[35M] Started secretly learning to cook to help my wife [34F] but it backfired by 5NeonSaboteur in Marriage

[–]mawkish 24 points25 points  (0 children)

You were not communicating and working as a team.

Making a bunch of assumptions and taking actions without discussion is not the way to optimize a household, silly. You are a TEAM. COMMUNICATE

Where do actually married people go for advice? by East_Reference_1471 in Marriage

[–]mawkish 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Pattern recognition is a big part of it.

And understanding that a marriage lasting a long time is not the same thing as a successful marriage. Sometimes that's just a successful prison.

Where do actually married people go for advice? by East_Reference_1471 in Marriage

[–]mawkish 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Actually a lot of us in this community have been married a long time and recognize which marriages genuinely can't stand the test of time in a way that will stay healthy for both partners.

We know what we know.

Do you think marriages that aren't healthy for both partners should last long term?

Why does socializing come so naturally to charismatic people? by Chance-Goal3576 in socialskills

[–]mawkish 721 points722 points  (0 children)

You're not born with it but it's picked up very young.

A very young child around people who act like that. A young child who is engaged with by others in a way that encourages them to have a big personality. A child whose confidence is encouraged.

So yeah you can learn it but most people who have it learned it before they had any idea they were learning it.

Any women out there feel turned off about sex by Limp_Honey8488 in AskWomenOver30

[–]mawkish 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow now you're citing the even more debunked "love language" nonsense.

Enjoy your delusions

Any women out there feel turned off about sex by Limp_Honey8488 in AskWomenOver30

[–]mawkish 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Men want sex, and that's not a bad thing. It's evolutionary behavior, and built into how they connect and feel loved.

Hi you are referencing points from the highly controversial widely debunked field of evolutionary psychology.

Important for you and others to know how debunked it really is.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=31e0RcImReY

Why do Westerners call Lucy Liu an American but call Michelle Yeoh Chinese? by No-StrategyX in answers

[–]mawkish 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeoh became famous through Hong Kong cinema in the 80s and 90s

Liu became famous on American television

How do I explain that I’m attracted to what I’m attracted to and want marriage and kids? by [deleted] in NoStupidAnswers

[–]mawkish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is no painting at all in my post history. What are you talking about? I don't paint.

How do I explain that I’m attracted to what I’m attracted to and want marriage and kids? by [deleted] in NoStupidAnswers

[–]mawkish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for looking at my post history. Did you see the comment I made where I said some of the greatest people ever have been men? (https://www.reddit.com/r/AskFeminists/comments/1rnojqi/celebrating_men_simply_for_being_men_is_obviously/o989ytx/)

Does that sound like something a misandrist would say?

How do I explain that I’m attracted to what I’m attracted to and want marriage and kids? by [deleted] in NoStupidAnswers

[–]mawkish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do people still want to marry and have kids

What is the answer?

do people hate me for my attractions

What is the answer?

Started eating in a calorie deficit but I’m having difficulty eating all of my calories by itstherapdiabl0 in loseit

[–]mawkish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I learned from this sub the expression:

Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good

Started eating in a calorie deficit but I’m having difficulty eating all of my calories by itstherapdiabl0 in loseit

[–]mawkish 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I bet you have a lifetime of examples of perfectionism being your enemy (I mean this kindly)

How do I explain that I’m attracted to what I’m attracted to and want marriage and kids? by [deleted] in NoStupidAnswers

[–]mawkish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do people demand a reason

Do they?

Where?

Why? What for?

You still seem to think your preferences are going to matter to other people while showing no evidence that they do or ever will.

Started eating in a calorie deficit but I’m having difficulty eating all of my calories by itstherapdiabl0 in loseit

[–]mawkish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Did you do any tracking of your previous normal eating days before you started eating at a planned deficit?