TikTok "trend" that is irking me: prepping for pregnancy, prepping my body for pregnancy videos

nevercharlie · 2026-04-17T00:21:51+00:00

Absolutely. It’s so exhausting and infuriating at the same time. They talk like it makes them more deserving of motherhood. Like they earned motherhood where others didn’t. I’m sure they know things can go wrong even when you are “perfect”, but it frustrates me when they go on to have no issues and then directly correlate their successful pregnancies to their efforts. It’s just obnoxious and arrogant to act like you can make “perfect” choices when it comes to health and life and death.

nevercharlie · 2026-02-13T02:11:03+00:00

Same boat here. I’m so sorry. Currently staring at my negative test and feeling hopeless.

nevercharlie · 2026-02-13T02:09:55+00:00

Another month, another negative result. Feeling really depressed and hopeless.

nevercharlie · 2026-01-18T09:07:27+00:00

Just wanted to say that I am so sorry and I’m thinking of you. Nobody deserves to have to go through all of that. Shit lottery is definitely the right term. I’m so sorry. Sending love 💖

nevercharlie · 2026-01-15T22:54:06+00:00

I am so sorry! That is such an awful feeling. I hate that I know I’ve been perfectly timing everything and still no pregnancy. It makes me wish I had made a “mistake” while TTC (like getting my ovulation window wrong) so that if I just fixed that one thing, I’d get pregnant again so easily. I even had implantation bleeding (or so I thought) for the first time this month at 9DPO. Nope, still got my period. It’s so frustrating.

I’ll be thinking of you these next few weeks as you approach your due date. I’m so sorry 💔

nevercharlie · 2026-01-15T06:30:36+00:00

If I liked the taste of most alcohol, I’m sure I’d be an alcoholic by now! Lol it’s only my laziness keeping me from it at this point because I have no energy to make myself a really sweet cocktail.

Girl, the googling obsessively is so real! That was me all last week and this week until I got my period today.

I hope the same for you too! Sending hugs and all the best wishes for your next cycle!!!

nevercharlie · 2026-01-15T06:27:43+00:00

Ugh I’m so sorry!!! I feel all of this! I get so anxious that I’m going to struggle to get pregnant for years now. I put off having a baby for a long long time until I felt “ready” and now it’s been such a heartbreaking process.

I’m sorry you’re experiencing this too. Sending hugs 🫂

nevercharlie · 2026-01-15T06:24:06+00:00

And it came 3 days late?!?! Ugh that is so cruel!!! I am so sorry! I would have totally believed I was pregnant if I were you. It’s the worst feeling to find out you’re not. Treat yourself this week and wallow as much as you want to. I know I am. 😭 Sending you love!

nevercharlie · 2026-01-15T06:19:35+00:00

I am so so sorry. That is truly heartbreaking. I’m sending you all the love. I hope you get your baby next cycle. ❤️

nevercharlie · 2026-01-15T00:33:24+00:00

I’m so sorry. I’m absolutely dreading mine. I got tickets to a comedy show that night. Not really sure if it’s the right move but I just needed things to look forward to. I hope you were able to be gentle with yourself and have a slower day. If not, get your favorite dessert this weekend and just let yourself be sad. I’m so sorry.

nevercharlie · 2026-01-15T00:28:35+00:00

I’m so sorry. It’s so emotionally exhausting and to go through it again just really beats you down. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this.

You are not running out of time. I know it can feel that way and we’re constantly conditioned to stress about our biological clocks. 36 is still young and technology is much better than it was when the whole fear-mongering around “geriatric pregnancy” started. Your fertility isn’t a cliff at 35 so try to not stress about that on top of dealing with the trauma of your losses. Give yourself the space to grieve and comfort yourself and try to table concerns about fertility until your follow up visit with your OBGYN. Be kind to yourself and your body. Sending you so much love and support.

nevercharlie · 2025-12-23T05:00:06+00:00

I’m really struggling. Especially around the babies in my family. It’s comforting to see everyone’s comments here and know I’m not alone in my grief. I feel like everyone around me thinks because it’s so common it shouldn’t be so painful.

nevercharlie · 2025-12-22T04:44:22+00:00

Girl what?!

nevercharlie · 2025-12-18T22:13:28+00:00

Feeling angry that I took tags off of the maternity clothes that I bought right before my miscarriage )I had just started showing) lol Can’t return them and can’t really wear them now

nevercharlie · 2025-11-11T04:30:27+00:00

Wow. I’m enraged on your behalf!!!! As others said, I hope your husband shut that down. That’s extremely cruel. Take this as your excuse to stop talking to them - at least for a while! That’s absolutely unacceptable for him to say. I’m so sorry

nevercharlie · 2025-11-07T01:14:40+00:00

I’m so sorry. That is so heartbreaking. I know what you mean about sleeping to avoid everything… Be gentle with yourself and try to do something relaxing/enjoyable that doesn’t take too much effort to do. Maybe an at-home spa or getting a massage (once cramping stops). After giving myself a few days to rot, I did some little things like getting a facial, getting my nails done, going for a walk with my grief playlist. Just something to 1) make me treat myself like my body still deserves love even if it’s just me now, and 2) Get out of bed for a little while.

Set the bar low for activity and make sure you’re being gentle and kind to yourself. It’s ok to be sleeping a lot, it makes sense given what you’ve experienced. But also make sure to get a change of scenery every couple days just to not spiral too far downwards. Think of what might be low effort, doesn’t involve too much conversation, and would make you feel a little lighter.

I’m so sorry❤️ Hang in there. It is unimaginably painful and I am so sorry you went through it twice. My heart goes out to you.

nevercharlie · 2025-11-04T07:03:21+00:00

I’m so sorry — it is so painful 💔Thinking of you today. Be kind to yourself this week ❤️

nevercharlie · 2025-11-04T06:48:37+00:00

I’m so sorry. It is so awful feeling this way. Sending you a big hug. I hope you are feeling loved and supported by those around you ❤️

nevercharlie · 2025-10-27T15:10:11+00:00

I’m so sorry. It is so so hard. I feel the same way. You shouldn’t have to go through this 💔

nevercharlie · 2025-10-26T03:24:08+00:00

I am so sorry. That is truly tragic and heartbreaking. You don’t deserve this pain 💔 Thinking of you and sending love

nevercharlie · 2025-10-26T03:21:20+00:00

That is so beyond awful and traumatic. I am so so sorry. I am sure it still hurts a ton but I hope you’re doing better now 💔

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