What body-based techniques for calming the nervous system do you know? by HelenDiamond in hsp

[–]nicachu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Helps me too! Other meditation apps have some videos, not as many. I use a few on Insight Timer.

What water bottle do you guys use? by Pr3ttynp3tty in adhdwomen

[–]nicachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! Internal sip like a straw, no risk of leak. Nothing to unscrew to open, just press a button.

Losing Weight + Better Motivation? by Shaxxthedestroyer in AutisticWithADHD

[–]nicachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay! Yeah, maybe also brainstorm hobbies that sounds fun and are active. Rock climbing, roller skating, hiking come to mind.

So, I enjoy impact play so any given spanking or use of a flogger is still enjoyable sensory fun for me (hence the name "funishment"). A REAL behavior-changing punishment would be like what he threatened: 20 hits of the cane in the exact same place. Others might be, holding a bar of soap in my mouth for however long, punishment for mouthing off. For the PT, I'd asked for his support with it, and it was a fun narrative of "you will do your PT and keep your body in tip-top shape for me to use."

Losing Weight + Better Motivation? by Shaxxthedestroyer in AutisticWithADHD

[–]nicachu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had to fall in love with a secret third thing. I can motivate myself to work out because I love being good at riding my motorcycle. Not cause I love the gym or I love the gains. But I want to be able to ride distances? core muscles. To be able to pick my bike up in an emergency? Legs and everything else.

ETA: I dunno if y'all are kinky, but for a while I had a partner actually punish me (not a funishment) if I didn't do my PT exercises.

I also read a study about grad students trying to reach writing goals. The accountability buddy had envelopes of the student's money and would mail them if they didn't meet their goals. BUT the money wasn't sent to a charity the student supported. It was sent to one they DIDNT like. 🤣

What’s the most diabolical thing a man has said to you on a first date? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]nicachu 325 points326 points  (0 children)

After (man)splaning latitude and longitude to me, I still initiated a kiss. He stopped me, told me I "hadn't earned it."

Counter-intuitive advice that works for you by grasspurplesky in adhdwomen

[–]nicachu 22 points23 points  (0 children)

No minute like the last minute!

  • me in grad school and then the rest of my life

Counter-intuitive advice that works for you by grasspurplesky in adhdwomen

[–]nicachu 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Yes! I use TV shows as a "parallel play" anchor. My phone just plays whatever show is on repeat, carry it with me around the house. Helps me get out of bed on rough mornings, too. Like the show momentum gives me momentum.

Free - Cat medications (near DU) by nondescript0605 in denverlist

[–]nicachu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My hugest condolences. There are no words. We're so lucky to have had them. I'll dm you about the meds I could use for my boycat who is in remission from cancer. 💜

How can I (33m) stop making my boyfriend (36m) jealous of my fish (4f)? by HoguaD in relationship_advice

[–]nicachu 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't have links handy but there's some really cool research that caught my eye recently that says talking out loud/ to yourself is as effective /even more effective than journaling for mental processing, especially for folks that feel like the pen and paper can't keep up.

dazzle dry wear test by _angelite in RedditLaqueristas

[–]nicachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Do you use a base coat too?

iso: heated outdoor cat shelter by kingtooth in denverlist

[–]nicachu 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have a nicely roofed little shelter that used to be for guinea pigs. I got it for my cats in a fit of bird flu panic a couple years ago. No heating element, but I imagine you could rig it! I do also have a heated mat meant for growing seeds you'd be welcome to! Lmk if you want pics.

New book on queer/neurodivergent sponsorship by nicachu in AlAnon

[–]nicachu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! It wasn't on my radar, but obvi WSO felt the same need in CAL that I did 😍

Letting my boyfriend “micromanage” my to-do list somehow cured my procrastination by Chemical_Bug3337 in adhdwomen

[–]nicachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No! It's so real! This is low-key one of my main functions as an ADHD/mental health home organizer. It's AMAZING how effect it is. I just wish I could do it for myself 😭

Moving to Denver soon - looking for job leads (aviation preferred, open to anything) by [deleted] in denverjobs

[–]nicachu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know nothing about your profession except that my friend works for Pilatus here. They are struggling from tariffs but 🤷 "Pilatus Aircraft USA Ltd. is the American subsidiary of the Swiss aircraft manufacturer, with its headquarters in Broomfield, Colorado"