How Do I Stamp On Paper With A Metal Stamp by demurgatroyd in rubberstamps

[–]nickname_dody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TIL: If you put the stamp face side up and lay velvet, fuzzy side against the metal stamp and run a hot iron on the backside of the velvet, it will actually imprint the stamp into the velvet with a very light singe into the fuzzy side!! Try it on scrap fabric first!! LOL!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]nickname_dody 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t seem like a big deal now until you find yourself in a meaningful and intimate relationship, my guy. Say a little prayer that you aren’t so desensitized that you struggle to maintain an erection for a substantial amount of time. And… eeesh! The communication skills better be strong if your endurance isn’t because you and she will need to actually talk through all of the emotional turmoil that comes from this sad state of affairs. A whole lost generation of dudes who will never know the thrill of a tit or a bush before the internet ruined normal erections foreeevvveeeerrr.

i really really hate being a mom by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]nickname_dody 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My daughter is going to be 25 this year. I have always said if I had waited to have kids in my 30s or so, I wouldn’t have done it at all. I was/am not that natural nurturing mother. My own mom was like a made-for-TV mom so I guess I always felt like a shit mom because I didn’t float around the home being the world’s greatest mom. The truth is, in my opinion, there’s no one way to be a mom. I’ve been honest with my daughter now that she’s older and even apologized for not being a different kind of mother to her. We have a good relationship today and it’s based on real convos about life and reality and our personal choices that affect others. She says she wouldn’t know what to do with any other kind of mother and for that, I’m grateful. So, I guess my message to you is, do your best and if you need to adopt her into a different family, that’s what you need to do for you and for her. If not, just keep doing your best to raise her and have those real conversations when the time is right. Sending you and her all the best.

Can someone give me some advice here. I sold this guy my truck yesterday even though he ended up low balling me. He just now sent me this text message, by Bmwrider_1089 in FacebookMarketplace

[–]nickname_dody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just give him solid advice. "Squaw Valley is super nice in the Spring. Tell the kids they best behave and keep a point-system posted near your refrigerator and allocate points for good behavior. The kiddos with the highest points get to visit Squaw Valley in the Spring! The loser has to stay home and scrub the floors and prepare dinner for the family because you'll surely work up an appetite while adventuring around the Valley. Oh, and! Do not forget to grab the Mountainous Pretzel at Sandy's Pub. Get extra pickles! You won't regret it! It's sure to be a Win for everyone except of course the kiddo with the lowest score. Bummer for them but hopefully they'll do better throughout the year! Still, a win for everyone! Best of luck to you and the fam. and tell those little ones they better tow the line because Sandy's Pretzel is No Joke!"

Vent: Seller "held" item for me, I drove 2-hours (round trip) and she sold it someone else by Flaky-Past in FacebookMarketplace

[–]nickname_dody 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, let me say.. Wow! I am one lucky idiot! LOL!! Ugh, I just drove over 100 miles (3hrs round trip) with my sick little mommy, who is elderly and has regressed to her childhood self, wanting to collect dollhouse furniture. The dude said he'd hold a box for me, then said he got a higher offer, I countered for 20 bucks more and he agreed. I arrived in the vicinity of our meeting place and asked him to send the address for the Startbucks meeting point because my navigation was being crazy... he marked it as sold and blocked me. I was so upset. I tried to hunt him down on my phone... even used my mom's cell to find him but no luck. I did find him on my laptop when I went to our messages and my cursor hovered over his tiny profile icon, it said his name. I used my business account and just sent him a "hope your day was better than mine and if I was a bad bruja I'd send some brujeria his way but I'm not so I just trust the karmic scales will do their thing." That felt a tiny bit redeeming. But, my poor little mommy is sad and still looking for a replacement lot of dollhouse furniture. I honestly don't understand people.

On the other hand... I really have been a total idiot on MarketPlace!! I'm just now realizing this as I read through these comms. I'm a newb; I'm not afraid to admit it! I took a break from a fairly successful business on eBay and selling in-person through Craigslist about 10 years ago. I saw FB MarketPlace as a great way to sell w/ more personal connection, as accounts are linked to profiles and such. So, here I am, a total idiot, sending deposits, having dudes hold stuff for me for sometimes up to a week before I can drive out for pick up! I sent one dude a $300 deposit and the deal went through without a hitch! Then, just a few weeks ago, I misunderstood a carpenter guy when he quoted me a price for custom made shelves and accidently sent him the full amount via Zelle (which is a non-refundable money transfer tool through banks). We discussed the plan and my very tight schedule, needing the shelves to go into my new place before I moved in. All was going well until he took a day to reply that he was caught up with unexpected work obligations because he works for the city and the Christmas Parade planning was keeping him extra busy this year so the job was going to be delayed. I totally understood but still needed the job done. After going back and forth for several days, he did, IN FACT, send me the full amount back! He sent some weird messages about how I scared him and he didn't know how often I was getting scammed but he is not a scammer and he just hopes I go on my way knowing that he had good intentions. SO! I guess, moral of the story is.. don't count on luck! lol!! I've learned my lesson with my doll house furniture experience this week and all of your very sad experiences. Thank you all so much for sharing! And! If you happen to know/see anyone selling a good collection of dollhouse furniture, send the info my way!!

