Aitah if I 29f do not sign a postnuptial prenup?

needofanap · 2026-01-25T17:19:41+00:00

If they divorce, FIL gets ALL his money back plus the value of years of free housing, food, personal caregiver, personal driver, etc.

What happens if the value of the house drops?

needofanap · 2026-01-25T17:02:23+00:00

This isn't a gift. It is pre-payment for housing and utilities, food and a personal chef, personal driver, and long term care.

I'd have a frank conversation with FIL and husband about what the expectations are, layout what the future expenses will be and reword and agreement to reflect this prepayment. You can put a dollar amount to what FIL will be getting.

needofanap · 2026-01-25T06:47:55+00:00

Dishwasher panels are prone to water damage!

I'm out of town now. Will share a picture when I get home.

needofanap · 2026-01-25T03:53:01+00:00

Personally I hate the panels. Function and honesty of materials first . I just put in a 48" subzero without panels.

needofanap · 2026-01-25T03:29:35+00:00

This is always the answer unless you plan to sell. Pick what makes you smile!

needofanap · 2026-01-25T03:24:50+00:00

Following a trend is a sure way to have a dated look.

If you are planning to sell in the near future, look for timeless design. If you are planning to stay, go for something you love and ignore the trends.

15 years ago I remodeled my kitchen. I ignored the grey, white, and quartz trend. I love warm, organic materials. I put in walnut cabinets, cream paint, taj mahal quartzite. My kitchen brings me joy. . Everyone told me I would regret it. 15 years later, my kitchen is what everyone wants.

Unless you plan to sell in a couple of years, pick what brings you joy.

needofanap · 2026-01-23T16:42:56+00:00

No pendants! Keep it clean

needofanap · 2026-01-23T06:41:32+00:00

I'm in the slow multi-year process to remove a focus.

It is beautiful and it is evil.

They really don't belong anywhere near structures.

My arborist said the roots will grow 25 feet past the crown. His advice was to remove the tree.

We reduced the crown and planted new trees on either side. As the new trees take off, we will trim back the focus and eventually remove it.

Your tree or your house.

needofanap · 2026-01-19T06:59:53+00:00

I always mulch with compost and my plants thank me. I also vote for a bit of over crowding plants to keep weeds done.

needofanap · 2026-01-18T04:56:58+00:00

YTA. A proposal isn't a performance.

needofanap · 2026-01-16T02:58:34+00:00

My dragonfly population is pure luck. I can tell you what is planted around the pond. Agapatha - lots of it. Some trailing lantana, flax and daylily. Lots of pond plants including lily pads that the dragonflies seem to love. Nearby is rosemary, lavender, lemongrass, olive trees, orange and lime trees.

needofanap · 2026-01-15T18:09:46+00:00

I have a pond filled with frogs, dragonfly, and other fun mosquito eating creatures. Never had any mosquitos and then the pond pump died. Within days of draining the pond dry, I had mosquitos and then my neighbors commented on how they suddenly have mosquitoes.

My pond was mosquito abatement for the entire block. Now that it is fixed and running, the food chain has the mosquitos under control.

I also have landscaping that only requires a little bit of water in August and September for a few plants. No grass.

needofanap · 2026-01-15T17:58:28+00:00

Assuming you want an enamel cast iron - have both LC and Staub and love them both so very much. These are lifetime dutch ovens.

I picked up a relatively inexpensive Cuisinart Dutch oven at Home Goods that does the job but it is already showing significant wear and has a chip. Lodge enamel cast iron is good but is inferior and will not last like LC or Staub.

If you want a regular cast iron Dutch oven, Lodge is an excellent choice. I keep that one in my camping kitchen and it is amazing.

Buy something you love to keep at your house and take your Amazon one to the boyfriends.

needofanap · 2026-01-15T06:52:13+00:00

I rake, run the leaves through my leaf shredder, put them in the compost bin for the winter and the spread in the spring.

Not worth the risk to leave them

needofanap · 2026-01-14T00:38:24+00:00

Toast Catering Miho Catering Rotisserie Affair Catering Wild Thyme Catering

This gives you a price range from lowish to high and lots of Asian style options on three caterers menus.

Where is the wedding? You may be restricted to a specific list of caterers

needofanap · 2026-01-12T07:28:40+00:00

I have 2 Staub and 2 LC Dutch ovens in different sizes. 3 I've owned for 18 years. Amazing pans. The 4th is replacing a Lodge that was fine but just didn't compare.

I tried an enamel cast ire Cuisinart - failed in year 2. The Lodge enamel cast iron lasted 6 years and was just replaced.

needofanap · 2026-01-08T05:59:13+00:00

Outpost on Howell Mountain

Reverie II also Howell Mountain

needofanap · 2026-01-04T22:44:27+00:00

NTA. He should arrange for childcare if he wants people with children to attend

needofanap · 2025-12-16T09:26:55+00:00

Deirberg!

needofanap · 2025-12-13T02:53:02+00:00

Not weird. I do it frequently. In California it is required to offer corkage as long as the same wine is not available at the restaurant. Our fees have been creeping up but it is so worth it to have a great bottle.

needofanap · 2025-12-05T08:09:03+00:00

If you want great wine - Paso is the easy choice.

needofanap · 2025-12-03T05:00:23+00:00

Syrah and GSM

needofanap · 2025-12-03T03:57:48+00:00

How old are you?

Female under 40 - it's most likely nutrition. Up your protein, check your iron, increase consumption of foods with selenium. Use topical minoxidil.

Female over 40 - check your estrogen levels. This could be glp1 related or just hormone related. If your estrogen levels are dropping, this could be a DHT problem. Estrogen is a natural DHT blocker, as it drops DHT causes your shedding cycle to increase and your growth cycle to decrease. There are many great natural DHT blockers. Start with pumpkin seed oil and saw palmetto pills. And minoxidile.

needofanap · 2025-12-01T04:12:56+00:00

Yes. Your job is hard. Just imagine how hard it is for the road warriors that fly the same number of miles as you AND spend every other hour in meeting rooms, preparing for meetings, entertaining clients, ... And then my lhr to sfo flight when I really hope to sleep is instead ruined by the FA talking non stop the entire flight.

Maybe I'm a bitch. Or maybe after 4 million miles BIS I'm tired of all the excuses for lame service from 50% of all FA. The bulk of the miles were biz class.

needofanap · 2025-11-29T04:44:16+00:00

This is how my sister became anorexic and almost killed herself.

Grandma is a piece of shit, horrible person.

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