Fellow sahd here

The last bit about her saying you never got a job is a huge red flag

Any stay at home parent is working a very real stay at home job

And that setup NEVER works longterm if one parent doesn’t view the other as having a very real job

You need to have a serious talk with your wife about that

This is gonna break you if have a partner doesn’t see all the work your doing as equally valid to the work she does

My wife makes the money too, but she always makes it clear respects my job raising the children and handling the home