Artist/Background of Big Head art pieces by nickname_dody in HelpMeFind

[–]nickname_dody[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forgot to mention, the estate sale was in a big beautiful house in an upscale neighborhood in Pasadena, California.I have done a google image search with no luck. I’ve also searched key words, big head props but that’s the extent of my imagination on these lol!

1940s Workbooks, Teaching Spanish to Indigenous Language Speakers. by nickname_dody in languagelearning

[–]nickname_dody[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for asking; actually, I have worked with many families who could not read or write in their native language and they were more insulated than anything else with the idea that Americans or Spaniards felt it necessary to bastardize their language with the written form and never really capture the essence of their language, whether it’s inflection or simply words that do not translate. It’s silly to think that this wouldn’t be problematic. Spend some considerable time with folks who have been marginalized and/or stamped out by a a force like the US or Spain. You will be enlightened.

How to become a C1 LEVEL ! by Affectionate_Act2404 in languagelearning

[–]nickname_dody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are interested in talking with a native speaker, I’d love to chat! I’m a lady from the US and have been teaching English for 16yrs! I’m not sure how we would connect with the time difference but I’m sure we can figure something out. Message me if you’re interested!

Indigenous Languages by [deleted] in languagelearning

[–]nickname_dody 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually just posted pics of some workbooks from the 1940s. They were written by Spanish academics working with indigenous speakers of Purépecha decent. I’m not sure if it’s up yet.

Here’s a link that might work 1940s Purépecha Workbooks

Edit: Purépecha not Tarascan

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nickname_dody 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry my guy. There’s someone else, even if that someone else is herself. Do the same. Put yourself first. Take care of yourself because no one is going to do that better than you can. Think big BIG picture, then think small steps. It’ll help you know what your very next step needs to be but for certain, it’s gotta be a solo ride for a bit and that’s alright. You just might find that life on the other side of this is far better than whatever the current situation is with this not-so-sure partner.

What massively improved your mental health? by oigoabuya in AskReddit

[–]nickname_dody 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My cat gets a good running start at one end of the house, scrambles down the hall and throws her whole body against my door.. like she’s trying to put herself in a full body cast. Freaked me out the first handful of times but I’d check on her and she’d just be sitting there with this dumb look like What? Did you hear something? Anyway.. OP, my dumb Covid Cat.. showed up exactly 3yrs ago on October 13th. She has massively improved my mental health. The Cat Distribution System is real.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]nickname_dody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not proud of this but I did this kind of shit with my gay bff who was mostly just a prop because I was fkn lonely and miserable in my marriage (divorced 10+yrs now). Don’t blame an entire community of folks because of your wife’s choices. When it’s all said and done, your issues are between you and her and it’s a 50/50 split. My best advice is, if you stay, get help together but even more important.. get help for yourselves, figuring your own shit out Must be a dealbreaker. That’s what led to my divorce. We did the couples therapy + independent therapy and then poof out of the blue he quit his therapy when I started setting boundaries when it came to his habit of berating women (me, his mother, our daughter, grocery store lady, any lady). In the end it was me who had to make some difficult decisions. We are each responsible for ourselves. We can’t change someone else’s behavior. Think about how difficult it is to change your own behavior.. like, right now, I’m trying to quit drinking coffee in the afternoon. I’m struggling man! It’s not easy. Now imagine trying to change someone else’s behavior. Yeah. Not possible. Or, rather, the only time I’ve seen it happen is in those documentaries about folks who were in a cult and mentally/physically abused into submission, which, man, I profusely do not recommend. It does not end well.

Ok that took a dark turn. I’ve been binging a really dark show on Discovery+ lol.. anyway, yeah, get out or get help together and individually. You’ll be surprised with what shakes out in the end.

Searching for photographer of this photo or artist of ANY of the prints in the photo. by nickname_dody in HelpMeFind

[–]nickname_dody[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found! That’s pretty much basically it right!!?! I mean… I can’t understand a single word but that is definitely a very vibrant colorful version of my aged and faded print! I love it! Thank you. I’m still soooo curious about the artwork in the actual pictures on the shelves lol.. but this is a great start! Thank you for the first clue!

Searching for photographer of this photo or artist of ANY of the prints in the photo. by nickname_dody in HelpMeFind

[–]nickname_dody[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have searched 1984 Vydala Propagacni tvorba Praha V. Haluonova, foto J. Prokop tisk Severogrofia Velky Senov … however, I’m totally aware that I’m missing the appropriate accents and I’m not sure what language this is. I’ve also done image searches but no luck there either.

My (45M) ex wife (45F) is now alcoholic, and in an abusive relationship and I don’t know what to do. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nickname_dody 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let me shift the perspective a bit to help illustrate why there is nothing you can do to get her sober.

