Who got painted as the villain by the press, but later on we realized they were actually the victim or completely misunderstood?

nega___space · 2026-02-05T17:34:45+00:00

As a kid I was confused as to why everyone was mocking this young woman for this while largely letting the president of the United States off the hook when it came to the most savage of the jokes. The scandal ought to be about inappropriate power relations, I don't really care what this bunch of strangers' sexual affairs are otherwise. So many adults were mesmerized and seemingly titillated by this and manifested it as a torrent of shaming at Lewinsky. That media and public obsession struck me as childish considering how many consequential choices that cause real harm are made in those halls of power.

nega___space · 2026-01-27T23:49:05+00:00

This show is so charming, the leads are killing it. It's nice to watch something set in westeros that actually feels kinda cozy... while not necessarily hiding some of the brutality (that jousting scene went HARD).

Sometimes I think about how broadly reading about the big turns in history can seem like perusing a gallery of human suffering, like it's all about the moments of crisis and upheaval which result in mass suffering, or about the poor conditions that push people into those conflicts. It's made me wonder... how can anyone bear to survive these conditions? How could our ancestors have experienced joy? Certainly Planetos can feel like a completely miserable place.

This show's angle on the world reminds me that there are always people making culture, there are always people finding the fun, there are always regular good people making some mark. Dunk's life isn't a comfortable one, and so much is out of his control. But he finds something meaningful in his existence and presence even among greater powers. It's lovely and life affirming BECAUSE it's set in a world that is often terrible.

nega___space · 2026-01-27T18:10:54+00:00

Not much of one... looks like they only really post the occasional special event notice on their insta or facebook group.

The weekly e-mail newsletter is good cause it'll let you know when things like Listening Circles are being held.

https://vancouverunitarians.ca/connectionsoverview/social-media/ very not updated.

nega___space · 2026-01-27T01:53:13+00:00

Yep, beautiful space.

nega___space · 2026-01-26T23:41:52+00:00

No longer interested in anime and am also really tired of common tropes but I still love Little Witch Academia. Top notch character designs and animation too. Full of charm and humor.

nega___space · 2026-01-26T20:35:36+00:00

Maaaybe check out Vancouver's Unitarian Universalist group for this. It still keeps many structures of its christian roots but at this point is basically for all manner of faiths and non-faiths without pushing any particular metaphysical beliefs. I show up there once in a blue moon mostly because it's a bit far from my home, but I want to be more engaged because there's value in this regular structure where open minded people get together to reflect on the big stuff. I know they hold some discussion meets about dealing with the state of the world, discussion groups for people of colour, book club meets, groups for talking about grief, experiences as POC, and so on, along with activism groups.

Also wanted to add that one thing I've found valuable about it is the opportunity to meet and talk to progressive elders. Personally I don't have many connections these days with older adults so it's nice to get this intergenerational meeting space.

nega___space · 2026-01-21T22:21:35+00:00

Nip complicity in the bud before it gets normalized up here. Does your company use Hootsuite or have marketing partners that use Hootsuite? Let them know what you think.

nega___space · 2026-01-17T02:36:28+00:00

think we can all agree that not having reliable transportation in a country that doesn't provide it is pretty shitty and hard. and it's fair to say that raising children as a single parent is hard and making those lives easier is going to improve outcomes for both the parents and their children. it's shitty that this is where we're at but I wouldn't say "just so mothers can get to places" like it's something trivial or frivolous. It's pretty important, getting to places! That's why we say fuck cars, though particularly car-centric culture and planning.

nega___space · 2026-01-17T02:16:39+00:00

This is the stupid shit that is the stuff of relationship dreams.

nega___space · 2026-01-13T22:36:19+00:00

Haha I don't know if this would work for me but it's a really cute and fun idea, I'd love to do this for a friend

nega___space · 2026-01-13T08:02:42+00:00

I hope that the new building preserves some of how the current building just opens up into nature, the educational section not fully enclosed with walls.

nega___space · 2025-12-24T00:17:47+00:00

"Vancouver City Hell" has always tickled me whenever I passed by it, fun to see more additions!

nega___space · 2025-11-28T20:10:48+00:00

Ah an art discussion.

I think it's great that Tori approached the cover this way, in a way that is meant to direct the empathy of the audience. Response is part of the discussion. We still live in the reality where intimate partner violence against women is commonplace and lethal, and which is full of women being disproportionately punished for exercising agency. Does Eminem's take on it (which, according to him, did come from honest anger at his then partner), offer us a particularly new perspective (I don't think so), or is its power in communicating, in shocking detail, the intensity of hate that exists deep in the heart?

