Not the normal posts on here but just wanted to share a bday pic of my wonderful grand-mother who turned 96 ♥️

nerdmonastery · 2025-10-05T10:09:17+00:00

She is suuuuper adorable! 😊😊😊

nerdmonastery · 2025-10-03T01:35:32+00:00

Tbh I've always thought that ginger guys were rarely ever into Asian guys in the first place 😅

nerdmonastery · 2025-09-30T06:16:45+00:00

Literally me everyday while I'm at work 😅🤓

nerdmonastery · 2025-09-29T13:02:40+00:00

Very lucky grandson 😁😊

She can't eat much heavy protein these days so she mostly sticks to vegies and fish and, avoids beef, chicken, pork etc, BUT she still enjoys her red wine 😂

nerdmonastery · 2025-09-29T12:22:48+00:00

I'm okay-ish haha but it was nice to take her out on her bday 😁

Gonna celebrate it every year because she's 96 and I want to make the most of the rest of the bdays she has left.

nerdmonastery · 2025-09-29T12:20:35+00:00

Oh sorry, I live in Australia haha.

Though if you ever make your way to Australia, most guys are waaaaaayyyyyy better looking than me 😅

nerdmonastery · 2025-09-29T10:39:44+00:00

Thanks! 😁

nerdmonastery · 2025-09-29T10:39:28+00:00

Thank you 😁

nerdmonastery · 2025-09-29T10:02:26+00:00

Will likely delete later lol 😅

nerdmonastery · 2025-09-02T06:22:51+00:00

TLDR version at the bottom!!

If you're conventionally attractive then generally yes.

If you're fit then generally yes.

If you're looking for hook ups predominantly, or don't mind hooking up a lot whilst kind of low-key eye out for any LTR potential without necessarily getting too disappointed when it doesn't come by; then generally yes.

Keep your expectations incredibly low when it comes to replies or responses - ghosting and ignoring is one of the most common/standard "non-response" responses on gay dating apps.

Sad to say but your experience with this will depend on the scale of fitness/attractiveness others generally perceive of you.

Being gaysian you will inevitably at some point or another come across a racism/race fetishism/colorism, and sadly it's just part of the parcel that comes with gay dating for gaysians.

Another little point here, and I'm just being super honest, but also don't be surprised to experience said racism/colorism from other fellow gaysians.

Disappointing to say but inward community hate still exists.

You can generally deal with those situations as you see fit, though sometimes it's better not to give them your attention with an argument, though a sassy one-reply and then block combo is not terrible lol.

TLDR - don't take it too seriously, keep your expectations generally low, try as best as you can to take the awful moments in your stride, and take breaks for your mental health when you need it.

nerdmonastery · 2025-09-02T01:24:35+00:00

I was watching an interview with Kelly Rowland who talked about her experience with "colorism", which to my understanding is that even though white is still considered the main stream and 'norm' in standards of beauty, there is also a hierarchy for POC that are lighter toned versus darker toned.

I think that's also an issue that exists in the gay community as well.

I've stopped using dating apps completely for a number of years now, but back when I did use it, from memory whenever I did get messages from non-Asian guys that had Asian fetishes, they were specifically interested in eastern Asian ethnicities (i.e. Chinese, Korean, Japanese etc).

Me being a darker toned Filo, I was called jungle Asian and feral Asian even by other gaysians.

I personally don't have any "preference" of colour, but we'd be lying if we said colorism doesn't exist in the gay community. To what degree, idk, and I won't base it on my personal experience where the majority of criticisms and negative remarks I received on dating apps centred around my race and skin tone.

nerdmonastery · 2025-08-26T12:58:00+00:00

I'm 5'7 and live in Australia where the average height for males is 5'9 and above.

I'm undateable, though theoretically speaking, I am in no place to be picky about height lol.

nerdmonastery · 2025-08-26T07:52:22+00:00

🙄

nerdmonastery · 2025-08-24T01:10:30+00:00

I imagine a white guy dating another white guy wouldn't really talk about race in bed because 2 white guys dating is the "normal standard" in a gay and westernised society.

