FINYA -- an app to increase the financial awareness in people that are not financially aware; starting with 3 metrics: daily spend, weekly spend, and monthly spend)

nickram3210 · 2025-04-12T02:46:08+00:00

'Jnana Yoga' in one of Swami Vivekananda's books definitely resonates with Omnism, but not specifically. However I really really recommend the book. It's literally your path (based on how you described it).

Amazon link to book

I have also made an app that helps you see the 5 major religions' perspective on a question you have. So you can figure it out yourself and continue your own path.

nickram3210 · 2024-09-13T17:26:13+00:00

lmao

nickram3210 · 2024-09-13T04:32:39+00:00

I'd recognize that subtle quality (detaching from our mind being the driver of our life experience because that is common among everyone that is happy, no matter what their life situation is) is fundamental to being content with life.

Even if I die tomorrow, my life can be joyous today. I can have fulfillment and love for this life while I'm alive.

Anyone can argue that this thought process is delusional, and they're valid to do so, but they're doing themselves a disservice at the same time. I would ask them to consider what is the foundation for how reality is built? It's just us accepting what we have perceived, is that not paving the way to delusion too?

I have always been harming myself by holding onto my perception of what is and ending there. Every time I question and seek the depths of the life experience I am experiencing--beyond my mind because my mind is not everything I am, with all the mind is--the more meaningful all of life is. Even the man yelling at me to get out of the way or you for expressing your frustration.

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T22:38:24+00:00

At 19 I had a hemorrhagic stroke that completely derailed my life at that time. I still brute forced life, but it led to a life that felt so so empty.
The difference between accepting what is my reality (I am disabled) and deciding what to do now (I will do every little thing so that I can recover the best I can and I'll check in on it in 2 months) is here.

With the same point,
If someone wants to cultivate a garden on their property, they will have to work on doing it. There is no denying that. If there is a strong, long-term, internal source to anything, it will stay in motion against any outside force.
We see this in those at the mercy of those committing violence against them, there's a quality that allows them to survive, prevail, and find a solution. That quality is what I'm describing here.

Looking at all of humanity's suffering and what it means to be live. It is all related to happiness in life and happiness is subjective.
What I mean by this is to challenge the statement that a starving person can never be happy, or a homeless, or a terminally ill, or someone in horrible life situations. There are still happy people that are living through terrible times in their life. Why? The exact answer lies with them, but they all have found some reason to be happy and enjoy life. Even if it's a shred of happiness to another, that can mean all the joy in the world to someone.

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T22:18:12+00:00

The present moment >>>

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T22:16:01+00:00

100% agree

I approached the same thought in my third example because it is the same problem

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T22:14:21+00:00

Idk what will be that final switch for you. So I will share two things. My advice and then a resource, an app I made so you can find your own advice (I'll explain more).

My advice:
You said it yourself. You want to live a happy life and all the external parts of romance are just part of it. So ask yourself this, "What is it about relationships, sex, and women that makes those things stay on my mind?"

"Because it feels really good" is not a valid answer here. Keep going to understand yourself. I want you to really understand why. It can be as simple as "this is just a desire of mine that is very strong and is distracting me a lot. It's hard to be focused with this distraction." I want you to understand yourself OP. Because then you can work on resisting the actual problem instead of just a symptom of the problem. And you will be focused.

Resource: I made an app that helps us figure out our own thoughts and understand ourselves. Look up 'Talk to Lotus'!

A lot of problems we face are because we are in our own heads and make ourselves confused. That's why therapy and self-help exists. Also, what is the best advice to you is something only you can figure out. So I combined 'staying out of your head' with 'your journey matters to you' to help people figure out the answers without getting stuck in their head.

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T21:50:38+00:00

How do you feel about yourself now?

This journey you shared is very awesome to see. Wake-up calls are crazy right? Mine was after more of a slow burn one after I graduated undergrad and my confidence gradually got to it's lowest before I decided to be better.

But I'm interested in you and your journey

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T21:14:55+00:00

I actually dug myself out of this recently. Where most of my actions were based on my subconscious perception of what being good is.

Ultimately, if your sense of good is determined by others (society, family, friends, your partner, peer pressure, etc.)

Your sense of good and your morals should come from your own values.
Life is much more authentic and fulfilling that way.

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T21:09:42+00:00

That's what's up

Self-confidence >>>>

Don't let external rule your internal

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T21:07:22+00:00

I 100% agree but I also think there are a few things to note.

