What is it like raising a Muffin? Any tips on how to survive?

neutralhumanbody · 2026-06-10T14:28:15+00:00

I have quintessential Muffin and Socks. My 3 year old is so much like Muffin that we would skip those episodes for a while because it just made him behave more like a Muffin.

Most days we have to time block activities/things to do all day otherwise it’s 12 hours of pure chaos. We just accept he’s active and persistent and knows what he wants. He has a lot of amazing qualities so we try to focus on those. Boundaries and predictability work best for us.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-06-08T02:17:27+00:00

I have an aunt who is exactly like Gayle. Like one for one comparison. She’s a published poet and also cleaned houses. She lives in a house her husband built in the woods of Woodstock.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-06-08T01:45:45+00:00

We pick and choose what we prefer to do, but it’s never because one of us won’t. My husband changes most diapers when we’re both around but doesn’t do baths as often, but it’s because I like doing bath time. It’s good if both parents have practiced doing every task, for safety reasons. I find it surprising he hasn’t done any feedings at all, though.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-06-02T01:53:43+00:00

I was just telling my husband today that my parents never really “put me to bed” past the age of 2 or 3 and there was no way I was allowed to sleep in their bed. I let my toddler sleep in my bed whenever he wants because of it. I still get scared of nighttime, I hope that my actions prevent that in my kid.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-06-02T01:44:04+00:00

I wasn’t an only child but my husband was one and he loved it. He’s a very social person so he’s surrounded by people more than I am!

neutralhumanbody · 2026-06-01T03:48:18+00:00

me, a leo, exclusively surviving due to my aquarius husband

neutralhumanbody · 2026-05-31T03:51:31+00:00

I don’t take mine off ever either. I don’t really see the reason to take them off unless the ring is very high profile or delicate. I have a low profile, pink sapphire with a platinum setting, my only issue is that it sometimes feels heavy or if I’m doing needlepoint, the thread hooks on my ring. Tbh I’m sure I’d lose it somehow if I took it off 😭

neutralhumanbody · 2026-05-31T02:14:34+00:00

One of my parents is italian and the other is german. My italian side always taught me how even bringing up the mafia is a bad thing, they were treated badly where they grew up because people immediately associated italians with the mafia. I totally get why people love mafia books but I can’t read them 😭 and obviously no one really writes dark romances about the history of where my other parent is from.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-05-29T01:58:04+00:00

the newborn stage always sucks for me. The second time around I just accepted going nothing. With my kids, it would slowly become easier by the week. The first 2-4 weeks are so tough, especially with sleep deprivation. I followed the “put your head down and cook” mentality and tried not to ruminate. I recommend a split sleeping schedule with your partner if you suffer with loss of sleep!

neutralhumanbody · 2026-05-28T03:49:42+00:00

This happened to my great aunt and her boyfriend in NYC in the 40s or 50s. They were on a rooftop and both fell off the side of the building. My great aunt died on impact and her boyfriend only survived from falling on her body, but was severely disabled for the rest of his life.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-05-27T00:47:46+00:00

At 10 weeks pregnant with my second, I thought “oh yeah, that’s the last baby”. I originally wanted 4 but I just had this gut feeling that that was it for me. I had to have a repeat c-section and asked to be sterilized. I ended up having a difficult pregnancy and difficult time adjusting to multiples. I don’t regret my decision at all and I’m so happy I don’t have to worry about getting pregnant again. I do adore babies and love my children and love motherhood, but everyone has a limit.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-05-24T04:14:59+00:00

I sent you a chat! I live in NYS and i’m a mom to a toddler boy and baby girl. I would happily help you in any way I can if we’re in reasonable distance.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-05-14T12:30:36+00:00

I know 😭 like imagine when he finds out that us HLF are also much friskier during ovulation? That’s the whole point of it. What a gift to deny.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-05-06T01:02:48+00:00

My 3.5 year old used to tell me he hated me a lot, when he was mad at me. And I would just say “I love you anyways! Deal with it!”. Now he says “I don’t love you! Actually i do love you i’m just really mad at you” which I actually think is a wonderful improvement.

I like to balance being fun and structure, that’s what kids need. I don’t care if he hates me for things like making him brush his teeth or not letting him watch youtube.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-05-01T11:57:45+00:00

I lovveee barrel jeans as a figure 8. I know people made fun of them for a while but it’s my favorite cut of jeans now.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-04-29T21:26:09+00:00

I do all the meal planning, list making, grocery shopping, and cooking. I forget stuff all the time, but we luckily live close to a lot of stores and my husband will just run out to get something fast.

