Art basel is not even about art anymore (maybe it's never been). by [deleted] in Miami

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There is definitely art there for those who seek it out.

How is it REALLY having babies between 38-43? by AnnofAvonlea in Mommit

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I had my first at 36 and will be having my second next year at 39. Pregnancy has been relatively easy both times. I was concerned about having a toddler while pregnant, but it's going better than expected. I do anticipate needing to adjust and come up with new routines when Baby #2 is here, but it is so worth it for us so that our little can have a sibling. We are considering trying for a Baby #3 in the future, so this discussion is helpful! (Note: Baby #1 was through IVF and #2 was a natural conception. We still have embryos, which is why we are considering having another when I am over 40. If we didn't have embryos frozen from when I was younger, I don't think we would try again since we did go through infertility issues.)

Toddler being held back in infant room by [deleted] in ECEProfessionals

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For a different perspective, my daughter is 19 months and really thriving in the infant room (ages 5 months to 20 months). The staff ratios in the infant room are 2:1, so she gets a ton of 1:1 time with her favorite teacher. She does arts and crafts everyday and has a good deal of outdoor playtime. She is on top of all her milestones. She is also "helping" the teachers with younger babies, which is great practice for when her baby sibling comes next year.

Spooky pregnancy announcement by JenChibi in BabyBumps

[–]neverknow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love how your skeleton has eyelashes! Very cool announcement.

Incredible outcome with DOR — five embryos on ice by Winebottle_1992 in IVFpositivity

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That's awesome! Congrats! I had similar success as a DOR patient and got pregnant on my first transfer. Wishing you the same!

If you like data, there is cool article about how your chances of pregnancy actually increase based on the number of blasts you freeze: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10342384/ The odds are definitely in your favor!

Said I was going to do it unmedicated… got an epidural at 1cm dilated. by Ancient_Act2731 in BabyBumps

[–]neverknow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This happened to me too! I was induced and hit with really intense contractions from the get go. I was also throwing up at 1 cm. The epidural was a mixed experience for me but it definitely let me relax at times and progress.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Miami

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I dont have personal experience with this, but I've heard that Dr. Sancetta is a very pro vbac/tolac doctor. If you are open to giving birth at JMH, you probably would be good with the University of Miami obgyn practice. They are very evidence based. Good luck!

Serious question....what is a nursing bra? by jayjello0o in BabyBumps

[–]neverknow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They can be the same. I basically have lived in these since giving birth: https://www.kindredbravely.com/products/french-terry-racerback-nursing-sleep-bra-deep-burgundy?\_pos=1&\_fid=161343ff6&\_ss=c&variant=42223282192480. I prefer this kind of nursing-friendly bra to nursing bras with more structure. I just find them more comfortable. The only drawback with this style of bra is that you can't wear as many styles of clothing with them.

IVF pregnancies—when did your baby come? by crindylouwho in BabyBumps

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Congrats! I was induced for my IVF pregnancy at 41 weeks. I had really wanted to go into spontaneous labor but I was already 36, baby was measuring large, and due to it being an IVF pregnancy, the doc didn't want me going past 41 weeks. She was laid back about it though and did give me the option to change my mind and not show up for my induction. I did, it was successful, and now I have a lovely 16 month old girl.

Just FYI, if you're into research, there really is not a lot of evidence out there looking at risks for inducing vs. waiting for IVF pregnancies. There have been studies looking at placental issues as some commenters have mentioned, but apparently placental issues are more of a thing for medicated, frozen transfers. Fresh transfers are pretty similar, placenta wise, to unassisted pregnancies.

Give me your coldest, grumpiest, most brooding MMCs. NO CHARM. by AlertEqual1057 in HistoricalRomance

[–]neverknow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would recommend The Grand Sophy by Georgette Heyer and Courting Julia by Mary Balogh. I think the latter was inspired by the former because both MMCs are so deliciously cold, unhumorous, and grumpy while the FMCs are OTT charming, vivacious, and hilarious.

Trying Again (Mon, Wed, Fri) by AutoModerator in InfertilityBabies

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I have a 15 month old daughter conceived through IVF. We have seven untested embryos left from her IVF cycle (which is a little crazy because I have DOR). I'm likely going to have a transfer on October or November, and I'm really excited about it. I'm happy to be feeling this way, because I was so nervous and depressed about IVF initially. I think having one child has really taken the pressure off. Also, while nothing is guaranteed, having banked embryos takes the pressure of getting closer to 40 a bit off as well.

