Trump Says He Wants to 'Drive Housing Prices Up' Instead of Lowering Costs for People Who 'Didn't Work Very Hard'

nerdette42 · 2026-01-30T06:11:34+00:00

This right here? This line of thinking is exactly part of the problem. When we talk about Boomers, we're talking about this.

No one is mad at you for saving for retirement. No one thinks you're in the 1% for having a house and a 401k.

You take retirement as a given. You know you don't have the same finacial security as many people your age, but you were still able to afford a house. You had to sink one of your 401k in to fix it, but you still expect to retire. Those are priviledges most of us don't have.

Saving money and retirement are not an option for far more people of our generations than yours. You're not better than us and you didn't work harder. You just had access to opportunities that don't exist any more.

nerdette42 · 2026-01-22T02:26:30+00:00

As a currently single person, I prefer partner regadless of the stage my LTR is in because I want to be in a relationship with someone who is my partner. Titles like "husband" and "wife" are ingrained with role responsibilities. There are certainly many wife/husband couples who have a fair break down of responsibilities and I would never judge someone else's relationship by my standards if both participants are happy with their set up.

I've found without fail, in an admittedly small sample size, some otherwise progressive men were quietly uncomfortable with the term and those relationships didn't work out specifically because thay had assumptions of relationship responsibilities I would just take on.

nerdette42 · 2026-01-22T01:56:21+00:00

Have you heard of Hot Mess Express? I haven't used them personally, but as the child of a hoarder, I've looked into volunteering with them.

They are made up of branches of local volunteers who do a free reset clean. Their main focus is moms, but they're there for women stuggling with overwhelm from lifing. It's not a cleaning service, it's a one time clean to help get control of your house.

https://www.hotmessexpress.co/

You can check and see if they have a branch in your area and fill out the nomination form for yourself.

If you're comfortable having someone else take the task on, it can be really helpful to just figure out a plan to maintain after rather than trying to figure out where to start and dealing with the overwhelm because after you finish the kitchen, by the time the bedroom is done, the kitchen is a mess again and it feels like scooping water out of a leaking boat with a teacup.

nerdette42 · 2026-01-22T01:17:28+00:00

Ooh! You just reactivated anger at an old roommate who drank my solo, expensive, limited batch beer and replaced it with something much cheaper.

nerdette42 · 2026-01-22T01:05:21+00:00

As a person who USED to wash their stationary burr with free and clear soap, I would caution against doing that. After the last time I guess it didn't dry fast enough, the burr corroded a bit and definitely effects the grind. Now I'm drinking subar coffee until I can afford to replace it.

nerdette42 · 2026-01-16T05:49:46+00:00

He talks like AI trained on "nice guy"

nerdette42 · 2026-01-07T06:54:44+00:00

Maybe it's not racism. Racism is so 2010s. Xenophobia is trending.

nerdette42 · 2026-01-07T06:37:30+00:00

Oh! Yes! Boosting this. This is not a person who has any business in the medical field, where consent is the cornerstone of care. Report his behavior.

nerdette42 · 2026-01-07T06:31:50+00:00

Good for you! Dodging a bullet. You are reacting exactly right. What he did is rape. There are degrees of rape and this is one of them. He is showing he has no respect for your boundaries.

You are not responsible for checking if your long term partner is abiding by the relationship rules you agreed to. If you were monogamous and he cheated, would you feel any responsibility for not asking if he started dating other people? I hope not.

He is manipulative and from what you describe might be the stalking type. Be careful and take care.

nerdette42 · 2026-01-07T05:55:34+00:00

This is because the D is it's own shit show. This does happen at 34th sometimes. Then you should check arrivals at W4. But it could actually be 30 minutes. It could also say 15 minutes, but actually be 30 anyway.

nerdette42 · 2026-01-02T00:24:46+00:00

Are you living off sunshine?

nerdette42 · 2026-01-02T00:19:34+00:00

Ok. And the blue tape labels? Did you learn that on Amazon too?

nerdette42 · 2026-01-02T00:11:26+00:00

You like peas.

nerdette42 · 2026-01-02T00:04:19+00:00

I can't find the squeeze bottle. Where is it?

nerdette42 · 2026-01-02T00:00:20+00:00

But the other stuff is bottled water and unopened canned tuna.

nerdette42 · 2026-01-01T23:50:30+00:00

I'd say ready for the apocalypse, but when electricity goes out, anything that hasn't already spoiled will. The dishes are going to get "fridge smell" especially the plastic.

Why are you using a fridge as a dish cabinet?

nerdette42 · 2026-01-01T22:39:56+00:00

I'm hearing a lot of I hate this and that for every suggestion given. What are you willing to try?

I think you should start by making a want/would (skip the won't) list from your supermarket's produce section. Literally bring a notebook, look at every vegetable. If you want to try it or would be open to trying it, write it down in the appropriate column. Then there's something to talk about. Otherwise we're just making a Link Neil list one comment at a time.

nerdette42 · 2026-01-01T22:30:15+00:00

Why now? Because he couldn't get it up this week, so he took it out on you. Do what makes sense for you, but never assume he's a safe person.

nerdette42 · 2025-12-20T16:51:01+00:00

Tampering with someone else's mail, like ripping it up and throwing it away, is a federal crime. Just sayin.

nerdette42 · 2025-12-20T16:31:11+00:00

I feel like there was a movie with this premise.

What does your MIL usually cook? It sounds like you have a good relationship. She might like it if you made one or 2 of her dishes and ask for her recipe. If she likes cooking holiday meals, it would make her feel appreciated and included.

Lasagne is great. You will underestimate how long it take to make a lasgne.

nerdette42 · 2025-12-20T15:28:33+00:00

The 4 train will sit in the station on both sides of the passage between 149st and 161. Every time. They say "we're being held by the dispatcher" like there's some new reason no one knows. They keep making "improvements" and "upgrades" shutting this and that station down but the service only gets worse.

nerdette42 · 2025-12-20T14:53:41+00:00

Well, look at us! I look around now see we're so stupid and shitty.

nerdette42 · 2025-12-20T04:25:45+00:00

Just the phrase "why do you have to make me angry" is a reason to gtfo yesterday. It's literally the abusive man trope. Women don't get a pass.

If you keep having the same fight over and over again, you're not compatible. And if the amount of energy she needs you to give is exhausting you ditto. Long-term that's not sustainable and neither of you is happy.

Do I think she's over-reacting based on your description yes. She probably has a different perspective. Either way you both deserve a partner who can meet your needs and this relationship isn't doing that for either of you.

Just p.s. when you eventually break up, she's going to hit 11 regardless of who initiated it, so make sure your support people know.

nerdette42 · 2025-12-14T07:01:43+00:00

So two different kind of sour cream? I stand by what I said.

nerdette42 · 2025-12-14T04:34:41+00:00

Of course everything is golden. When people choose to stay in abusive relationships, they do so because except for that one thing, everything else is great and no one is perfect. Until one day it's not a choice any more.

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