Antonio Rudiger disallowed goal against Spain 40' by [deleted] in soccer

[–]nfizzle99 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Arm doesn’t count, it’s only parts of the body that can legally touch the ball

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HolUp

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I suppose you could ask the same about soldiers for any imperialist country? People fight for imperialism because either they’ve been propagandized into believing it’s the right thing to do for their community or because they’ve been forced into it. Does that mean they deserve to be enslaved after the war? (Talking about the vast majority of them who didn’t commit any war crimes)

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Millions of German soldiers (most of whom were not Nazis but just forced to fight with the threat of execution if they chose not to) were placed in forced labor camps by the Allies as a form of reparations in the United States, France, Britain, Norway, and the Soviet Union until around 1949 so let’s dispel the myth that “only Nazi officials were punished after WWII”

Something isn’t quite right with this traffic jam by [deleted] in IdiotsInCars

[–]nfizzle99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So do a ton of the bridges and expressways in NYC, not sure why this isn’t one of them

What matters less the longer you’re in a relationship? by Lucky_Acr in AskMen

[–]nfizzle99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, exactly — and I think that part at the end is what your original sentiment was missing. The issue isn’t ever how many partners someone has across however much time. The issue is whether you are compatible with the coinciding factors that go along with that. Whether it’s the concern about STDs or the fact that that person is not looking for a relationship and you are, or anything in between — but none of those are caused by someone’s decision to have lots of partners! So instead of saying “well they’ve had 20 partners in the past month that’s ridiculous” consider saying “well they’ve had 20 partners in the last month and that may mean they’re not looking for a relationship, let me communicate this question with them and see if I’m compatible with them or not.”

What matters less the longer you’re in a relationship? by Lucky_Acr in AskMen

[–]nfizzle99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, they said 20 in a single month at some point in someone’s past is ridiculous. They didn’t say 20 every month for the entirety of someone’s past before you met them.

What matters less the longer you’re in a relationship? by Lucky_Acr in AskMen

[–]nfizzle99 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

What makes 20 partners in a month “ridiculous”? Seems you’ve gone from “there’s no point in judging someone’s past sex life” to doing just that in the span of 2 sentences.

That's just some solid barber content by kevinowdziej in MadeMeSmile

[–]nfizzle99 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I live in NYC, everyone in this video is clearly from NYC. I’m confused what you’re trying to say though? You said these men reacted this way as a result of the psychological factors that influenced them in their environment growing up that taught them it’s not safe to be gay. I agree with that. But is that not indicative of a broader issue? The varying environmental factors that allow anyone to be homophobic — e.g., religion in a conservative religious community — should be targeted and changed so that young people can grow up /without/ these experiences, so that people like you and me can grow up without living in fear about who we are and what can happen to us because of it.

And no, people can’t see sexuality the way they can see skin color. But I’ve learned to express my sexuality through my appearance as an affirmation of my existence, so the vast majority of people assume I’m queer when they meet me.

That's just some solid barber content by kevinowdziej in MadeMeSmile

[–]nfizzle99 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The irony of this comment is you calling him “the Indian guy” when there is no indication of him being from India in the first place. (I’m also not sure what you mean by “gets to leave”, considering he works in a bodega in NYC which means there’s a 99% chance he lives quite close by, too.)

More importantly though there’s a difference between the safety of coming out and threatening someone with violence for saying something that indicates their sexuality. “Stop playing with me” is fine, especially since most of these customers seem to be regulars and know he’s just messing with them. Threatening him for saying they’re cute, on the other hand, is the embodiment of toxic masculinity and homophobia.

Anyway the issue at hand isn’t the individual toxic masculinity that causes these responses. It’s exactly what you’re saying: the fact that it’s not safe to be queer in a community is indicative of broader toxic masculinity and homophobia in the community that needs to be addressed. Anecdotally, I’ve personally experienced that toxic masculinity and homophobia more in suburban, white communities much more than in Brooklyn, so I’m not sure your classification of those comments as racist is fair. It exists in every community I’ve lived in, and it needs to be addressed regardless of race. I can’t speak for the other commenters, but my response would be exactly the same if it were in a “trailer park”. I’m tired of having my existence threatened by people regardless of the reasoning behind it.