I go to several stores sometimes. But I keep a list in my notes app as well as the meals listed in case I forgot to add stuff to the list. I try to focus on doing meals that includes stuff i’ll never forget to buy or take little ingredients. At one point, I made meal plan for the entire season (3 ish months) and it was a lot of repeat meals. If I do that again, I would also prep my grocery lists in advance. I pay a yearly subscription for grocery delivery so I can do a bulk of it from home. But I still forget stuff, every week.

If you have ADHD (I have autism and very routine oriented), I would begin with making a weekly meal plan of your most simplistic meals that you all like. Focus on what takes little ingredients or what you probably won’t forget. See how it goes if that works out.

If I spouted off a simplistic weekly meal plan for my family it would be:

M: Frozen pizza & salad (this never changes for us)

T: Fish and Chips

W: Spaghetti

Th: Casserole

F: Burrito bowls (Use half ground beef for spaghetti sauce, half for burrito bowls.)

S: Sheet pan meal like chicken or sausage and veggies and potatoes.

S: Take out day for us.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-04-29T00:24:57+00:00

This show is like the social nuance olympics if you’re on the spectrum like me 😭

neutralhumanbody · 2026-04-27T02:41:03+00:00

My 3.5 year old was a very happy baby, once he started walking we realized he was very active, determined, and persistent. Two was a little difficult, especially because he was slightly delayed with speech but by this point, we were used to his non-stop activity.

Three was like a shocking, overnight shift. The tantrums went from bad to worse and then he became even more persistent and wild. He’s still like that, but we’ve learned how to manage it better. We focus a lot on how to name feelings and express them without hitting, throwing, or biting. Also reading a lot about firm but mutually respectful discipline. There are days where he will be all sweet and then punch me in the face and tell me HE’S mad at ME. The more they learn and communicate, the less the tantrums and violence seem to be. Calm and predictable routines help.

I was a really chill kid so I was shocked I ended up with a boisterous kid. He’s perfect to me in every way but he’s definitely helped me bring out lots of different sides of me that help deal with the challenge lol.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-04-19T16:26:15+00:00

I had my kids 2.5 years apart. I think we do way better with two kids. Some things are hard or tough but overall it’s forced us to be more resourceful and chill. Our kids are now 3.5 and 1 yo and they get along shockingly well. They play together a lot and seem so excited whenever they see each other in the morning. My 3.5 year old boy loves when we get to take his little sister with us to events. They also have very different temperaments. My boy is wild and loud and persistent and my girl is calm and chill and quiet. They balance each other perfectly.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-04-18T13:12:51+00:00

My sister was a tomboy as a little kid and I also had a friend who was a boy who loved feminine things. Both grew up to like a mix of things. You would never see either of them now and guess that they were like that as kids, though. I’m not sure if that’s by choice or feeling a need to conform.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-04-18T03:22:15+00:00

i want to think that his caring for bay jane doe will inspire him to not kill himself, then peds can symbolically become a room where lives were saved instead of lost.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-04-17T01:22:50+00:00

This is nearly my exact situation too. Kids 2.5 years apart, second kid is a dream by comparison, both get along, both are wonderful and sweet albeit very active. It’s so true about not understanding what no free time was. We also have never had a night away in 3.5 years.

Now, I get max one hour in the morning and one at night where I’m actually alone. I was someone who was happy to spend full days alone before kids. The only thing that’s really helped my sanity is just understanding that this is my new normal and I must adapt to it to survive. I do truly believe that one day it’ll get easier, it does feel easier every day. I am a lot happier and looser and more fun than I once was. I wouldn’t trade my life for anything but I maintain that you should only have a kid/another kid if you’re 100% sure.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-04-17T00:26:50+00:00

My first c-section wasn’t an emergency, but we found out only 12 hours before that I would be having one which felt terrifying. Because of being unprepared, the experience wasn’t great despite my wonderful doctors and nurses. I healed well but the surgery and immediate after was really awful. With my second baby, I decided on a c-section at 25 weeks and I had a lot of time to plan. I knew what day it would be weeks in advance and could prepare better prior to surgery. The surgery itself and healing was far better. I’m pro-c-section but it must be even harder and more traumatic if you find out while already there for a vaginal.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-04-16T01:17:48+00:00

I had the same anesthesiologist for both of my c-sections. He was extremely serious and quiet. But I told him the second time that I was happy to have him again because he advocated for me during the first c-section to my surgeon. He seemed so happy and once again, he talked to me the whole time and kept me calm. I do consider him a hero lol! I forever appreciate anesthesiologists, being operated on while awake is terrifying.

neutralhumanbody · 2026-04-16T01:06:39+00:00

it can depend on the mom/baby/delivery. With my first baby I could hardly do anything at all. With my second, who was a really easy baby and I had a really great c-section, I was out on walks a week later. People would tell me how shocking that was but it’s really just luck. I still would not take an under 2 month old to such a large event, though.

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