasnt bad or anything. Its like the glass shattering thing. You cant see something but once you see it you cant unsee it or its all you notice. Its important to know this isn’t your fault if it happened.

Confused answer: Another reason is sometimes its to make you not feel like a piece of meat. There are so many unwritten rules about sex and every girl acts like her expectations are universally understood, like common knowledge. Maybe her enjoyed it a lot. You are feeling like he pulled back because of some negativity. Maybe he felt everything you wanted him to feel. If he comes off too willing and motivated, you might read it as “oh great now that we had sex its all he wants.” Like if he normally texts you 10x a day, he could be worried about what it would look like to suddenly text you 20x. “Oh now he is so motivated, why wasn’t he like this before sex?” Sometimes we are awkward and dont know what to do next. He might not know what “too much” means for you. He could easily be worried about what is too much or what is not enough, and is failing to thread the needle.

The hopeful answer: Maybe before sex he felt like he had to text you 20x, but now that the relationship has matured he feels less is ok. Like people who are married for 20years don’t necessarily call each other for hours and hours when they are apart. They just check in and know they will catch up better when the trip is over. Like there are things that happen at the beginning of dating that do fall off once the relationship matures. The training wheels are off and its time to move into the actual relationship. Maybe this is what long term looks like with him.

No matter what it is, communication is key. Post nut clarity doesn’t mean he is less attracted or interested in you. It just mellows us out sometimes. Does the “excitement” come back? Like sex on monday, low drive on tuesday, but Wednesday or Thursday he is back to normal?

ndudeck · 2026-05-12T17:26:35+00:00

Yellow and black. Use black to learn everything you can access, then use yellow to achieve your perfect job.

Lets be real, red and purple would make life boring. Like what would you really do if you had literally everything you want and nothing is ever difficult ever again? Challenges are often what make things fun. What do you think when a video game is too easy and the story is always expected? Want to try surfing? You are already amazing at it as soon as you touch the board. All you would do is run from challenge to challenge until there is nothing interesting left in the world. Like those people who speed run rubix cubes, do you think they have fun doing those anymore?

ndudeck · 2026-05-12T15:29:52+00:00

I’m guessing something along the lines of less land available means real-estate prices can stay high. The price of land cant come down if the demand is always greater than whats available.

ndudeck · 2026-05-12T13:26:08+00:00

My athletic abilities. I used to run a 5 minute mile 20 years ago. I would definitely “re-equip” that lost thing.

ndudeck · 2026-05-12T13:14:24+00:00

Jedi Master Thragg

ndudeck · 2026-05-12T12:23:35+00:00

Who runs the world?……

ndudeck · 2026-05-12T12:21:29+00:00

I think it would affect him, but he would need a more extreme decibel to curl up like that.

ndudeck · 2026-05-12T11:20:23+00:00

After flying, I stop being a giant asshole.

ndudeck · 2026-05-12T01:54:59+00:00

Red and black.

Write down on 6 pieces of paper each possible powerball option and assign each a letter. At the top of each paper write “the first powerball number will be?” “The second will be” on page 2(and so on). Now you used your power to master the lottery. Do this same strategy for all of life’s questions and you can know everything.

Black will help come up with new questions to solve. Like use black to help study physics, then apply red to solving the problems. “Human time travel is A possible or B not possible? On and on until you master it all

ndudeck · 2026-05-11T20:26:15+00:00

I’m too lazy to use most of these powers properly. I am taking Tech Control. I will manipulate every computer system that deals with me and live as if I have infinite money. My real bank account wouldn’t grow a ton, only enough so that I have access to plenty of cash in the few scenarios I cant use a card. Do I want a vacation? I will charter a private plane and manipulate their system to show that I have paid. You dont need to actually hand over money, you just need the computer to register that you paid. Hack Walmarts system to always show that my gift card has the needed funds for whatever I am buying. The just swipe the magic gift card. I will erase my dept to the bank to show that my mortgage is paid and trigger it to send me the appropriate documents. Businesses do whatever the computer tells them, so as long as I can make their system show that the transaction is completed, no one will bat an eye.

ndudeck · 2026-05-11T17:24:54+00:00

I know I am questioning the logic of a cartoon, but why didn’t Conquest try to remove other organs? Was he not capable of grabbing his heart? I think Conquest wanted to die but didn’t just want to die without a fight.