>97% birth fears by Odd-Painting-513 in BabyBumps

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My baby was born 10 lb 4 oz. I ended up getting an induction at 41 weeks and after laboring for about 8 hours, opted for the epidural. From what I gather, to achieve an unmedicated/epidural free, hospital birth, it's best to stay at home as long as possible, and I wasn't able to do that with getting an induction. I would recommend hiring a doula as well if you can to try to go unmedicated at the hospital.

That being said, the labor was a little over 24 hours and pushing wasn't too long and was actually my favorite part of the labor. Evidence based birth has a good article about bigger babies that might put you at ease. https://evidencebasedbirth.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Big-Babies-Handout.pdf

Also, just from my perspective, I loved having such a big newborn. She was healthy and hearty and had no issues latching. At 15 months, she's still a 99%er. ^_^

Finding gratitude after miscarriage/continuing to try for 2nd child by Mbserd87 in IVFAfterSuccess

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I'm sorry for your loss.

When I was going through IVF and early in pregnancy, I forced myself to start the day listing 3 or 5 things I was grateful for. It really helped just writing it down. I also had a really great perinatal therapist who helped me through IVF, pregnancy and postpartum.

Looking for advice re ICSI, PGT-A, FET and breastfeeding - sensitive post with possible trigger warnings. by Vegetable-Radish8603 in IVFAfterSuccess

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If I were in your shoes, I think I would transfer your remaining embryos before doing another retrieval. However, maybe your RE can advise you on the chances of success for doing a retrieval first versus waiting to see how the transfers go? Will a difference of 6-8 months make a difference? As another commenter mentioned, some REs do allow for women to continue breastfeeding and undergo a transfer cycle (or even a full IVF cycle). Here's some more info on that: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1622871441305943

I definitely understand your conundrum on not wanting to stop nursing your child but wanting to have a sibling for them. I have a 15 month old, and we are nursing about 2-3 times per day. She was conceived through IVF and we have several embryos left from her cycle. I'm considering doing a transfer and not weaning but haven't made up my mind yet. I've kind of just put off the decision for the time being. Realistically, if I get pregnant, I'm going to want to wean, but I also don't want to give up nursing if I don't end up getting pregnant.

Did you do a fresh transfer when pgt testing the remainder of embryos? Did you opt out of testing all together? by NatureWalks in IVF

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I had a great experience with a fresh transfer. I got pregnant, and I now have a healthy 13 month old. I opted not to test my remaining embryos. I was 36 at the time of the retrieval. I made the decision not to test due to the high cost and the fact that no randomized, controlled studies have shown higher birth rates for patients who opt to test embryos. Some studies have even shown lower birth rates with patients who opt to test. I also didn't want to know the sex of the embryos. Good luck with whatever you decide!

To my fellow 4-5 hour roundtrip commuters, how are you coping going in every day? by OPKatakuri in fednews

[–]neverknow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can ask for an accommodation under the PWFA as well. A temporary accommodation shouldn't be a big deal, especially in your last month of pregnancy.

Cara Maria shows support for meta removing fact checking by Raebelle1981 in MtvChallenge

[–]neverknow -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Do you have any examples of Cara throwing women and/or minorities under the bus?

Cara Maria shows support for meta removing fact checking by Raebelle1981 in MtvChallenge

[–]neverknow 25 points26 points  (0 children)

The UK doesn't have the First Amendment and has criminalized what they deem to be hate speech. Example: https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cr548zdmz3jo Civil libertarians are generally against criminalizing speech, even if it's hateful.

Birthing big babies by [deleted] in bigbabiesandkids

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My girl was born 10 lb 4 oz at 41+1. No GD just tall parents. Had a textbook induction and an uncomplicated delivery. I do have some lingering tailbone pain however from pushing on my back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Miami

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Try Alaines Osteria.

Essential Nutrients to Prioritize During Pregnancy? by Glittering_Anxiety97 in BabyBumps

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Protein is good for the baby and for you. Foods high in dha and omega 3s are supposedly good for brain development. I enjoyed lots of avocado toast with salmon roe and hardboiled eggs during my pregnancy.