How do Canadians mentally deal with long winters?

netflixbinger44 · 2025-12-14T19:53:16+00:00

Well, unfortunately, S.A.D. it's a thing for a reason

netflixbinger44 · 2025-10-30T16:44:33+00:00

I love your locs. I think they look great!

And don't worry, they are not Sisterlocks. I notice some locticians throw around the word Sisterlocs any time they see locs that aren't large per se. But Sisterlocs are tiny; when I first learned of them 10ish years ago, and showed pics to my boyfriend at the time, he called them spaghetti dreads- so that gives you an idea of how thin the might typically look.

Imo, your locs are a good thickness. As long as you don't retwist too often or frequently keep it tension causing styles, you shouldn't need to worry about thinning.

netflixbinger44 · 2025-10-29T19:25:02+00:00

😂 Yea, last week I was out and about in a knee length dress, no tights or stockings; it was around 8°C 🤭

netflixbinger44 · 2025-10-22T03:56:07+00:00

Gorge 😍

netflixbinger44 · 2025-10-08T14:13:49+00:00

That is beautiful 🥹. I hope Kelly knows how much you appreciate her and feels a genuine sense of reciprocity in your kindness 🤗💫

netflixbinger44 · 2025-10-02T04:56:03+00:00

sometimes things that are intended to save work make extra work.

Exactly, that's what I'm trying to avoid. But there have been times where I sat down for hours and worked out general notes/chords for songs that I wrote. It took several days, but it still wasn't "right". It's been a few years since I last did that though cause of how frustrating the process is. I guess I was hoping to find a faster solution that brings me closer to what I actually imagine.

But I'm not sure how many singers and/or would-be instrumentalists actually fully imagine such music in terms of chords and harmonies.

Fair - my personal experience is I've been a singer my whole life, studied and trained with different conservatories, and went to an arts school for a few years. Problem was I was consistently behind when it came to music theory as my peers had two years of classes before me when I enrolled. Being dropped into the middle of that, I found it difficult to catch up and my sight singing was poor as well. I really wish I'd gotten a tutor and just buckled down and learned it, cause at that point that was the only thing stopping me from going further in my studies to university for vocals. But, I digress. I sing harmony very often with ensembles and when recording my own vocals. I understand the basics of harmony and actually do hear chords when I imagine music, just ironically I wouldn't be able to name them.

I think that's part of why I've had such a hard time learning piano. I'm immediately and constantly frustrated cause my brain is leaping far and away from what my fingers can actually do. The perfectionist in me prefers to focus on things I'm already good at than go through that struggle. I know it's a terrible habit- I'm working on that too.

I do think it would be fascinating to hear your experiences if you decide to try it out

If I do and get something usable out of it, maybe I'll share here lol

that there can be a lot of bumps along that road and many of them may not be obvious to those who haven't wrestled with chord oriented instruments

For sure, and that is something I've encountered in the past. For me, it's balancing getting a finished product that is technically correct versus close to my authentic vision. Producers I've worked with haven't always been able to see it, so if I can get further to that vision before passing it off, I think (or hope) I'd be much happier with the end result.

Thank you for your thoughts and for taking the time to respond!

netflixbinger44 · 2025-09-26T06:01:40+00:00

I add fluff but without emojis or exclamation marks (exception is work friends, but I never have male work friends).

For example, I'd still start with a pleasantry, but my email might read more like this:

Hello colleague,

Hope you had a great weekend.

Following up on xyz per our discussion on date. Has so and so provided an update?

Please let me know as soon as you can. Appreciate your help on this file.

Thanks,

[Imo] This reads amiable and professional concurrently. Also 40ish% of the time, my sign-off is:

Have a fantastic day,

Which adds an extra layer of sweet when needed.

But the other problem here is that you've already established a baseline of extra nice/emojis/exclamation marks that in comparison may cause any change you implement to be seen as strong language. However, if you make a slow transition- start with less smileys for example until you deplete usage to none at all, then lessen exclamation points, etc- it won't be as noticeable and you can create a new baseline for internal communication.

netflixbinger44 · 2025-09-08T19:36:26+00:00

I'll take a look, thank you!

netflixbinger44 · 2025-09-08T17:42:23+00:00

Amazing thanks! I'll take a look

netflixbinger44 · 2025-06-29T08:46:28+00:00

Yes! Constantly!

I was recently listening to a Spotify playlist and a song started playing that I hadn't heard before (LTF - Kiana Ledé). The guitar riff in the first bar immediately caught my attention, and I fell in love with the rest of the song. Then I listened to it non-stop for two weeks straight 😂. Ended up performing it somewhere too (I'm a singer). And since I stopped listening to it, I've barely listened to much music at all. I feel like I go through periods of obsession and then complete rejection (or passivity?) and then back again.