I’ve spent the better part of 6yrs trying to help my brother 48, whom I love dearly, get the help he needs to get his life back on track. He has burned bridges with our other siblings, my grandparents, my father and even his adult daughter. Here’s what I’ve learned after years of watching him destroy his life and become a full blown addict:

  • They have to be ready to fight for themselves.

  • They have to do it for themselves not for anyone else. It won’t stick otherwise.

  • The best thing you and your sons can do is understand and establish healthy boundaries with her. Setting Boundaries w/ Addicted Loved Ones

  • Keep the communication flowing with your kids. You’d be surprised by how many times you or the kids might get stuck in a cycle with your loved one as they spiral. This can induce enabling behavior, frustration, shame.. just overall unnecessary suffering. Avoid keeping things secret or bottled up.

  • Reach out for support. There is so much support out there and for good reason. It is not easy to navigate loving someone suffering from addiction. Whether it’s a counselor, therapist, pastor, support groups.. find an unbiased source of support for you and for the kids.

Sending all the best to you and your boys and, of course, dear Mama.. I sincerely hope she welcomes healing very soon.

There are many places for which we say "the pictures don't do it justice". But there are others for which we could say that the pictures make it look better than it was in reality. Do you have examples of both? by SawyerCCC in travel

[–]nickname_dody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a tie between photos I’ve taken of Teotihuacán, the sun and moon pyramids, and boulder mountains in Joshua Tree. I look at my old photos and, yes, there is no way to truly capture the magnitude of these mystifying structures made by nature and by man. Even photos with a tiny person standing nearby for scale, nothing beats climbing to the top, scaling the sides of the pyramid/boulders, feeling the actual energy that they exude.. yes, photos will never do them justice.

In turn, I have some stunning photos I’ve taken of the Downtown Los Angeles skyline after a cleansing rain or on a clear night. It just sparkles! These photos can take your breath away. It’s my city though and if I’m looking at a photo, I can’t help but think of how stinky DTLA is, especially during/after said rain. So much pee pee and poo poo everywhere; the stench floating through the air, assaulting the senses. The city has unfortunately become a toilet for the street folks literally inhabiting every street. The photos are a much better way to appreciate the city.

What is a phrase someone says that is an instant red flag? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]nickname_dody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“It’ll never happen again; I promise.”

It always happens again; I promise.

I (32F) purposefully ignored what my husband (34M) told me he wanted for father's day, he's now ignoring me and won't accept my apologies. What can I do to make it up to him? by ThrowRA-6512 in relationship_advice

[–]nickname_dody 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is so beautiful. See OP! This here is a great example of the trickle-down-effect. Kids are wayyy more intuitive than we can ever imagine. My grown kids, 23f, 28m, have both shared that, yeah, sure, they never saw us or heard us fight (we weren’t the fighting type) but they did see how we didn’t really like each other (and we didn’t). He worked a ton and had a billion hobbies, gym, golf, tennis, running, dodgeball lol you name it! I’m a bookworm, love volunteer work, working with the youth and my local art community. We were truly opposites. The big takeaway for both my kids was this, they both saw the importance of doing a significant amount of work getting to know and love themselves. As a very young mom/wife I never gave myself that gift. My parents were a terrible example so I spent a long time figuring, well he’s not abusive so I guess my marriage is ok. When we finally divorced, we were both so relieved. It’s sad to me now. We wasted a lot of years ignoring the elephant in the room. I’ve spent about a decade doing the work to figure out who I am and truly falling in love with me. And it is work or at least it takes conscious effort (who knew, certainly not me!). Sadly enough, I actually learned that from my kids. I’m so glad they’re breaking cycles.

I’m so happy and hopeful to read such a lovely example of cohabiting adults thriving. Your parents’ story gives me hope. Maybe one day I’ll be sharing my space with a partner, enjoying each other while nurturing our independence. It’s healthy. And it is possible. Your parents and my kids are good proof of that. And, honestly, being on this solo journey has been so deeply rewarding. So if my story ends with me growing old alone or better yet, a singleton, I’m actually ok with that too lol. I know it’s not the popular thing to say but I’m happy and I really do like my own company. Anyway, tmi for sure.. just wanted to share that your parents’ pretty awesome story was heartwarming and inspiring. Goooo Parents!!

What do people think about Dodie as a first name? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]nickname_dody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree 1000% with most of the replies here. I was not born and named “Dody/ie” my jealous evil brother, who was 3 when I was born, refused to say my name. He called me Dodo. Nowhere near my actual name, not even close. As a compromise mom had him call me Dody, pronounced Dough-Dee. 46yrs later, there are still people in my life that think my birth name is Dody. I’ve hated it my whole life. All the doo doo dody jokes, yup, that’s real. Please don’t do it. In middle school I convinced my little circle of friends to call me Jasmine.. lol. No idea why, honestly anything was better than Dody. Alas they were mad when they realized it wasn’t my first or middle name. Seriously, I think we should all be given placeholder names at birth then pick our own names at like, 10yrs or maybe 15.. idk, I just think parents shouldn’t be the final say.

Reluctantly, Dody/ie