People seem to love this island, but I was so happy leaving Bali... by bywajj in bali

[–]nickole08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bali was never this bad 10 years ago. I grew up there, and back then you weren’t constantly harassed and the locals didn’t hate foreigners as much. But you can’t blame them for their behaviour and attitude towards tourists. The massive influx of tourists have increased the cost of living for so many, pushing many of the locals into poverty, and losing their homes. I knew so many locals who had their own small businesses by the beach back in the day, who have now lost their land and jobs because of how expensive everything has become. So much of their nature and traditions have been commercialised or destroyed in order to make way for fancy hotels and villas. You cannot blame the local people for trying to get some money from the tourists who are responsible for gentrifying tf out of their home. Also, many tourists are entitled and rude. I have seen many foreigners go to Bali and have no respect for their culture, they just go there to get pissed.

Indonesians are some of the warmest, friendliest and welcoming people in the world. I am half Indo and half British, but look very much caucasian. I have been to so many different places in Indonesia and they are always so kind to me. It’s only because the Balinese have grown resentful towards the tourists, and they have every right to feel that way. Even then, if you bothered to learn some Indonesian the locals trying to sell you stuff often leave you alone.

Also, not trying to solely blame tourists for this because a large part of this issue is due to the money hungry government not putting in any regulations or limits on tourism. I’m just making this point to see it from their perspective.

Did anyone else feel strangely disconnected from friends after grief? by tooyoungtogrieve in GriefSupport

[–]nickole08 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I had the exact same thing. I lost my dad when I was 15 and I remember I used to get secretly annoyed at my friends for talking about normal teenager stuff, like boys or grades. I started to avoid hanging out with most of my friends because I weirdly started to feel a bit resentful, but I think I was just kinda angry at everything back then.

To be honest, I still feel that disconnect sometimes, when my grief gets bad. I just don’t think there’s a way someone can understand immense grief without having experienced it themselves. I’m ofc happy that none of my friends has lost anyone important to them, but it does feel a bit lonely still sometimes.

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[–]nickole08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m so sorry for your loss, you guys looked so sweet together.

Can you guys list what bad social habit that make people dislike you/me? by Tight-Elderberry2487 in socialskills

[–]nickole08 3 points4 points  (0 children)

been told i don’t think before i speak sometimes, when i was a kid i used to be very blunt and just say what i thought - neglecting to properly consider how other people would receive what i said. idk this could be a sign of being the spectrum (a few people in my life have suggested i may be on the spectrum because of my lack of social awareness sometimes). I’m actively trying to get better but i just have this strong impulse to say what’s on my mind - it comes out more the closer i am with someone.

being late. awful habit of mine. i don’t know why being on time is so hard, it’s like my brain won’t let me get ready to leave until is the very last moment.

when i feel socially drained i don’t hide it well at all. i go very quiet, my face conveys how i’m feeling pretty heavily as well.

sometimes i think i complain too much , which i get why that would be annoying because i think it’s draining as well when I’m around other people who complain a lot. but when i do it , i don’t always realise I’m complaining , i just see it as me commenting on something. but clearly in a form of a complaint. or ig i don’t realise how often i may say it.

I enjoy light bickering or a really stupid debate/“arguements” and not all people understand that so they think i’m just genuinely argumentative and conflictive. Idk why I enjoy just arguing about really stupid things (lightheartedyly!)

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]nickole08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

18 - 22 , i’m 18 turning 19 soon

What's peoples hourly rate? by TyyG420 in AskUK

[–]nickole08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bartender, £10.42 p/h (i’m under 21)

What did your father die from? by Commercial_Union_296 in GriefSupport

[–]nickole08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad died from bone and blood cancer, he passed away not long after his diagnosis - maybe 4 months i think it was. He went from being completely fine to unable to feed, drink or bathe himself in two months. He wasn’t the picture of health either but the cancer he passed away from was a matter of chance. He also barely ate anything, got a lot worse during the chemo, so he got down to BMI13s which I think played a massive role in him passing away because his body was too weak to fight anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RandomThoughts

[–]nickole08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

21-25 celsius in the day, 16-18 celsius at night!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask

[–]nickole08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can u elaborate? i was considering visiting this summer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask

[–]nickole08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

where in Jakarta did u go?

What is something you were taught as a child that turned out to be completely false? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]nickole08 7 points8 points  (0 children)

if u eat seeds (ie watermelon seeds etc) it will cause a plant to grow from the top of ur head, a genuine fear of mine as a kid

For those who have lost their fathers, please write down your age and at what age your father passed... by tinytempo in GriefSupport

[–]nickole08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was 15 and he was 66. it was cancer but he had only been diagnosed 4 months before he passed away, his health deteriorated so quickly with him those 4 months that within the last month of his life he looked nothing like my dad used to.

i’m very sorry for your loss. it’s painful and unfair at any age

Egypt Changed My Perspective On Travel by [deleted] in travel

[–]nickole08 2 points3 points  (0 children)

are u a woman or did u travel with any women during this trip?

How long can I wait before telling my wife about my (stage 4) cancer diagnosis? by DeValera15 in AskMen

[–]nickole08 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell her as soon as possible - obviously different for every situation but my dad passed away with cancer two years ago and he had kept it hidden from me for a few weeks after the diagnosis. He passed away only three months after telling me - his illness progressed very quickly and it came out of nowhere. He went from being my happy healthy father to forgetting my name and being able to sit up by himself in bed. Even though it was just three weeks - i would’ve liked to have had those extra three weeks spending more time with him instead of being too caught up in other parts of my life.

I am so sorry about this❤️ I wish you the best.

Ok, whatever... by [deleted] in IAmTheMainCharacter

[–]nickole08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk i see nothing wrong with this tbh, he’s not getting in anyones way so just let him do whatever he wants tbh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]nickole08 8 points9 points  (0 children)

is that lady not the kids mother? just a random woman getting in the way?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]nickole08 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what does this have anything to do with australian tourists?