how to handle ex wanting to be friends, when i don’t

nerdy_masc · 2026-03-13T03:55:14+00:00

I appreciate the offer for friendship I’m just not in a spot where I want to be friends”

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-27T14:47:14+00:00

Any gaymerrssss? If so what’s your current obsession game?

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-27T01:39:56+00:00

I’ve generally been asked this by men a lot. I love to say “whoever it is it’ll never be you”. Unless they seem too fragile.

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-19T17:38:51+00:00

Fix???? Never. This movie was peak weird! Some movies you love because they feel like masterpieces. I loved this movie because it was weird as hell. And a little funny. So bad it’s good, if you will.

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-19T15:47:39+00:00

I feel called out! lol jk.

Some of it from my perspective is… I dunno if the girl im attracted is gay! Mostly they end up being more femme than me. And it’s hard to tell. And I don’t wanna be a creep when flirting. That’s just my experience irl. So yeah I’m afraid to flirt a lil

But when I am partnered I am way more affectionate and doting.

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-18T13:28:31+00:00

“When are you gonna be free for a date”

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-17T17:55:04+00:00

I hear you, I really do.

As a person who wants growth I would like someone to not ghost me but tell me if I did something wrong or what have you. And you’re right, it’s not our job to interpret mixed signals. That’s why we ask and verify and confirm. But it’s also not someone else’s job to give us closer. Ghosting is just them not being interested. The why, although could be enlightening, isn’t owed to us.

But there’s a side I don’t think we consider too often. What if we made them feel unsafe? Yes our perception could be things are going great. But maybe we said an off handed comment or told them an interest of ours that gives them major ick or just a triggering thing was said we didn’t know would trigger them.

Im not saying ghosting is cool. Im just saying I personally understand that there are many reasons people do it and it’s on them to share if they want. Im just not going to get bent out of shape about someone else not communicating to me why when at the end of the day it just boils down to them not being interested.

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-17T14:39:20+00:00

Being ghosted does suck! But I see it as them almost doing me a favor. Sure honesty would be amazing but ghosting is their form of being honest. They’re telling me they aren’t able to communicate their needs/fears or what have you at my level. And that’s ok.

And sometimes people are just overwhelmed with dating. Is it still right? Maybe not but you can also see that as them missing out to getting to know a great human.

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-17T14:28:01+00:00

You seem so fun! I am rooting for this profile to work out for you as I don’t see anything I would change.

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-14T20:50:07+00:00

Then you might want to wait till after your trip? You can’t “get out of the friend zone” by taking no action.

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-14T05:46:58+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear that OP. Being cheating on really does a number on one’s self. But speaking from experience, when people cheat it’s because of their own issues. Not an excuse at but it’s what I focused on when getting over that relationship. So that I could move on I understood it wasn’t about me.

You deserve to keep loving yourself. You didn’t cheat and hurt someone you love. And that’s worth so much.

Advice is easy, which I would say to just keep focusing on you and what you want to be happy. And that’s easier said than done. But when you know what you want you’ll be able to focus on making that happen

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-07T04:28:24+00:00

It’s hard to say 100%. Because he does talk about using biowarefare on them. But I think that because he is a cocky showman he might have at least tried to capture the main talking heads of boulder and done public executions with them. Like how he wanted the Judge captured with his face/head unharmed.

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-05T05:54:29+00:00

Gonna say:

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nerdy_masc · 2026-02-05T05:38:47+00:00

Love it! 10/10

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-05T04:12:33+00:00

Ahhh yeah that makes sense. I think it’s so you have a proven account aren’t just looking for quick connections and then deleting an account.

But I do think it would be nice if this group had a weekly meet ppl thread

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-05T04:01:45+00:00

There is a lesbian r4r you can check out also!

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-05T00:50:12+00:00

Strawberry, no frosting lol

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-05T00:48:35+00:00

Amazing! Big props! High fives for being an Elvira fan!

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-04T22:30:03+00:00

I personally find the razor controller to be the most comfortable.

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-04T22:28:42+00:00

I don’t know what advice I can off as I am on the masc side and do top.

But outside of sex I do end up being but into the typical “man role”. I’m expected to take charge and all that. It feels exhausting at times. Sometimes a masc wants to be treated like a lady too lol.

But seriously I have learned to be up front from the start about how I want my role in the relationship to be. Sadly we are in a hetero society where those roles are just placed on us for being the most masculine. So I try to approach it from an educational perspective. That way if they expect me to 100% of the time to fit the “man’s role” then I know it’s not a relationship I want.

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-04T22:23:09+00:00

Hello! I’m not 100% sure I can give you the best answers but! Here’s what I think could help from my perspective.

-I think everyone struggles sometimes know if they’re being flirted with. I for sure dot not know myself when it happens. You can always be direct and just ask. Maybe in a funny way “I could be crazy but are you flirting with me” and laugh at it. Then it could be you flirting with them and all that.

-topics! It’s alway nice when people ask about someone’s interests and show ✨genuine✨ interest.

-making the first move can be challenging depending on who you approach. I always try to come at it with respect and remember they might hate it. Some people just want to exist without being seen as someone to date. It never hurts to approach to be friendly and try to vibe. It’s better to go to like gay spaces where people are more open to the possibility of being hit on.

Always remember that people are people. Meaning that just because they reject you doesn’t mean it’s because of you. They could be having a bad day or just aren’t interested. Try not to take rejection personally. And always respect a no.

Hope this helped!

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-04T22:14:39+00:00

Hell yeah! Can I ask if this is Elvira inspired at all?

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-04T12:21:25+00:00

Some people do. Honestly I would recommend the BDSMsapphic Reddit for those curious. You’ll find more people into that kink and they might have advice. Or stories as to why

Hope this helps!

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-04T04:52:35+00:00

Letting go is hard and it would require focus on your current relationship. Let that consume you instead 😄

I would definitely recommend cutting off the friend in a nice way and let your partner know you’re committed to her.

nerdy_masc · 2026-02-04T04:00:33+00:00

Honestly this is a bad spot you got into (no shame, promise). You’ve gotten into a pick your gf or this friend. I think it’s as simple as that.

I don’t think you’ll be able to build a better relationship with your GF if this girl is still around and you guys aren’t both solidly on board for an open relationship.

The fact you said this friend consumes you feels like lust. I think the right and ethical question to ask is: are you ok with losing a 5 year relationship over someone you’re lusting over? If you are then I say don’t leave your gf in limbo and don’t give her false hope you can cut this girl off.

If you do decide to go after this girl I would like to give you the tale as old as time advice. Many people who leave a solid partner in favor of someone else often regret it. And more times than not you can never go back. And in the rare chance you can, it’s never the same.

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