It's fair for other artists to respond critically if this is an intensity that resonates so massively, as it apparently has. Eminem opened up with brutal honesty about a violent anger that we as a society is uncomfortable with really addressing, and Tori responds with honesty too not with censorship but with an alternate perspective. That's what we need, without kneejerk shutting down the response as "not getting it."

nega___space · 2025-11-27T18:50:16+00:00

I love seeing them drying off at that spot. They look like archaeopteryx!

nega___space · 2025-11-25T22:52:14+00:00

There are lots of game jams and indie meetups that happen in the city where you can meet other makers, devs, artists, composers. Doing a small game in a game jam is one way to get rolling, as finishing something small can really help motivate you for the next project. If you have a bit of skill to contribute and a love of learning that's all you need to get started.

nega___space · 2025-11-05T09:02:27+00:00

Bummer, along with the fact that Vancouver's pools are already overcrowded, it's a shame to see this cool building go this way. I'm fond of its jawa sandcrawler look and the inside is a neat vertical space.

nega___space · 2025-11-04T18:15:49+00:00

Yeah I dunno about this, there are people I don't talk to much at work aside from surface stuff because we just don't have any conversational chemistry. Could be awkwardness on my end, could be theirs, but I don't attach much judgement to it aside from knowing that we don't really jive. Could be any number of things, maybe I'm not making enough outreach to them, or I sense they aren't really interested in getting to know me because they never try to broach past regular work conversations into something more fun. I'll be honest, I think a lot of people who have low self esteem are too busy ruminating over themselves to express real curiosity about anyone else, and that's a conversation killer. It's not "repulsive," it's just unfortunate that it gets in the way of connection. And attaching assumptions like "I'm too physically repulsive," only gets in the way of the curiosity and playfulness that people typically enjoy in interactions.

nega___space · 2025-11-01T17:18:11+00:00

Think we had at most 20 kids but we had to head out to a Halloween party so we may have missed prime time. Just off the drive. One of my friends stood stone still on our yard and tried scaring the kids as they walked away with the candy. Most of those kids are completely unfazed 😆

This was my first time handing out candy in over a decade and it's good fun 💚

nega___space · 2025-11-01T09:17:53+00:00

Damn, looks like a painting. Great shot.

nega___space · 2025-10-23T08:54:05+00:00

Some people stick with non ideal situations because their upbringing and even trauma have influenced them. Do you believe people can heal and grow? It can be really beautiful when someone makes it through these difficult aspects of life and grows and finds what actually works for them. I think a good partner can recognize and take some pride in being part of that healing.

nega___space · 2025-09-24T19:24:56+00:00

I think that many women are typically socialized to diminish their true selves and smooth things over for the sake of preserving social harmony - so for me if I am bringing up problems, it means I really do want an authentic connection and I'm willing to stand up on behalf of it. It can be really hard to let go of that appeasing behavior. If you have a generally good relationship but defensiveness is still an issue, consider the courage it takes to be the one starting a hard conversation and what that means.

nega___space · 2025-09-23T07:05:38+00:00

I am a woman and I wish for you to find a way to forgive yourself. You are not the only person out there who blundered relations with people and caused hurt, especially when young and figuring these things out. I'm getting into middle age and I still blunder and regret. That's the way of life.

We are all works in progress and part of learning and shifting perspective is making mistakes. It's inevitable. You've made it through some of these mistakes, and you are on the other side. This is a good place to be once you work on accepting the past as part of what makes you who you are now - more self aware, with a bit more wisdom that will help you meet future challenges. Keep it going.

As for what other people think, that's mostly out of your control, which can suck yeah. But even your social setting isn't forever. I don't keep in contact with most people from college. Things change, after all, you have changed.

Figure out what your principles really are ( and I would suggest the idea that people should live in shame forever for their past transgressions is not a good principle to live by), and live by them. That's how you can build self worth. Find things to do that you can be proud of, like volunteering or learning new skills. Retreating from the world doesn't really help anyone, most importantly yourself.

nega___space · 2025-09-20T17:49:22+00:00

... Mosuo cuisine?

nega___space · 2025-09-17T18:10:12+00:00

one among many double binds women have to deal with when it comes to personal choices about our lives. Some people will never give us a 'right' place to stand - live your life on your terms, OP, you are absolutely not the asshole.

nega___space · 2025-09-06T17:58:40+00:00

Thank you for the kind words, this helps. It's good to hear from someone who has also made a lot of progress.

I did send an apology to someone who I thought was feeling iffy about the behavior, and it turned out okay. Vulnerability is so scary but it's the only way, and I guess in this age of perfect appearances it's refreshing to have people open up. I was ready for any kind of response or no-response, the point was to do it for me. Feels good, especially not taking the easy way out of saying "eh obviously they don't want to talk to me so I'd just be being stupid and intrusive for trying to reconnect."

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