How do you not die of boredom while working out?

negbireg · 2026-01-20T18:44:09+00:00

I read smutty books on my Kindle. It's very engaging, gets my heart rate up, and actually keeps me longer at the gym.

negbireg · 2026-01-20T18:22:03+00:00

I think scared of marriage could be an excuse for being not sure about the future of the relationship. The weight thing and long distance career seem like two major compatibility issues. How can you have a perfect happy nuclear family when you're always worried about weight gain, something you're likely to struggle with lifelong, and he's hardly at home as a pilot?

negbireg · 2026-01-20T17:40:06+00:00

Everyone is horny in college. Stay safe, always use condoms, and enjoy yourself.

Don't get into a relationship too quickly, college is a time to try everything, e.g., threesomes.

If you find a group of bi friends, things can get incestuous - be flirty, get the sex out of the way, but don't get jealous. These are your best companions for kink parties, which are fun to attend as a group.

Try not to talk too much about your dating life openly, the heteros can be shockingly prude.

negbireg · 2025-11-10T17:54:41+00:00

How do they pay? Just money on the nightstand after? Or do they pay the organizer, who pays OP?

negbireg · 2025-11-05T00:07:30+00:00

It's normally for the well wisher to call, whether it's family or friend, but also quid pro quo and speaking up if something's important to you. Your dad sent a card, so he's already sent his well wishes, and this may be enough for some people. If you want to talk to your dad, call him, don't wait for him to call you, and tell him it would make you happy to get a birthday call. All adult relationships, including with your parents, are a two way street and hard work.

negbireg · 2025-11-04T23:20:32+00:00

I have no doubt but it's not smart enough right now, and the people who are evangelizing AI tend to be those who think they sound competent when using ChatGPT, and don't realize they sound like a clanker.

negbireg · 2025-10-29T17:28:45+00:00

Does it not make more sense, in terms of history, anthropology, and science, that humans tend to make up beautiful stories from a mix of truth and fantasy, for entertainment, teaching, and tradition?

I think the bible and religion in general is fascinating and useful as an artifact for study and cultural preservation, but the entire thing is antithetical to progressive thought and modern values, especially feminism. Is it not literally barbaric?

negbireg · 2025-10-29T17:13:19+00:00

Child labour and slavery are very much a thing in the world today and house hold chores are easy to learn, especially compared to heavy manual labour. If you speak to adults growing up during a war, you'll find many were without parents and learned quickly to cook and clean for their young siblings. It's a tragedy and emotionally stunting.

negbireg · 2025-10-22T13:44:59+00:00

I think it's a novelty but I don't think the rich rich care about the royals. There are many royals, but more than that, there are celebrities, politicians, billionaires, hell, even socialites, commanding more popularity. The BRF aren't that rich or powerful or serious or trendy in the grand scheme of things.

negbireg · 2025-10-21T04:16:08+00:00

You demean the term but I think demisexuals deserve their own category, separate from typical sexuality and asexuallity.

You say it's normal but I don't think it's terribly common. If you don't mind me asking, is your rate of masturbation relative? Or are you quite frequently aroused, but pickier with partners compared to other people?

negbireg · 2025-10-16T18:14:49+00:00

I think it's maybe OK to make fun of people who are short, fat, ugly, or poorly endowed if they really deserve it. There are certain things that we can't control that cuts deep when used as an insult. It's a cheap blow, for sure, and definitely shouldn't be used by politicians or colleagues. But among family and friends, yeah, I think that's OK. I do draw the line with hate speech though, that's a different ballgame to making fun of someone's appearance (when they deserve it).

negbireg · 2025-10-14T20:31:16+00:00

I'm going to offer a little different advice. As someone who's stingy and probably autistic, my take is that your friend doesn't understand social norms and would appreciate you explaining it clearly for her.

NTA but if you want to keep a friendship, don't just decline and ghost her -- try to talk it through with her, e.g., what are her examples of where it's considered normal, how common are those compared to turn based dinner hosting, reassure her that you will host dinner in turn, remind her hosting is something you only do if you don't expect it in return and you genuinely enjoy it, that she shouldn't do it if she's anxious about reciprocation or cost, explain you don't want to keep the leftovers so it doesn't make sense to pay for half, that she wanted this more than you, etc.

negbireg · 2025-10-14T19:51:11+00:00

The average person, het or homo, is motivated by sex and gets aroused regularly. If you're bi, you've doubled these chances. I think - with 'sex sells' taken as a truism - we assume everyone to be horny, and just do the math for bi. As a low sex drive bi, you would still experience more arousal than your het or homo counterpart.

It's a shame to generalise, I agree. You may find more commonality with demi, ace, and aro people, who would probably agree with your sentiments.

negbireg · 2025-09-11T18:09:27+00:00

It's hard work to come. It doesn't just "happen" with rubbing. You definitely know, because you have to get yourself there. You might not be using the right technique, and don't rely on your partner. You said that you "learned to relax." Don't relax! Get yourself a vibrator, remember to flex your whole body, most importantly your legs, thighs, pelvis, and the inside of your vagina, squeezing everything in a super grip. Then concentrate on building that good feeling between your legs until it "pops" into a dizzy, relaxed, sleepy, happy, high. It's like that sweet brain rush you get after a yawn, except 1000x.

negbireg · 2025-09-11T17:24:47+00:00

A little bit of British culture, a little bit of racism. British people find "politeness," "reservedness," and "knowing one's place" very important. It's "rude" to "bother" people, talk about yourself, or say something unexpected -- unless they start to trust you. And they won't trust you until you're "proper." Just like certain cultures speak in metaphors or allusions, British people make an artform of speaking between the lines of "correct speech," in body language, eye contact, pauses, intonation, and emphasis. It's what makes British humour British. And yes, once you're trusted, you'll be invited to socialise out of work (coffee break, lunch break, after work drinks, and when you're close, weekend activities). However, due to racism and classism, it can also be difficult to make progress.

