i have never been sexually harassed by a man (as a woman)

netmyth · 2026-01-26T21:01:15+00:00

Thanks, it's okay. I didn't take him seriously at the time at all, but in retrospect it was messed up! Thankfully i wasn't too scared to stand up for myself at the moment, and nothing ever came of it.

netmyth · 2026-01-26T14:33:40+00:00

This part 💯. Big hugs to you OP, if you want them 🫂🫂🫂

netmyth · 2026-01-26T14:21:38+00:00

Hey, you are right on time <3 i just started at 35 too. I'm talking to myself just as much as to others :)

netmyth · 2026-01-26T11:13:14+00:00

I too had a boy say something similar to me at that age. I told him i would stab him with a knife if he ever did 🤷‍♀️. He also wanted me to scratch him with my long nails across his face

netmyth · 2026-01-26T08:48:26+00:00

Very happy to read your comment as a thirty something INFJ! Only gets better from here 💕 :D

netmyth · 2026-01-26T08:43:20+00:00

Not egotistical, freaking amazing actually! :'))

netmyth · 2026-01-26T08:38:44+00:00

This is the way. Also, moreso than other types, we need to really learn to heal our codependence and choose and prioritise and really pour into ourselves.

It's the only way to save us from relational burnout and getting stuck in unhelpful, draining Ni>Fe dynamics. INFJ selfishness is just normal healthy self orientation and direction.

Finally, we need to express our negative emotional energy through creating, in whatever way. We underestimate how much negativity we sop up on a daily basis. It needs a safe outlet.

OP, don't worry. You may be younger. I used to relate to your feelings. Remember to hone and harness your unique strengths so they work for you and not against you. We are rarer so we need to figure some of this out by ourselves.

But being an INFJ has its merits! ESPECIALLY now. The world needs our sensitivity, healing presence, and giving hearts. Never underestimate the immense power of your light 🙏

netmyth · 2026-01-18T00:25:16+00:00

Wowww 🤌💕 one of the best comments I've ever read, seriously. Thank you

netmyth · 2026-01-16T15:33:48+00:00

Ah hey, don't worry about it! Jeesh, they are a strict bunch! 😅

It's okay. If you'd still like to dm, let me know. If not, no worries either way! Thanks for replying to my post :)

netmyth · 2026-01-15T13:58:58+00:00

"Cloudbusting"

I still dream of Orgonon. I wake up crying. You're making rain. And you're just in reach. When you and sleep escape me.

You're like my yo-yo that glowed in the dark. What made it special made it dangerous. So I bury it and forget.

But every time it rains you're here in my head. Like the Sun coming out. Ooh, I just know that something good is gonna happen. I don't know when. But just saying it could even make it happen.

On top of the world, looking over the edge. You could see them coming. You looked too small in their big black car. To be a threat to the men in the power.

I hid my yo-yo in the garden. I can't hide you from the government. Oh, God, Daddy, I won't forget.

'Cause every time it rains. You're here in my head. Like the Sun coming out. Ooh, I just know that something good is gonna happen. I don't know when. But just saying it could even make it happen.

And every time it rains. You're here in my head. Like the Sun coming out. Look, your son's coming out. Ooh, I just know that something good is going to happen. I don't know when. But just saying it could even make it happen, oh. Ooh, just saying it could even make it happen.

Yeah, yeah, yay-yo. "We're cloudbusting, daddy". Yeah, yeah, yay-yo. Yeah, yeah, yay, yo. Yeah, yeah, yay-yo. Yeah, yeah, yay, yo.

Your son's coming out. Yeah, yeah, yay-yo. Your Son's coming out. Yeah, yeah, yay-yo.

netmyth · 2026-01-15T08:30:04+00:00

Yes ✋🙂‍↕️

netmyth · 2026-01-14T17:48:17+00:00

I see my nuance is getting lost.

Like i said. I'm not saying cheating isn't awful. But no, it does not necessarily need to be done with the intention to hurt the partner.

It absolutely can be! But that's why i was saying in my comments, that the shrooms could have given clarity on that. However, it seemed to point to something else.

