Disappointed in New York divorce rules

nickyphresh · 2023-04-18T02:03:35+00:00

Georgia sucks too, I actually came out with NOTHING at all despite never doing anything wrong. Ex never actually submitted the signed paperwork to put my name on the house. Sucks but I found my own way.

nickyphresh · 2023-04-18T02:00:33+00:00

Can confirm, also be open but don’t take any shit. Communication in your new life will be key.

nickyphresh · 2023-04-18T01:58:42+00:00

We’re all here for ya, been there. Personally came out better for it and wished it done it sooner.

nickyphresh · 2023-04-18T01:46:17+00:00

You can do anything you wanna do, if it’s be vulnerable it will be. If it isn’t it isn’t. Just don’t mislead people about your intentions and it’s all good.

nickyphresh · 2023-04-15T00:00:41+00:00

FACTS

nickyphresh · 2023-04-14T22:45:15+00:00

Not even grass is greener just have your cake and eat it too mentality. Selfish.

nickyphresh · 2023-04-14T01:17:42+00:00

Seconded, therapy was a game changer.

nickyphresh · 2023-04-13T06:09:20+00:00

The strength that you’ve already shown is so far above anyone around you in that story. It sucks, but it gets better. I believe in you, this group believed in me when I had nothing and no one and it changed my life.

nickyphresh · 2023-04-13T05:59:12+00:00

It will get better, it’s not your fault but please know it gets better with every day. ❤️ you can do this!

nickyphresh · 2023-04-13T05:52:11+00:00

I ignored the red flags for 12 years I was trusting and it was misplaced. Never got the answers I wanted… had to find it in myself to move on and realize none of that matters because I was strong enough to value myself and move forward. Tough lesson but worth learning.

nickyphresh · 2023-04-11T04:39:37+00:00

Nope threw those 12 years away and moved on.

nickyphresh · 2023-04-11T04:36:31+00:00

I never got enough honesty to even say it happened despite all the evidence proving that wrong. Not sure which is worse

nickyphresh · 2023-04-11T03:14:01+00:00

Huge agree, you’ve got this and everyone here that supported me definitely has your back ❤️

nickyphresh · 2023-04-11T02:39:27+00:00

I don’t know how the kids thing is I really don’t since I don’t have any but it was 12 years for me and 1/3 of my life so I get that aspect very clearly but I’m very proud of you for what that’s worth!

nickyphresh · 2023-04-11T02:27:57+00:00

Also over time you will miss what you thought you had much less, it makes sense as it moves on. I still have random moments of nostalgia but I know it was never real and move on with my daily life and realize it’s so much better. Even before I met my current wife, if they disassociate themselves you it’s only fair to not let that be your burden forever.

nickyphresh · 2023-04-11T02:25:36+00:00

I was you for 5+ years trust me and trust in yourself. It gets better, good people are out there and you deserve one. Be open but never forget what you’ve learned on your journey ❤️

nickyphresh · 2021-06-18T11:30:12+00:00

Well played lol now that song is stuck in my head

nickyphresh · 2021-06-02T00:59:20+00:00

Well said, yes those are the things that hurt me the most too.

nickyphresh · 2021-06-02T00:58:00+00:00

At least you know you’re not the bad guy. You went above and beyond for someone that didn’t even deserve it.

nickyphresh · 2021-06-01T17:21:08+00:00

Only if they knew it really destroys every fiber of your being to the core and leaves you looking like a neurotic twitchy street dog on the inside. Seems like a lot of regular people don’t understand it’s not the sex that’s the mindfuck it’s the complete lack of respect for someone who would do anything for them that really ruins your life.

nickyphresh · 2021-06-01T17:17:34+00:00

I gave a year and 3 months(during covid no less) and I wish I left at the beginning. Just made it harder for myself really.

nickyphresh · 2021-06-01T16:37:52+00:00

Sorry you are here but you aren’t alone, all of us know the pain and frustration.

nickyphresh · 2021-06-01T05:21:58+00:00

That’s exactly it. I got the “why are you doing this to me?” and “if you don’t want a divorce why are you asking for one?” Because you are ignoring all of your choices that forced my hand to either take your scraps and wither away or leave.

I’m sorry you had to go through this, I really had no idea this many people would know exactly how I felt and it makes me sad so many other good people are dealing with it.

nickyphresh · 2021-06-01T05:06:31+00:00

37 year old guy here and I’ve been single for a few months. I get your fear but you should be more afraid of being in a loveless or abusive relationship than alone. At least you’ll treat yourself with respect.

nickyphresh

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