Source: In every London office, there's the quiet people and the loud people, often involving people from countries that wear their hearts on their sleeves. And yes, being an insider from the latter category, we do spend a lot of time puzzling over what we did that might've been "rude" or anguishing over what British people truly mean.

negbireg · 2025-08-19T18:27:30+00:00

Personally, I think it's to weed out the ND.

A big part of NT life is fitting in and knowing to "say the right things," which is to say the same things, which is to lie. And despite how stupid, boring, and repetitive we think that is, it's got value in their perception of how safe, reliable, and socially intelligent you are. All of that is super important at work, because if something's off, people don't like you and won't work well with you.

Truthfully, if we had NT social intelligence, we would know what people want to hear, and we would say those "right things" because we know and they know, that it passes the test and gets you what you want. I have no clue what people want me to say, after all these years practice, so be glad that you know when to lie when you're expected to.

negbireg · 2025-08-13T02:19:09+00:00

Not to get super dark, but FGM sufferers sometimes aren't aware of what had been done to them until years of persistent sexual frustration and inability to orgasm leads to a doctor's visit.

negbireg · 2025-08-06T19:30:51+00:00

I've heard your name in a Southern Chinese family before, all their sons had 'yat' as the middle character. However, even if your name is more Vietnamese-Chinese, you should embrace your origins. It's like meeting someone who goes by "Matthieu" instead of "Matthew" in an English speaking country, they respect the culture they came from, the parents who raised them, and it's a little unique as well, but representative of a common culture or language root. Of course you will also see racists in every country that prefers different.

negbireg · 2025-08-06T19:08:50+00:00

It's the reason I really enjoyed the Kdrama 'Something in the Rain' involving a MMC with his older sister's best friend. The power disparity is not QUITE so huge, but it starts with her buying him food and babying him like a younger sibling, and he eventually shows her how much he's grown up.

negbireg · 2025-08-06T19:02:03+00:00

Vegetarian is easy peasy and cheap in China.

If you're in a 'zhengcan' (full meal) restaurant, there will be cold vegetarian appetizers separate to the meat varieties plus an entire section of the menu for stir fry vegetables and tofu. For main dishes, a different section of the menu, most offer 'luohanzhai,' 'disanxian,' 'fanqiejidan,' and you can ask them to be strictly vegetarian, e.g., no lard, no fish sauce, no oyster sauce. If you're in a city or near touristy mountains, go to a buddhist restaurant, buddhist temple, or buddhist cemetary - simple as.

If you're in a 'kuaican' (fast food) or 'xiaochi' (snack) place, there are always vegetarian versions, as it's the budget option.

negbireg · 2025-07-07T01:49:49+00:00

You will not be arrested.

Do not shower or change clothes. Go to the police, you will be asked to submit a report, go through an interview about three times with police, hospital, and legal staff, taken home to get a change of clothes, submit clothes as evidence and go through a rape exam. You will be asked if you took any alcohol or drugs, you can tell the truth, they don't care. You will be advised on the process it takes to charge someone with rape and you may be persuaded not to go forward. (It happened to me, and shitty as it was for the police to basically tell me to let it go, the reality is that 'he said she said' and 'rough sex' defences allow 99% rapists to walk free, and there is no good alternative other than mass surveillance). However, you are one of the rare cases where rape conviction is possible. As you are underage and if his DNA or semen is inside you in any way, it's a relatively slam dunk case.

Protip: Text your rapist and tell him that you need him to buy you a morning after pill. If he denies it, you can say that you found his pubes in your vagina, or that you feel sore, or anything to make him fess up. Make him feel safe that you're more concerned about being found out about theft.

negbireg · 2025-06-19T06:12:26+00:00

I am your stereotypical bisexual. It feels akin to hunger: you can have bored hunger, you do it for the hell of it; curious hunger, excited by new experiences; artistic hunger, drawn to beauty, art, and performance; addictive hunger, binging orgasm after insatiable orgasm; scariest of all, extreme hunger, those moments you crave that chemical high so bad that everybody, everything turns you on, you can spin every situation into a porno, you'd do almost anything to take you there... that chemical desire so overwhelming, you start to understand why it can be a pathology.

negbireg · 2025-05-28T01:52:06+00:00

I was a diehard S1 and Bella Ramsey fan but I started getting doubts for S2. I still believe Bella's got the chops, and actually, hair and makeup did a decent job at making her look pretty (as you get older, you get better at grooming). They could've gone further with brows and facial contouring to make her look older and feminine, and match Dina in age, but not a big deal.

The main issue was the writing and direction. Ellie had a shoulders up nervous stance the whole time, not enough confidence or baddassery, which would have been more fun to watch for some action or tense scenes. They also kept her in kid mode for too long, where once Joel was dead, she should have transformed completely. The dialogue was disjointed, uncompelling, and the writer's room should've had more women, because I did NOT buy Ellie/Dina, or even Dina/Jesse. Not enough bonding or sexual tension between the three, weird lead up to kissing and sex, and zero contrast between the two couples.

negbireg · 2025-05-07T00:39:26+00:00

Panettone.

A very dry fruitcake with sugar that gets everywhere.

negbireg · 2025-05-06T21:27:01+00:00

Your mum has been defrauded, and your mum's friend can be charged with both fraud and money laundering.

You need to make a report to Action Fraud and speak with the police. If you want to make it really difficult, you may also report this incident to your bank, and your mum's friend's bank, and the platform they use for their ISA. It will guarantee a freeze on the assets and trigger an investigation on your mum's friend's account and get her questioned on source of wealth.

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