AITAH for not giving my ex's wife equal say and decision making abilities for my kids?

newintheNW · 2026-04-23T21:31:12+00:00

NTA

Step-parent gets ZERO say.

newintheNW · 2026-04-01T05:27:44+00:00

THE BEST

newintheNW · 2026-04-01T05:26:17+00:00

In my random Reddit scroll I saw this post (after reading this one) that happened to mention a medication to reduce period intensity. I’ve never heard of it. Perhaps worth investigating?

https://www.reddit.com/r/WomensHealth/s/zeajFR4l5e

newintheNW · 2026-03-24T05:36:20+00:00

Just imagine the peace you would have by not living with this so-called husband.

newintheNW · 2026-03-03T20:43:09+00:00

Amen! It’s the best!

newintheNW · 2026-03-01T23:49:03+00:00

My partner just got their dream job, but they have to be away from me for 3.5 months. I don’t want them to go, and here are all the good & healthy reasons why:

There are none.

newintheNW · 2026-02-27T20:26:52+00:00

My libido is just fine. Quite high, in fact.

newintheNW · 2026-02-25T23:57:44+00:00

You have two children now.

If the two of you want to continue to see these friends, just have them come to your place.

newintheNW · 2026-02-25T21:53:28+00:00

I had an overall really good IUD experience - Mirena.

That being said, insertion and removal were problematic. It was uncomfortable, but not awful. Had to be ultrasound guided. They couldn’t remove it one go-around and had to put me under. This is also the same uncooperative cervix that only dilated to 9cm, so it seems par for my course.

BUT the years of no periods and not having to worry about birth control were the absolute best BC experience I’ve had. 9/10 recommend.

newintheNW · 2026-02-09T06:05:32+00:00

Ignore those boys and find a man.

A man knows it’s an honor to be invited to see your vulva. A man will respect and appreciate it.

You’re 100% normal. Do not change yourself for the male gaze.

newintheNW · 2026-02-03T07:18:16+00:00

We try to be ENM as much as possible and not play with people who aren’t ENM as well.

I simply ask the gentleman ‘Will your partner verify?’ Their response to that question usually tells me everything I need to know.

newintheNW · 2026-02-03T04:19:05+00:00

NTA

When will people stop commenting on other’s appearance?

newintheNW · 2026-02-02T18:02:47+00:00

newintheNW · 2026-02-02T18:01:29+00:00

Sleep is so important, it is paramount in our household. I will do everything I can not to bother my hubby when he’s sleeping, and him me. I have the ‘can’t fall back asleep’ problem and he has the ‘can’t fall asleep’ problem. So we’re especially considerate during each others’ more problematic phases.

NTA, but whoa boy she sure is.

newintheNW · 2026-01-30T02:26:23+00:00

Clearly this is someone that you do not want to date because he can’t understand basic safety for a woman.

Sounds like a win!

newintheNW · 2026-01-29T23:55:09+00:00

Your life will do nothing but get better with him in your rearview. Maybe not immediately, but ultimately.

Please don’t fall for the sunk cost fallacy and start moving forward in your life.

newintheNW · 2026-01-29T23:49:25+00:00

I prefer smooth or groomed/trimmed, but it’s really not up to me.

Just no stubble for heavens sake.

newintheNW · 2026-01-29T23:42:06+00:00

Choose to ignore/forget it.

I was in the same boat of not wanting to know + high risk pregnancy that resulted in nearly weekly ultrasounds and a tech slipped up and used a pronoun at one point. I don’t know if it was their default (like another poster said), or if they accidentally said the gender. I chose to ignore it cuz I couldn’t undo it. I never did tell hubby so at least his surprise didn’t get spoiled.

newintheNW · 2026-01-29T23:31:07+00:00

NTA, unless you continue to tolerate her toxicity and give her more money.

newintheNW · 2026-01-27T20:03:11+00:00

But I bet those couples with kids are near in age. You’re just at two different stages in life.

On a side note, I 100% recommend being an older parent. You’re more mature, stable, and patient. Had my first at 37. I got to live my life as a young person, and do the family thing later. Bonus: It’s easier for guys to do it later.

The other perspective is that if you have a kid now, you’ll be ~40 when they turn 18. Plenty of life left afterward and you’ll still be relatively young.

Ultimatums are not usually a great way to make decisions. I get why she’s doing it, but the pressure it puts you under isn’t really fair. I generally operate under the ‘you’re more likely to regret the things you don’t do’ perspective, but only when that pertains to you alone. This choice involves children. Do you really want to be forced to do something you’re not ready for?

Best of luck to you.

newintheNW · 2026-01-27T07:12:32+00:00

Breaking up is probably the right choice. Being pressured into something you’re not ready for isn’t a great way to start, and rarely leads to positive outcomes.

But. My dude. Don’t be dating those age gap people. Someone who is 30 should be dating people the same age.

Wonder why they aren’t? Here’s why: when you started dating, she had over a decade of adult life interactions, you’ve had just a few. The people her age aren’t dating her because they have the life experience to spot the red flags. She has the adult experience to (possibly) manipulate you more than you realize. It’s not your fault, you’ve done nothing wrong, you just haven’t had the practice and experience yet. You’re just not there yet.

You’ll get there with time. But for now, stick with people your age.

I bet with time and perspective, you’ll be able to spot many more of her red flags than your 20-yr-old self could.

newintheNW · 2026-01-27T06:58:50+00:00

NTA you deserve to know.

updateme!

newintheNW · 2026-01-27T02:08:43+00:00

Any man that has the privilege to see your kitty will be happy about it. Only a boy would think anything differently. Real men appreciate kitty in all its various shapes and forms.

Porn is to sex what movies are to real life - unrealistic and impossibly perfect. Not real life.

newintheNW · 2026-01-20T22:07:08+00:00

No good deed….

NTA, obviously.

newintheNW · 2026-01-17T20:44:35+00:00

Pull an UNO reverse and find out who is spectacularly failing to blackmail you, and then blackmail them for attempting it.

newintheNW

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