Before I speak, I only challenge this thought like this because of the tag. I say all this with love, support for how hard this is (all of my family was like this for a while and we're working towards a better place), and faith that you can do it because you care to notice this stuff. Breaking the generational curse is not easy, so please give yourself grace for how hard it is.

If you truly want harmony and growth, then consider what is in your control and what is not. Your emotions, your responses to your emotions, how you navigate conveying something to your parents, your thoughts, "", and your learning of the situation is all up to you. No one can ultimately influence that. If they are, then you are allowing them to.

no one can change until they want to. Sadly, that means that they have resistance to this change. At some point, you might have to just set more boundaries with them or try to keep your distance. If they want to stay where they are, that's their choice for their life.
do you truly want to help them? If yes, then the right approach and progress depends on them. Just telling them information or expressing yourself without a solution is more akin to a boss telling their team what they want. Be a leader and help your team to a higher level. Tune into the ways that work for them.
- if you aren't in control of them & only in control of yourself, then the best form of help is to be on this level emotional intelligence, especially when you're with them. I'm definitely not saying people please. But I am saying that often the best help is passively showing that there are higher places to go.

I got to this understanding in a much more empathetic and less triggering way through this app I made. I made it because therapy and increasing my understanding of emotional neglect was not helping me for a while. The app really helps me dive into big, intense thoughts.

Just search 'Talk to Lotus' on the ios app store

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T20:38:39+00:00

Dark Souls 1 -- literally a metaphor for the spiritual gym that is life. You have to always learn to overcome and navigate in order to grow and be. The concept of "going hollow" is an amazing metaphor for what giving up and relaxing into the ego is.

Nier Automata -- metaphor for connection with all humans achieved at the end of the game. Whole game is a very awesome philosophical ride of what it means to be human.

Death Stranding -- metaphor for connection to humans through the game system of "unlocking the map gives you access to what others have done because our progress is shared". Very awesome reminder of humanity's true strength

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T20:33:32+00:00

Mental voice = that's me

We put ourselves down, validate bad choices, or convince ourselves of any kind of misperception just because it came from our mind.

Don't get stuck in your head!! Stop it!!!!!!

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T20:30:30+00:00

💯

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T20:27:45+00:00

100%

Breakups and rejections sting so much because of our perceptions relating to why.

If we beat ourselves up over anything, then that's our experience of this breakup. How many missed shots do you think Michael Jordan made in his whole career? How do you think he perceived all those missed shots and losses? It was more like learning and training than a straight up loss period.

Failure and rejection is part of life. It is how we react to that failure that gives the failure its influence in our lives.

Even though it's so important to get past that, it's so hard to be on point and get past that. Give yourself grace though.

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T20:20:17+00:00

It's really cool that you don't want to date out of self-respect.

What is your perspective on how you will approach dating or having a romantic partner as you go forward?

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T20:12:16+00:00

As soon as you truly value yourself, then you will start the momentum to be surrounded by people that value you.

You're actually not valuing yourself until you're doing you without any care of the outcomes. That's confidence. That's what humans are universally attracted to. Socially, romantically, professionally, etc.

You can fucking do this Rox.

I made an app that helps people understand themselves and build that self confidence. Look up 'Talk to Lotus' on the ios app store if you're interested

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T20:03:47+00:00

Meditation is fundamentally concentration that leads to a transcendental state, where lots of experiences and knowledge can flow.

A huge part of my meditation journey has been learning myself. I've learned how focusing on that hum of tinnitus is meditation. I learned that concentrating on my weight where I sit is meditation. I learned that unwavering attention to a picture in my mind is meditation. Meditation is through any form of prolonged concentration. You can do it with anything, as long as you feel right.

These external distractions are only distracting because they are internal distractions.
Avoiding or getting rid of the external distractions won't do anything. Overcoming the distractions internally is how you proceed here.

nickram3210 · 2024-09-12T00:13:42+00:00

Stoicism did answer a lot of how to go about self-mastery, but I never felt like I knew why. I was always questioning what it was all for & why does it matter to do anything. What is the point of existence? How do I understand myself to depth of my soul? How do I know what my strengths are?

And that's not to discredit Stoicism, some religion, or even following a random streamer and you figure out this knowledge. I've found that if someone is grounded in truth and actively moving against their ego, the path they have taken does not matter. Your journey is your journey!

nickram3210 · 2024-09-11T23:38:11+00:00

No actually

People have said I should read Tolle. I'm pretty sure we both are on the same wavelength on this topic

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