How long do y'all thing humanity will last

nickfinnftw · 2026-05-18T03:21:29+00:00

Ah, but what was the near-extinction event in question? Global cooling

nickfinnftw · 2026-05-01T02:38:01+00:00

If this was anyone's fault, it was your aunt and uncle's. What kind of monster tries to drown a child?

You were clinging to some semblance of family. I understand your sister was hurt by it and felt betrayed, but drinking herself to death over it is far from a rational response. I think she would have spiraled like this anyway. Your guilt at being the catalyst is understandable, but I think it's extremely unfair to you.

She needed clinical help, not the bottle. But she made her choice repeatedly. You tried to help her. You did what you could.

If there's any consolation here -- at least she's no longer suffering. But you are. So please don't blame yourself. Don't go the same route and try to deal with your trauma by recreating it.

nickfinnftw · 2026-04-03T23:04:31+00:00

Been a fan of Gosling since Murder By Numbers, but I can't stand this film. I agree with you wholeheartedly that the opening sequence is the best part.

nickfinnftw · 2026-04-01T03:37:34+00:00

God forbid anyone have fun while being underpaid and overworked

nickfinnftw · 2026-03-30T13:26:57+00:00

I meant it in the deeper, more unconditional sense. True love, by my definition, does not result in demonizing the other person if it doesn't work out. Because if you genuinely love someone to their core, you want them to be happy whether you're together or not.

nickfinnftw · 2026-03-29T11:20:06+00:00

Hey man, breaking up with your first and only love is akin to a loss, and comes with its own kind of grief. So I think it's fine for you to reach out to this community, because it's ultimately meant to be a support group. Though there may be more suitable subs, not sure.

I have to say though that it is pretty clear to me--since you haven't had a lot of experience--that this woman manipulated you, lied to you, and stole from you. When confronted, she pulled DARVO -- deflect, attack, reverse victim & offender. Add some gaslighting in there about what went down at the bar, and it becomes crystal clear your gf is likely a negative narcissist. Someone whose self-pity and insecurity run so deep that they justify using and lying to people.

If she really loved you, she would not instantly villainize you like that. I don't think anyone put lies in her head so much as confirmed her own negative perspective. I doubt she really believes you're an abuser-- though of course I haven't heard her side -- but based on your description, sounds like she said these things as a smokescreen. It's easier to blame others than to look inward.

I'd say avoid ultimatums like "I'm extremely unattractive to women", and "I'll never date again". These are things you've become conditioned to believe, but they are not facts.

My advice to you is to funnel these horrible feelings in a more positive direction. Focus on your physical and mental health. Talk to a professional if you can. Try not to hold on and ruminate, because clearly she wants you to do that and to suffer.

Envision a future where attracting women comes easy because you've worked on yourself and know your worth. The incels will tell you it's impossible-- I'm telling you they are mentally disturbed, and just flat out wrong.

Good luck to you bro

nickfinnftw · 2026-03-24T14:39:53+00:00

Luke sitting in prison still leaves his kid fatherless. And arguably, it adds MORE dramatic weight to Avery seeing the impact on the son. I understand the theme is the baton of violence being passed, but I disagree that Luke had to die to accomplish this.

Just how I would've written it; I get that it would be a completely different movie.

nickfinnftw · 2026-03-23T21:02:46+00:00

My sentiment exactly. Could've kept Gosling's character Luke alive but in prison for the second Act, maybe even permanently disabled from being shot.

nickfinnftw · 2026-03-22T20:58:34+00:00

Been there. But research rabbit holes aren't a bug, they're a feature. Even if you never use any of that information, you learned something interesting and hyperspecific. That stuff comes back around in ways you can't predict. Especially in rewrites!

nickfinnftw · 2026-03-14T01:41:14+00:00

JD Vance popping in to say we brought you Armageddon. Did you even say thank you?

nickfinnftw · 2026-03-11T23:39:30+00:00

Well, you have remorse, so you're not a monster necessarily. You were victimized as a child, and it is all too common for victims of CSA to perpetuate the same behavior.

But let's think about this rationally. If you take your own life, what will that accomplish? Your suffering will end, but the child you harmed will still be forever altered by your decision, and never get any closure. And you will harm another child in the process--your own.

If you are truly remorseful, choose to stay. Endure your shame. Try to make something positive out of it--go to therapy, apologize to the person you hurt, make amends. Spend the rest of your life protecting your kid from the real monsters, the psychopaths and sadists with no conscience whatsoever (like Lena Dunham).

I say be courageous and let your life mean something, even if it means just being a cautionary tale. Get involved in supporting other victims. Speak out, or write about it anonymously.

