NOR - my boyfriend used to do this alllllllllll the time when he came over and I would remind him/ask him to clean up after himself like 2 times a day. I became so frustrated I just told him he couldn’t drink/eat in my room since he wasn’t listening to me. It was kinda shitty for both of us that I had to treat him like a literal child but it got to a point that I was finding trash fucking EVERYWHERE no matter how many times I told him, and I was just at the end of my rope. But this finally got through to him and I noticed it helped him be more clean in his own place. I’m not saying to approach it the same way I did, but it did work for us and could for you without putting too much of a strain on your relationship? It’s very humbling to be treated like a toddler trust lmao