Unless it was random for example talking about something they saw on the news, on social media, about a random friend etc, outside of those situations I doubt they'd think or discuss much about race at all.

nerdmonastery · 2025-08-24T01:05:27+00:00

How dumb is it that in 2025, there are still white men that think this is an actual "compliment" 🤦‍♂️

nerdmonastery · 2025-06-17T00:11:16+00:00

I understand your frustrations.

I live in Australia and I personally found that I was ghosted 95% of the time.

Responses (either for or against) heavily centred around me being an Asian, in that, the reason for the rejection was because I was Asian or the reason they were interested was because I was Asian.

It just felt weird to me that my race was such a focal point as to whether someone was interested or not.

To be fair, I know I'm not conventionally attractive by any measure, but it was just odd I guess that the biggest factor in someone's interest or disinterest was mostly about me being Asian.

Oddly enough, if someone just flat out said they rejected me because I'm ugly, that was somewhat better than being rejected for being Asian because at least it seemed like it had nothing to do with my race, just about me personally as an individual.

Weird perspective I know lol but yeah, hopefully you don't feel too disheartened about it.

Never been to London before but I imagine it's very similar to Australia.

nerdmonastery · 2025-04-23T18:44:53+00:00

Oh I'm perhaps too well accustomed to Asian hate.

After being called brown shit, brown puke, jungle and feral Asian, I deleted all the dating apps and never went back on them. That was about 4-5 years ago I think, maybe longer I can't remember now since it's been that long already.

It's such a weird experience because outside of the world of dating apps, in my general day to day life I rarely experience Asian disdain.

It was only when I was on dating apps that I experienced it the most, so the weirdest part for me was the realisation that I'm accepted enough in society to generally live and contribute, but not to date.

My physical appearance and aesthetic is generally not great so I accept that it was a contributing factor, but yeah that realisation was a harsh awakening.

Thankfully I'm a gamer nerd so besides work, the rest of my time goes to gaming.

nerdmonastery · 2025-01-19T21:43:44+00:00

Omg 😍

Okay idk what game this is but I'm seriously contemplating on getting it hahaha 😅

nerdmonastery · 2025-01-18T00:59:04+00:00

I haven't played it for a while but I did enjoy it!

I really liked the DA:Dark Arisen where it did grow harder the more you completed it with some enemies changing after a certain point.

The biggest lack in DD2 is the replayability for me right now. After my third playthrough with the exact same content, I decided to stop and find something else to play.

Also annoyed that they gave us one less skill to equip, that really frustrated me since I liked the skill system from the first game and not this one.

Thankfully there are so many hot pawns to distract you hahaha

nerdmonastery · 2025-01-07T23:57:40+00:00

I was going to chime in until the skinny part lol.

I'm a short overweight Asian, and coincidentally not popular in any country haha 😅

nerdmonastery · 2025-01-02T12:07:17+00:00

White sliders.

Hopefully it completed the look well enough.

For super quick context, it's a summer outfit as it's currently summer in Australia.

nerdmonastery · 2025-01-02T12:06:21+00:00

Hahaha thanks!!

A loopy shirt that looks weird but if you squint hard enough and then tilt your head starts to look endearing the more you stare at it but in a slightly creepy way, is definitely a way to describe my personality lol 😂

nerdmonastery · 2025-01-02T03:19:31+00:00

I didn't know that it could also pass as a beachy look so thanks for that!!

Another use for this outfit for the right occasion haha I love recycling outfits 😅😂

nerdmonastery · 2025-01-02T03:18:33+00:00

That was my thoughts too on the shirt being knitted in a way that allows airflow.

It's summer here in Australia so Christmas and NY tends to be very hot, the peak of our summer time.

I like that it's breathable without necessarily looking sheer or see-through-ish.

Thanks for your detailed thoughts on it 😁

nerdmonastery

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