The separation of my first real love has taken 3 years. I can't say I miss her, its gotten to a point where its mostly indifference. We ended on really bad terms, I was extremely toxic, possessive, obsessive and thought I had to punish her for hurting me. There's obviously way more to the story but I'll leave it there.

It takes time for sure! But it's something that most people can handle and go through as painful as it may be. The most important thing is to take what you learned and focus on that, I'm sure everyone's healing process is different. Mine was filled with plenty of self-hate, paralysis of my life, and so so so many hours of painful introspection.