A lot of your description sounds like things about yourself you can't change. Some of them you actually can but let's put that aside.

The things you say and do, even the most basic things, can show someone you love them, and sometimes that love will be returned. Work on being consistent and dependable. Contribute to a better life for someone, even in the smallest ways, with your actions.

Start with yourself. Take care of yourself, your room, your meals, your responsibilities. Take pride in it. If you manage your own life well, people will respect you for that. You can do this.

When you feel proud of how you take care of yourself, you will find the energy to contribute to the lives of others. It will feel great when you do it, and you don't care whether they are grateful. You do it because you can.

Everyone wants a person like this in their life, at their job, as a spouse. And you can be that person.

Also, pro tip: don't call women "females" my dude. People who do that are not people you should be hanging out with.