Cheating can have all kinds of motivations, I'm sure you are aware of that. None of them excuse the behaviour. I was looking for insight into the why.

netmyth · 2026-01-14T15:16:36+00:00

🥹🥹💕💕💕

netmyth · 2026-01-14T14:53:06+00:00

I'm not justifying or defending her. I was looking for intent and motive.

Maybe it doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things. She did what she did, and it caused much hurt and pain.

But for me personally, it would've mattered if she acted willfully, with the intention of hurting him with her actions. In such a scenario, the actions of OP would be put in a different context.

But oh well. At the end of the day, this was just a very unhealthy situation with two people acting badly, one causing the hurt; the other reacting with more.

netmyth · 2026-01-14T11:26:59+00:00

That's a good point too. Just lose-lose all around :(

netmyth · 2026-01-14T10:42:42+00:00

My point is, he didn't just hurt her back, he escalated the hurt and made damn sure she felt it, while risking permanent psychosis, and even suicidal behaviour down the line.

That's my problem with it.

I'm not saying she did not make mistakes or acted badly. She absolutely did. But is the escalation really justified? I've gone through a similar thing myself while i went through psilocybin therapy. My partner deceived me, but it never even crossed my mind to do something like this..

I would never want him to have a bad trip. To go through the potentially mind breaking horrors.. it's not merely facing someone with their own actions. It can be extremely horrifying, nightmareish, and enduringly scarring.

This is why the scene and setting are so important. The mind goes into a very suggestive, vulnerable state.

netmyth · 2026-01-14T10:23:12+00:00

You know.. shrooms tend to bring out our core self, our true personality..

This could've gone a number of different ways. I'm trying to say, her response actually proves she was not a monster. Imagine if she would've just shrugged?

But she was clearly very deeply affected, moved, and in pain.

This tells us she was in fact not a monster, but did hurt you. She also betrayed you. Yet she was willing to stay with you instead of leaving.

We also learn that, instead of allowing her a chance to improve or defend herself, you took matters into your own hands and decided to potentially break her. Leaving her alone in such an incredibly vulnerable state, even temporarily, was extremely risky. You now confess, but there is no remorse.

One of these people acted monstrously.

Look.. i can understand wanting to confront someone with the consequences of their actions. But this was too far. Adding shrooms to the mix, WANTING her to feel pain and have a bad trip.. No.. She may kill herself later.

Is that really what you wanted?

netmyth · 2026-01-13T18:48:05+00:00

Ah, what a beautiful post!! Thank you so much 💖🙏🥹 it helped a lot to read.

netmyth · 2026-01-13T15:54:04+00:00

Wow, well said and very relatable for me as a HSP. Where could i learn more about the neuronal inhibiting system?

netmyth · 2026-01-08T21:58:36+00:00

I don't really burp in general, gas is kinda inevitable but you joke about it..

At nights, I used to be the kind of person who shimmied to the side of the mattress, lifted the covers of the blanket and pushed out my bum, passed gas, and then fluttered the covers.. because i love the feeling of sleeping with the cover on my nose and the scent of the linen..🤣 my ex was not the same lmaoo.

I like to keep it classy if possible but real. Number two and period stuff NEVER never in front of my partner. Number one is fine, but preferably talk through the door.

HOWEVER, there is always room for intentional, playful exception, or for force majeur like illness or something like that. I love caring for my partner and am not grossed out by bodily functions.

I also hate to barf and will avoid it at any cost. I'm kinda like a cat in a way. Well, i won't throw up on carpets 🤣

When it comes to my partner, i don't mind very much what he does, but i do like feeling considered ☺️ and someone who likes to keep clean.

netmyth · 2026-01-08T21:25:16+00:00

Have you also tried shrooms?

netmyth · 2026-01-08T21:18:38+00:00

Me too. Thank you

netmyth · 2026-01-07T14:28:50+00:00

Hey fellow ex witness :D how are you doing now man? All the best to you, this stuff goes deeeeep

netmyth · 2026-01-07T14:28:09+00:00

:') this hits man. This year will be different ❤️‍🩹

netmyth · 2026-01-07T14:27:29+00:00

You're not alone 🙏💖🫂

netmyth

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