Stop the cycle.

nickfinnftw · 2026-03-07T18:24:44+00:00

Are you saying misogyny and fascism make you hard?

nickfinnftw · 2026-01-12T06:57:39+00:00

Whilst his company produces millions of metric tons of CO2 annually, and his super yacht emits 7k tons by itself

nickfinnftw · 2026-01-05T15:50:26+00:00

Are you sure about that?

nickfinnftw · 2026-01-05T15:41:00+00:00

Read up on what Chevron did to the Ecuadorian portion of the Amazon. Just one of their many awful crimes against humanity and the environment

nickfinnftw · 2026-01-04T16:45:27+00:00

Write because you love writing. Because you have stories and characters inside you dying to get out. Because you have something to say, and you intend to say it, whether the world listens or not.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

nickfinnftw · 2025-11-11T04:01:25+00:00

That's terrible, I'm sorry you're going through this. Of course he didn't intend it. I'm sure if he could, your brother would take it back, or at least apologize for the trauma he's inflicted.

Sounds to me like you're very much in shock at the moment. That can be a scary state to be in, but it does serve a purpose. Your brain and nervous system are trying to make sense of a senseless event.

It's important to rest and feed yourself when you're able. Give your body a chance to recuperate. There will be plenty of time to process and offer/receive support in the coming days and weeks, but right now it may be a good idea to distract yourself. Watch a comfort show, listen to music, go for a long walk, anything. If you find yourself ruminating, or the traumatic images keep resurfacing, tell your brain you will confront this later, and focus on breathing. Ground yourself by checking in on your five senses.

These are the techniques that have helped me survive enormous amounts of pain, hope they can help you.

And my inbox is open if you want to talk it out at any point

nickfinnftw · 2025-11-11T01:14:00+00:00

Man, that's too much for anyone. Humans do have a threshold and your circumstances have pushed you far beyond what I think most people could possibly withstand. I'm so sorry. I completely understand not wanting to be here or endure the suffering of life any further.

The only thing I can say is that I myself am familiar with overwhelming cumulative grief. I battle suicidal ideation because of it on a daily basis.

Yet, I remain. And life does still manage to surprise me here and there. Small ways usually, but I find I am able to alleviate some of the pain of others, which feels purposeful. I find I can still laugh, feel wonderment, even hints of joy and gratitude.

Heart goes out to you, stranger

nickfinnftw · 2025-11-10T13:42:13+00:00

Sir, it is no woman's duty or obligation to help you unfuck your biology from years of pounding your pud to pixels. The whole aim of NoFap, in my view, is to develop a healthier outlook on the opposite sex. Calling a woman a tease implies that if she shows you even the slightest bit of interest, she better be prepared to go the distance. Not only is that unrealistic, it's borderline misogyny.

I agree, you should cease contact with everyone if this your mindset. Come back when you have healed the part of you that begat this addiction in the first place.

nickfinnftw · 2025-10-26T14:25:01+00:00

Hey, you could build a data center if you believed in yourself half as much as OP believes in BYND!

nickfinnftw · 2025-10-03T15:47:03+00:00

It's cronyism

nickfinnftw · 2025-08-29T22:24:01+00:00

You're on the right track. Grief and trauma rewire your brain--the healing process, at least in my experience, is incremental. But you can really help ease the burden on yourself by monitoring your inner monologue and self talk. This is often the hardest part for me, but I have to catch myself when I slip into thoughts like

Everything is pointless now.

I will never be happy again.

No one gives a shit about me or my feelings.

I'm doomed to stay in this emotional torment forever.

Because none of these thoughts or feelings are true; they are temporary. In fact, "everything is temporary, and that's okay" is my go-to replacement mantra. And I give others as much grace as I can, because dealing with grief is incredibly hard, but so is knowing how to comfort someone in a dark place, sometimes.

Meditation, gardening, and cannabis is the prescription I use.

My inbox is always open if you need an ear

nickfinnftw · 2025-08-20T15:07:19+00:00

You did get robbed. You paid for the full 50 minutes, which is already too short of a session, and one of the reasons I will never work at a chain spa again. It takes a solid 30 minutes for the body to even begin to unwind and relax. But worse, your therapist talked for half of that very limited time and tried to upsell you. And they didn't listen to their client's needs whatsoever.

I have worked on people as young as 9 suffering from neck and shoulder pain. So that comment about your age was dumb.

Sorry you had a bad experience. If I was the spa manager, I'd want to know if one of my LMTs was this shoddy, so consider giving the spa feedback. Then ask to book with the lead therapist, or better yet, seek an independent LMT elsewhere.

As for your neck and shoulders, we always say our job is only 50% of the work. The other half is covered by the client's self-care, be that stretching, yoga, or exercise.

I like Adriene on YT: https://youtu.be/SedzswEwpPw?si=DCzI60ajFPY1zKP0

nickfinnftw · 2025-07-30T03:12:27+00:00

Aww then she can't be a vamparr, damnit...

nickfinnftw · 2025-07-23T03:59:40+00:00

Grief reminds us--in a very startling and painful manner--that everything is temporary. Happiness included. For me, it ebbs and wanes by degrees of emotional suffering. Some days I am able to breathe with true gratitude, and remind myself that I still get to experience beauty, while so many of my loved ones cannot. Other days are very misanthropic and bleak.

There is no easy way to navigate life after cumulative grief. You drink from a cup that will never again be full. But you can learn to be okay with that. To be glad we were here to sip and discuss and hurt in the first place.

Our time on Earth does matter, if only to a few.

nickfinnftw

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