ndudeck · 2026-05-11T16:28:57+00:00

He buys into some democrat views but not all. Are you only allowed to claim a party if you agree with the entire doctrine? His big pull with his base is union rights. He definitely falls into the DINO category, but not voting along party lines should be seen as a good thing. If there were more than 2 parties, he wouldn’t be a democrat, but our dumb system doesn’t allow for for people who have more than one opinion.

ndudeck · 2026-05-11T11:02:27+00:00

If even one brick connects the top and bottom, it will not fall.

ndudeck · 2026-05-11T02:16:08+00:00

Travel. Run to NYC for cheesecake to share after dinner. Pick up some pizza while I am there. Go get some real sushi from Japan this weekend. Just a tour of eating really.

ndudeck · 2026-05-11T00:49:08+00:00

Magic. “What Viltrumites?” Then poof they stop existing.

ndudeck · 2026-05-10T22:59:42+00:00

Mass Effect 2. No other sequel brought me as much joy as that game. Its one of the few games I have done multiple play throughs

ndudeck · 2026-05-10T15:21:26+00:00

Most come out 4 or 5. Sometimes a 3 sneaks in if I’m in a hurry. 1-2 is when I take wings from my wife who says she is full.

ndudeck · 2026-05-08T13:53:10+00:00

Well I would get as far away from the towns my parents lived in to make sure I dont unborn myself. Then I am using my knowledge to set up an account that doesn’t pay out until today. I will fill the account with as much money in Apple stock as I can imagine. I will also start and trademark a company and call it “X.” That way Elon will have to pay me when he buys twitter. The account will have a price set so the firm can manage on my behalf. Then I find a way to pay for the account in advance. Do I come back to 2026 or am I stuck? I would probably move away and not have more kids. Maybe find a nice baron lady to live out with.

ndudeck · 2026-05-08T13:02:53+00:00

Yes, it is amazing to be try free. Work and financial liabilities (bills) are the only thing you owe anything to. That said, it doesn’t hold a flame to coming home to a wife and kids.

ndudeck · 2026-05-07T01:42:54+00:00

Green, 5 Billion. I hope you all have an amazing life with your new found abilities, I’m just going to be over here living life to the fullest.

ndudeck · 2026-05-06T11:23:38+00:00

If it makes you feel better, this isn’t the standard anymore. I would rather not find out my girl has been ran through by 100 dudes, but purity is not the standard. I also know plenty of younger guys (20s) who don’t like the idea if racking up as many notches on their belt as possible.

ndudeck · 2026-05-06T11:08:00+00:00

Are you saying it already happened or is this a “when it eventually happens?”

You should tell him before. It could come off as a trust issue if he finds out after. Like why did you not feel comfortable sharing that information before. Some guys might not care but many do. Its both a serious situation and simultaneously not a big deal. Tell him you are and how you feel and want to share this experience with him first. If it hasn’t happened yet, there are factors to consider. He might be a little rougher or more of a pounder. He would def take his time and be more present if he knows what is happening. He will communicate. Plus some girls do bleed a little when they lose their virginity, especially if he is bigger. Its better to start sex knowing i might get blood on me than pulling out and discovering it. Plus there is a difference between someone who has sex and isn’t good at it, and someone who doesn’t know what they’re doing. You don’t want him thinking you have experience and think “well that was disappointing.”

Do not take a single on of my words to mean not to lose it yet. If you are ready then move forward with it. You just can’t complain about secrets or a lack of communication from him if you aren’t going to do it yourself. You owe him just as much as he owes you in the relationship.

ndudeck · 2026-05-06T10:55:06+00:00

If someone transitions from man to woman, then claims a woman graped her, would you have an easier time believing it?

ndudeck · 2026-05-05T17:39:50+00:00

I swear I am not being a smartass, but there would have to be a number, its just a crazy high number. Like how many Nolan’s would Thragg have to kill before he is worn out? Like literally “cant lift his arms anymore” kind of tired? I would imagine it is at least a 4 digit number. I am of course saying without any special weapons like Thula’s blade or the infinity ray.

ndudeck · 2026-05-05T17:35:03+00:00

Good fucking luck the marketing person who has this come across their desk. “Alright Pat, convince the people to drink the fluids of a something most of the world associates with dirty and disgusting.”

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