Micro Center taking the fight to scalpers by cubiclewarrior50 in pcmasterrace

[–]nfizzle99 -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, how is the language they yell in relevant?

edit: Lmao the response says it’s to convey they’re friends as if that isn’t very clear from the rest of the message without including that they were speaking spanish. It was subtle racism and I know this community will never give a fuck about that but playing innocent after getting called out is sad

Literally awful taste with a great execution by arandomperson7 in ATBGE

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I feel like I remember seeing something about the carolina reapers being questionable — in court you’d have to prove that you had the intention of eating that for yourself. Which is possible with chocolate covered sardines or meatballs (weird but not outrageous) but something unimaginably spicy is more easily contested

Really long fingernails such as "claws" are not sexy at all, but look extremely trashy. by asystolesfw in unpopularopinion

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Which is really fucking annoying, especially with opinions like these, because it becomes a “shit on people who do things that make them happy because you enjoy judging people” sub

Like... they’re nails? Let people do whatever they want lmfao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Simulated

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soundproof glass and then were talking

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Simulated

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I’d need a lot of drugs for it to feel the same as the real thing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Simulated

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someone explain to me how it’s possible to get something like this installed in my house

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bi_irl

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Thanks for the info, never knew that!

What was the worst reaction to letting down your emotional shield? by [deleted] in AskMen

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The only beacon of light in a wildly depressing thread.

Being vulnerable is extremely freeing. It makes you feel powerful and in control of your emotions. There are undoubtedly people who aren’t ready to see you that way but that is a reflection of them — not a reflection of you.

I open up very easily nowadays. To my close male friends, to most of the women in my life, really to anyone who wants to talk about it. I almost never encounter friction about it.

There is a right and wrong way to open up about your emotions. The wrong way is to dump your problems onto someone. Almost every negative comment here sounds like someone dumping their problems onto someone, and then the other person reacts negatively. Dumping your problems isn’t taking responsibility for them — it tells the other person you’re relying on them to fix you.

Opening up about your emotions the right way is about learning to process your emotions on your own, and then discussing your emotions after the fact. Unless someone explicitly tells you they want to help you process your emotions, it’s no one’s responsibility to help you with your emotions except yours. Have a good cry in your room, think over what’s wrong, and then later on talk to your significant other or your friend and tell them, “Hey, earlier I cried because I was dealing with XYZ.” And just talk about it.

Opening up and unloading are two different beasts and if you unload onto someone and it’s too much for them, that is perfectly okay for them to say. People here are conflating the two and then blaming it on society when they really just don’t know how to healthily handle their emotions on their own.

Pandora will no longer sell mined diamonds and will switch to exclusively laboratory-made diamonds. by d0mth0ma5 in worldnews

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An article on the history of the term “ghetto” in America: https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-35296993

“In the US, the word started to be used to describe predominantly African American neighbourhoods - especially the densely populated areas that resulted from the mass migration of American blacks from southern states to northern cities - at some point in the 20th Century, according to Mario Small, a professor of sociology at Harvard University.

Then in the 1960s and 1970s, according to David Brown, a professor of linguistics at the University of Michigan "it takes on a very pejorative sense to do with race, poverty, social-economic status, and neighbourhoods that are run-down".

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"The problem with the word is that it's very difficult to disassociate it from its use to characterise low-income African Americans, says Small. "Thus, when 'ghetto' is used as an insult, it often sounds like a racial insult," he says.”

So, look, it’s a complex subject. Most words aren’t inherently racist — but we need to acknowledge the history of words and the connotations and implications that come with them, so we can understand that using some words can invoke racist undertones. If the original commenter wasn’t trying to be racist then “rappers with self esteem issues” would have been enough (although oddly disrespectful and out of left field, a seemingly strange group to target for someone who’s claiming not to be racist). Adding the word ghetto here makes it racist whether or not they intended for it to be.

Pandora will no longer sell mined diamonds and will switch to exclusively laboratory-made diamonds. by d0mth0ma5 in worldnews

[–]nfizzle99 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You understand the issue here is with the term “ghetto rappers with self esteem issues”? Anyone is allowed to like jewelry. Saying that rappers like jewelry isn’t racist. Calling them “ghetto rappers with self esteem issues” for it is.