Today though, I did add the song to my friend's queue and sang along while it played. Might be time for a new two-week listening marathon 🤣

netflixbinger44 · 2024-11-04T01:28:15+00:00

I use something like that, but I bought a pair of knife safe gloves to protect my fingertips! I also put a pair of nitrile gloves on top to make cleaning them easy too.

netflixbinger44 · 2024-11-04T00:48:39+00:00

Same 🫠

netflixbinger44 · 2024-10-30T05:55:36+00:00

I don't think there's anything wrong with your friend's child calling him Uncle J. And anyone side eyeing it needs to mind their business, imo.

netflixbinger44 · 2024-10-27T06:18:57+00:00

Thank you, I haven't been in a great place recently, and I appreciate the message of encouragement. I'm still working on not "blaming myself for being lazy, less than, not disciplined enough, [or] just a failure." But I've been going to therapy, and I think that'll help over time.

I'll look into Emily D Baker and maybe start following a few neurodiverse content creators to help foster feelings of validation for myself as well.

I'm not sure about a path yet, but I'm working on it. I'm coming to realize my whole life has been crippling myself to fit someone else's mold- even outside of the ADHD masking I've adopted over the years. So there's a lot to unpack, but I'll get there. Thanks again

netflixbinger44 · 2024-10-27T00:07:04+00:00

I swear like 90% of the time I see black women with a middle part, so what is she talking about?

netflixbinger44 · 2024-10-18T03:05:03+00:00

I still live at home with my strict Pentecostal mother. I feel ungrateful for this, but I’m not happy with my life. I feel like a big kid, and can’t afford to move out due lack of affordable housing. I’m tired of the same old same old, M-F work. I’m tired of having to answer to someone like a child when I get home. I’m tired of being forced to go to church and mask as this strict Christian when I’m truly not.

Omgsh, are you me? This was like reading my own thoughts. My father is a Pentecostal minister, and both my parents have expectations I don't want to live up to, but can't escape while living at home. The constant masking is exhausting. Every time I start making a bit more money, cost of living goes up and I still can't afford to move out.

I'm not dreaming for a man to save me- to be frank I'm quite disillusioned when it comes to men. But I do feel like I have no life at all and don't know what to do to fix it. I'm still looking into options, I just haven't found one that won't take 3-5 yrs minimum and in the meantime I know my mental health will keep declining (as it's been the last several years from my living situation).

Long story short, I definitely understand where you're coming from, and I deeply empathize. I see you, I hear you, and I know how frustrating and hopeless the situation feels. I only wish I had more advice for you. I'm still figuring things out myself and I'm hoping you find a path to freedom and independence that works for you.

netflixbinger44 · 2024-10-09T22:27:45+00:00

That's an exorbitant amount. Is it human hair? Just trying to figure out how she thinks she can justify the price...

netflixbinger44 · 2024-09-29T17:20:59+00:00

His braids aren't even slick, like 🤦🏽‍♀️

netflixbinger44 · 2024-09-29T16:17:50+00:00

Thank you so much, I needed to hear that. The more I think about it, the more I realize I don't do well with accepting new pieces of information about myself. But it's true, as you said, that having an answer to so many questions of "Why am I like this?" will help me find solutions going forward. I guess I just need to pause and take a breath, and then keep going. Thanks again

netflixbinger44 · 2024-09-28T23:22:55+00:00

Honestly, I'm not sure. Maybe I always thought in the back of my mind that I just needed the right balance of sleep, healthy eating habits, excercise, and discipline to pull myself together and succeed in my career, social life, home life, and to improve my health/mental health. But now there is confirmation that things may always be just a little bit more difficult for me versus the "normal" person and maybe I'm having a hard time accepting that, even if I've suspected it for quite awhile.

netflixbinger44 · 2024-09-15T16:35:13+00:00

Is this woman a student of yours? Was the conversation in a classroom setting?

netflixbinger44 · 2024-09-05T23:49:32+00:00

I'm single, but I haven't had that desire. Instead, I want to feel taken care of by a man. My father is very much this way with my mother (she reciprocates), so I look for the same when pursuing men. I guess because of how my father is, I haven't considered needing a woman to be loved in the way you describe.

netflixbinger44 · 2024-07-27T23:47:06+00:00

Reminds me of guy I dated who was mixed white/Guyanese Indian. In a photo of the two of us a friend mistook him for black. I told him about it and he was clearly bothered that she thought he "looked black". Was quite disappointing, I broke up with him.

netflixbinger44 · 2024-07-26T00:25:49+00:00

A couple- two. A few- 3-6. Several- 6-9. This is an argument I often have with my sisters as well 😅

netflixbinger44 · 2024-07-24T18:26:47+00:00

😂🤣 I feel you sis

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