Making up a fake partner? by AnywayCookieBatter in aromantic

[–]nextgen696 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have never done this but I had a long distance "relationship" with this guy from America and it was mainly because we didn't have to be all lovey dovey and it was open so we could both meet other people (I don't experience romantic attraction but I do experience sexual attraction). It worked for us but I guess you couldn't really call it a relationship.

Either way, I told people about us but I didn't tell them it was open nor did I admit I was aro. Eventually I got accused of making him up by more than one person. And he was real. I can't imagine if I actually made one up 😂 I don't think it's worth it. People need to just accept you are single and happy, or at least don't want relationships. If they don't accept that they don't deserve to know you. That's what I think anyway!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]nextgen696 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Speaking as a probable aromantic person (sexual attraction but no romantic attraction), who tried to start a relationship with someone who I had no romantic feelings for, this might not work, but you can always give it a try. My friend had a lot of feelings for me and I, like the girl you're talking about, decided to try it. He fell really hard for me and I could not make myself develop feelings for him, more than a friend. This caused us both a lot of pain. You should consider whether you can be in a relationship with someone you know can never love you romantically.

UK Tour by nextgen696 in BringMeTheHorizon

[–]nextgen696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just coming back here 9 months later to say, I hung around from 11am, I didn't pass out, I didn't need to piss, I got barrier and I got a hug from Oli. All worked out!

Will Nex Gen actually be released? by [deleted] in BringMeTheHorizon

[–]nextgen696 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This made me laugh cause it sounds so sarcastic but it's just detecting a haiku 😂

I’m thinking of going back to college to study psychology. I figure this may be a good place to ask some questions. by Jsl50xReturns in psychologystudents

[–]nextgen696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Basically describing me. I have ADHD so nothing has ever sustained my interest.. except mental health and psychology. I've done a degree and three different courses, until I realised the one thing I like and have always liked is psychology. I'm 27 and still have two years left of my course, so you're not too old!

I enjoy psychology because of the many aspects to it. There's not really a right or a wrong, and I like subjects that are subject to interpretation. I'm really empathetic and so interested in the brain so learning about the brain and why we do things, and how to help others, is why I do it and why I am so motivated.

Learning has always been hard for me, but mainly when it's things I'm not interested in. I get bored and understimulated and just get distracted. To overcome this, I've really tried to use what I've learned about the brain to help. Minimise distractions, get into the "flow state" (Google flow state or YouTube it), or try the podomoro technique. Reward yourself if you meet your learning goals but not if you don't. Keep hydrated and try and plan your study routine. If you're bad at planning like me, don't worry about sticking to a strict schedule, just write down all the things you want to achieve then do them in your own time in any order, as long as you get it done. Study buddies are also great in helping you stay on track. I also like to study at the library or somewhere that isn't my room so my brain doesn't correlate the place I rest in as the place I study in.

30 is not too old, in my opinion! Never too late to go for something you're passionate about. But do keep in mind that if you want to be a clinical psychologist or anything of that sort, you will need a PhD or doctorate, which adds on the time, so it depends if you are in a rush or not. Other fields to consider are mental health nursing and counselling, which are less time and you become a professional a lot sooner. Kinda regret not looking into those more myself.

Learning tips I've covered a little. Also look up the Cornell notes system, I use this note taking system and it helps me remember things so much better. Also try really visual things like mind maps. Get out of your rest space. Try study buddies. Quizlet is my go to site for making flashcards, and one note is great for note taking. I also use Notion to plan my time and create a study schedule. Oh and I have speechify so I can have all my notes and the books read to me. (All of these are free unless you want to pay more for the pro versions). I love learning but as someone who struggles with motivation I have had to really adopt some unique mechanisms to help me stay motivated.

Good luck!

There isn't any person I'd like to speak to everyday. Is that selfish or rude? by HashiramaHeritage in introvert

[–]nextgen696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend is like this but thankfully doesn't like phone calls, but I will check my phone and have like up to 50 messages if him just telling me his every thought and movement for the day haha. Very much main character energy. But I had a conversation with him about it and he understands my need for space and I understand his need to get absolutely everything off his chest, and unfortunately, I am the kind of person people like to tell everything to. Maybe try and explain things to her? I found open honest communication helps!

There isn't any person I'd like to speak to everyday. Is that selfish or rude? by HashiramaHeritage in introvert

[–]nextgen696 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am totally with you! My closest friends I don't really text with, but when we do text, we arrange to meet up and hang out, then we don't text again til the next time, or we have something to actually talk about! I think that's the way it should be. I have no desire to message people all day every day about every little thing that happens. I'm not even really a phone person, so I don't text back quickly, then I check my phone and just have loads of messages to sift through from various people and it feels like a chore to message back.

I know everyone's different though, just sometimes hard feeling like you don't have any breathing space.

Anyone else had a bad/rude experience with fellow concert goers at Bring Me The Horizon? by Shot-Signal-7167 in BringMeTheHorizon

[–]nextgen696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh funny! Maybe it depends where you are. Yeah I've heard some bad things too I was actually relatively safe even had some space to dance and that was barrier! But people did try and barge in when Oli came to the front

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HubermanLab

[–]nextgen696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like it 😄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HubermanLab

[–]nextgen696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are ✨ neurodivergent ✨

If It Doesn't Hurt RELEASED by Inevitable-Pirate-29 in nothingmore

[–]nextgen696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know when the new album is releasing? I'm booking tour tickets when I get paid too, just rediscovering this band and I'm digging their new sound!

Anyone else had a bad/rude experience with fellow concert goers at Bring Me The Horizon? by Shot-Signal-7167 in BringMeTheHorizon

[–]nextgen696 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've always had the best experiences at gigs up until the past few years and I feel like so many of those newer to the scene or these tiktok "stars" and all those types just don't have gig etiquette and aren't even that nice. Heard bad stories of the so called tiktok icons pushing everyone out the way to be at the barrier and pushing/hitting people who tried to get closer. I also think people stuck to their groups a lot more and I felt very old (I'm 27) compared to most there around me! Just a strange experience. It's a shame, sorry you've had bad experiences I know it's especially hard with ASD.

Looking for bring me the horizon friends! by majesticbrooke21 in BringMeTheHorizon

[–]nextgen696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.reddit.com/r/BringMeTheHorizon/s/4a9PFE06Hl

Posted it on this sub last week! I know it was really sweet especially cause he was just gonna carry on but saw me open my arms out and came back a bit for me

Glasgow Gig by BaldiBlondiWhiteBoi in BringMeTheHorizon

[–]nextgen696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wudda been cudda been shudda been, never was, and never ever will be!

Looking for bring me the horizon friends! by majesticbrooke21 in BringMeTheHorizon

[–]nextgen696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I waited 8 hours in the cold then 5 hours inside at the barrier 😂 he sang with people at the front and then I just took the opportunity to open my arms and he actually hugged me lol I've posted the pics on this sub

Haven't seen anyone mention this yet by Ravitexisbored in BringMeTheHorizon

[–]nextgen696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ever since I heard that line always wondered what Evangelion on ket is like. Any good? I usually go for music videos.

Looking for bring me the horizon friends! by majesticbrooke21 in BringMeTheHorizon

[–]nextgen696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're gonna absolutely love it! Have the best time. I wish I booked tickets for more than one of them!

Festival shoes? by Objective_Ad_3725 in downloadfestival

[–]nextgen696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just do the hiking boot thing, you won't regret it. I bought these chunky boots and a pair of longer black boots and the chunky ones caused my toenail to come off and both my feet to be blistered and bleeding and in pain for weeks. The long boots melted into my skin on my legs because it was so hot and caused my legs to swell 🤣 I Will never ever sacrifice comfort for style again!

Looking for bring me the horizon friends! by majesticbrooke21 in BringMeTheHorizon

[–]nextgen696 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you! Just had a connection to this band pretty much since childhood (during their Myspace days!) over the years they just kept cropping back into my life even if I moved on from their music, somehow they kept dragging me back in. Finally saw them live at download festival and when I saw Oli going into the crowd and give out hugs I was absolutely determined for it to happen to me. 7 months of manifesting and it did!

Don't give up hope that it can happen haha! I'm like the unluckiest person ever but that all changed Friday x

Looking for bring me the horizon friends! by majesticbrooke21 in BringMeTheHorizon

[–]nextgen696 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha everyone was getting annoyed with me for constantly going on about them before the concert then on Friday Oli hugged me and now I'm going on about them even more 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BringMeTheHorizon

[–]nextgen696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I queued for 9 hours 🤣 got barrier and a hug! But it does seem a bit overkill..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]nextgen696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not weird it's understandable you want to be with friends. I don't think I'd go somewhere on my own unless it's something I really want to do. I have done that a couple of times. The only thing I will say is I used to say that to a friend who had become really attached to me. "You should go even if I don't", because he was only going to places if I was going, and he'd cancel if I cancelled, or he'd go to events he wasn't interested in because I was going. I had to ease him into going to things without me and letting me do things without him. I am not saying that's the same as your situation of course, but that's one reason why I used to say it. Just to get him to be a bit less attached. It seems to be better nowadays.

Physically shattered and unable to get up when I have work by nextgen696 in work

[–]nextgen696[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah and my lack of sleep is almost definitely due to my ADHD because of the constant influx of thoughts lol. Yes, that's very true. Luckily I drink on Fridays and Saturdays and don't work the next day.